We had a nice discussion about FLR and chastity last night over a glass of wine. We've been at it for about two years, and we are still adjusting and figuring things out. We do this about once a month. I fix a nice happy hour snack and pick out a good wine. We discuss what has been working and what hasn't. We also talk about adding new things to our relationship. The conclusion from last night is there will be more discipline in my life. She also said she will be more dominant. She started the new discipline program this morning. A few days ago when asked if we could be done with it all (I was literally out of my mind with sexual frustration), she said, "No, I like it." Last night, during our discussion, I asked if she thought we would ever go back to plain vanilla. She said, "No, I don't think so." Stupidly I made the comment out of fear that I would remain locked in chastity. She said, "Yes, for a very long time." There is that point when you realize, this is your new life. It's no longer a game. I'm still processing this.
Fabulous! My wife doesn't really like to talk about it except when we're playing, or occasionally by email in response to something I might send her, and at those times she's made clear we're not stopping, that she likes me like this, and that she wishes we'd started decades ago. I know I certainly need more discipline in my life too.
Wow. This is wonderful. Thank you for sharing. I’ve had some moments like this myself when I realized it was no longer a game. Not an option. best to you both!
Exciting isn't it! Our relationship has moved in the same direction over the past couple of years. It was a shock of adrenaline to me the first time she told me without any doubt in her voice. "Put your cage on and..." Congrats
I like how you review your situation but it sounds like it is more for information on your part. She is certainly right to tell you how it is going to be, as you both entered this with that understanding. I also feel your fear about always being caged. It is a reality that is sometimes hard to face.
It sucks to be a submissive when the dominant doesn't dominate. I hope she finds many, many rewards in regularly dominating you and changing you into a total loving and obedient slave. It is scary, but you will break on through to a new and enjoyable place.
well She migt want you to be lock up for ever and ever but as well She migt just be tease you and make you a bit worry.
Madam and I also had this conversation many years back, I was concerned she would find the bdsm just a fad, but her reply was that there was no way she could go back to a vanilla lifestyle again.