His cuffs go on before the cage comes off

Hooray for you!!

I love reading accounts like this from other Keyholders. My experience is much like yours. That base ring is a bugger to put on at first, but practice makes perfect. Now that I have PK pierced, the base ring has been eliminated. So much easier putting the hook through and turning the key on the new device. We have also gotten to the point that I can trust him not to be aggressive, so the restrains are not used all that often anymore.

Progress is a wonderful thing. Enjoy the journey.

Maddie

 

First, so nice to see you back in the Mansion. You were missed.

Second: Wow! Just fantastic to read your update, and well done you. Fantastic progress, and just what we all hope to see. You are getting what YOU want, and he is starting to see the benefits and is willing to progress on your journey.

 

Welcome back, @vanillaswirl, and glad You survived all the stress!

That sounds like a fail-proof method for assuring his compliance. Being "forced" like this is a fun for many subs/bottoms, since it allows us to maintain the image that we didn't really go along with it, but we were coercedin some way. And as long as You are willing to do this work and enjoy it, all power to You. Enjoy!

If You ever get to the time when You want him to own his submission though, he will need to force himself to comply. That's the path my FLR with my Keyholder Wife, @MistressAMA, has gone and ultimately, i have found it more rewarding to willingly submit to Her desires.

Either way, best wishes!

asa

 

Having my legs spread apart, hands immobilized, while Keyholder pulls and pushes her balls though the solid base ring frightens me. That is the reason that once told to lock up. I do it instantly without failure. I’m not in the mind set of letting Keyholder put on the base ring.

 

Hello, @vanillaswirl. It sounds like you have found a procedure which works for both of you. Bravo!

 

Why does the base ring ever have to come off? It's just a cock ring, after all. He should be able to cum with it on, and whether he cums or not there's no need to force it back on over a hard dick. Just smoosh the cage back on the already installed base ring.

Does the base ring need to come off?

 

Sounds like the perfect arrangement to me.
I could only dream for such a situation.

 

Sound like you are both enjoying it and that's what it's supposed to be in the end.
Enjoy.

 

If you wanted to test his resolve or play around with the cuffed until relooked idea, try handcuffs off the bed and order him to put his own device back on. You could start on the bed and have just his leg cuffs attached and then make him put it back on under your watch gaze. Let him know the cuffs don’t come off until the cage goes on. If you don’t want him touching himself at all, make him wear disposable nitrile gloves to put the cage back on. Just another idea for a mind-screw. Have fun and thanks for sharing. It’s strange that part of me wants my wife to see this post and another part really doesn’t.

 

Excellent. Glad it's working out for you both

 

It´s a dream come true for a submissive, when his Lady is totally in control of his unlockings by using cuffs. Keep on, with some practise you will lock him up again under one minute.
Maybe you need an ice-pack before.
Enjoy

 

Wow, so happy we could help and happier that it is working! Great job! Perhaps its plausible deniability, perhaps the added realism of being forced, whatever. It works for us - not just me but my Queen as well, she feels much more empowered by taking control rather than being given it. And not being able to touch myself, even for locking, DOES add to it.

Keep it fun for both but dont be afraid to use your new power, it adds to the psychological cage you now have on him (just pace it of course). Maybe, like @asatype, he will end up submitting voluntarily. In my case I am willingly submissive only for a few hours to a few days free but my Queen is never deterred. Im genuinely bummed when she recatches me, but soon love her even more for her determination.

Enjoy!!!

 

He is a lucky Sub to have such a devious Domme. i too find it encouraging that more Women are using the cage as a way to get what they want. good luck and enjoy.

 

Aww, thank you so much, I'm flattered. Yes, we are both proud and fortunate of the strong, loving, adventurous relationship that has developed and continues to blossom.

I would be willing to bet the two of you will grow a relationship that will satisfy all your desires. Everything indicates you are on the right path to a wonderful life together.

 

Congratulations! I’m so happy for you! It’s great to see that you didn’t take no for an answer and took matters into your own hands, no pun intended!

I’m a lot like your boyfriend in that even though I like the idea of being submissive, I won’t do it if I’m not forced and if there aren’t consequences for disobedience. It’s not about not wanting to make you happy, like me, he probably just needs the discipline, like a fitness trainer who forces you to diet and exercise for your own good. I’m curious as to what type of device you’re using and how you’re ensuring that he isn’t pulling out and masturbating without your permission? Any plans on getting him pierced? How long do you generally keep him chaste between releases?

 

If I may suggest, for the times you want to try other positions that aren’t possible when he’s tied spread eagle to your bed, you can keep him locked in his chastity device and have him use a strap-on on you. You can even do a combination of both, start with the strap-on, then tie him down to the bed spread eagle, remove his chastity device, and continue with you on top. You’ll probably need to keep some ice handy for when you desire to place him back in his chastity device without granting him an orgasm. I’m also glad to hear that his enthusiasm to pleasure you orally has increased significantly since you locked him up, it’s amazing how enforced chastity does that to a man!

 

Hi Miss Maddie Mae, just curious how well the device works with a piercing, but without the base, at preventing unauthorized erections?

 

My primary use of a chastity device on PK is for orgasm control and denial. Any erections he experiences just adds to his frustration that the occurrence is a wasted attempt at a release. He is pretty much conditioned now that he doesn't achieve erections unless stimulated by me or another female that I allow to engage him. An exception to this is the so called "morning wood" or the visual stimulant during our cuckold adventures. So, unauthorized erections are not really a concern in our relationship.

 

Thank you for the detailed explanation Miss Maddie Mae. I’m glad to hear that the combination of the piercing and device are effective at preventing him from achieving orgasm. As you said, the attempted erection would end in frustration and I would imagine it would not be comfortable either. I immensely respect and admire your knowledge and experience when it comes to the male chastity lifestyle and have learned a lot from you.