Don't Expect a Man to Put more “Effort” in to your Relationship than You

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    very good point well made mistress jules;

    it should be noted that when a man is feeling horny from chastity, it is very different to when he is horny from pornography... a chaste male is much more respectful to women, they understand what they are missing, and can feel a natural respect towards females.

    Pornography does not allow for such feelings!
     
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    Excellent point! We've always been taught that to keep a man civil, you must keep him sexually satisfied. Turns out that this is not true. Ironically, the more lust a man feels, coupled with known consequences for misbehavior, the more well behaved and respectful to women he becomes. This is what I have consistently observed and experienced. When a man is used to masturbating to porn anytime he chooses, he objectifies any woman he sees as merely a masturbatory fantasy and renders any lust he feels towards that woman null via masturbation, thus losing any interest in her. Male chastity forces men to deal with those feelings of lust while interacting with women, they get to experience the full effect of nature and how it impacts their behavior and tone with women. This is why men in chastity appreciate and admire every detail of a woman. It's really quite profound.
     
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    I think it won't be long until men are relegated to their own devices, there are many women who are now fed up with the constant objectification. Chastity sounds great at first, then you find out the guys want teased and to play other sexual games, not exactly what we females had in mind I don't think.
     
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    Hole in one.

    Why else do they need constrained?
     
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    That's exactly where I found myself for the first few years.
    However, if you choose to be involved in the sex industry and frequent those BDSM clubs then you can't really expect to find anything else.
     
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    Absolutely and it has been invaluable to give me the reality of so many kinks and fetishes rather than the fantasy seen so often online.

    As I mentioned in a previous thread, meeting people at clubs and being able to help them on their chastity journey is a great thing. So many believe what they see online without knowing the realities, it's so great to be able to spread the word personally.
     
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    From the OP
    Mascara^Snake has made a very vaild point. Men can be taught to communicate and express love the way women might. And this may well be appreciated by many women, perhaps all from time to time. But is not also true that there are many men who do respect love and cherish their partners and are comfortable with the fact that they show their partners those things in other ways and perhaps women who perhaps rightly would like or want men to communicate and express love the way women might should also learn to recognise when they are being shown all those things the way that some men might or do.

    I would also point out that as women are on the whole more likely to be the main carer of any boy that perhaps they should try to instil those qualities they desire in the boys in their keeping. One also has to bear in mind that to some people not just men is some parts of some cultures a man communicating and expressing love the way women might would be considered effeminate, even a weakness, and thereby be subject to disrespect and even ridicule from his peers .. that is a matter that may also need to be addressed.

    Developing the ways of addressing the skills of men and women when it comes to two way communication and expressing love in ways that mutually address the needs of both without detracting from either perhaps ought to be our common goal.
     
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