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Don't Expect a Man to Put more “Effort” in to your Relationship than You

Discussion in 'Female led relationships' started by Mascara^Snake, Oct 2, 2017.

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    @Mascara^Snake@Mascara^Snake , while I agree chastity can motivate us men to do more things to please our wives I was never one for TV, sports(unless its my kids games) or golf for gods sake. I despise that sport if you can call it that.
     
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    by the way, I’m not saying Men don’t put EFFORT in, I’m saying, men may not put effort in to a relationship the way YOU want him to. That can take a man time to learn and him being locked makes changing his behaviours easier.
     
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    some examples please...... I only ask because sometimes its extremely hard for me to understand what my wife wants especially when she doesn't communicate it to me. For example, it took me years to realize how happy she gets when she comes home to a clean kitchen, dishes washed.
     
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    a lot of men sits down and eats a lot and that's why they has big fat tummys. :)
     
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    C'mon less of the body shaming please. We're not all skinny.
     
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    i not mean to upset any man that's got a fat tummy but if you don't sit down a lot after you has eat its better for you. If i has upset somebody i'm sorry. :(
     
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    It's ok Jemima. It just might make some people feel bad about themselves that's all. :)
     
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    Is this a bad place to say the Scotland match is about to start. :D
     
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    Something else that might be good for men to understand.
     
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    Very much agree with this. You can't align yourself with macho thinking if your penis is redundant and your head spends a lot of time between a woman's thighs. You learn to appreciate the female orgasm and enjoy it as your own. Interactions with other women are stripped of a sexual angle and perhaps more relaxed as a result.

    Lots of other interesting discussion here. Our daughter has consistently educated me on the effects of the patriarchal society and oppression of women in many parts of the world. It is such a massive topic I wouldn't know where to start.
     
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    If someone isn’t collecting these for a Yogi Berra type collection in book form, someone really should be :)


    @ineverknew@ineverknew - there are two types of men in this word (only two!), those who golf, and those who don’t. As an aside in defense of the SPORT - in an average round I walk 10 miles, sweat a bucket, and am forced to focus, stay calm and cool, AND put the friggin cell phone away for a few hours. Cathartic and competitive. Good stuff. Just sayin.

    I suppose there’s also those rounds where I rent a cart and drink a six pack. But those rounds are less conducive to my contention that it’s a proper sport, ha!
     
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    @Thatguyontheinternet@Thatguyontheinternet , well to be fair my introduction to golf was from two high school friends. All they did was get drunk and throw clubs when things went wrong. Maybe if I had had some proper training things might have turned out differently. I do love competition and a challenge. I would later find my true calling.....call of duty lol. Wiping the floor with little disrespectful 10 year olds was much more rewarding for me. I don't play much anymore but it was a great stress reducer.
     
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    Worthy of a thread to itself (still reading the thread) ... Imagine guys being pierced, and the mother responsible for the wearing of a device. Can you imagine then the girlfriend (or BF if gay) requesting the key for a date from the mother :)
     
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    I think a good ice hockey game is quality entertainment...................just saying
     
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    Wow, having been on the road I missed a lot. This thread really got people going and it wasn't even about getting more women on CM or getting rid of the men that scare them away. Guess I'll chime in with a few new thoughts of my own.

    First off I still disagree with any generalization such as the one that started this thread. For example the U.S. population has historically been criticized for only learning the English language. You know the old joke, what do you call someone who speaks one language? American. However my niece speaks three and is American. The stereotype while having some basis in fact is just that a stereotype and those are rarely good. Unfortunately for many generations white men were the keepers of all stereotypes and now we are getting our comeuppance. It is both frustrating and revealing to me to be on the receiving end of this negative way of thinking.

    Secondly I hope neither @Mascara^Snake@Mascara^Snake or @David.2k@David.2k live near any hornets nest, cause you can't stop yourself from poking them. Although I really only hope one of you gets stung.

    Thirdly @Jasmic68@Jasmic68 as usual I love your contribution and well thought out responses, however I would discourage you from arguing with the village idiot. It just makes you both look bad and eventually you get dragged down to their level, cause they can never raise themselves to yours.

    Finally I totally disagree with the negative comments on sports. Professional sports is entertainment. No different from a movie or a TV show. I have found that when I sit down to watch a TV show or a movie I can predict most of the story arch and the conclusion relatively quickly. I can still be entertained if the acting is good or the story is enthralling, but I'm rarely surprised. Sports (at least the ones I like to watch) provide major unpredictability and the great contests can include quite a bit of drama. There are even interesting subplots within each story. Ultimately the best sport to watch though is one in which your child is participating, because they are one of the actors and it's fun to see that.
     
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    Men overwhelmingly voted for Donald Trump -- EX. A. on how they can't see others' point of view: women, minorities, immigrants, muslims, etc. I've been banging my head against this wall since the election. EX. B. The voted for a man who is on his 3rd marriage and sexually assaulted other women while believing false propaganda about Hillary Clinton.
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    I keep waiting for him to take it too far. The tipping point where everyone must take some sort of action...and I can’t blame him...he’s been doing his part, there just doesn’t seem to be a tipping point for the people though.

    Didn’t you just love his counter point against the female running against him in the primary debate? “You’re ugly”...the eloquence, the class, and really shows how he will honor and respect the office of commander in chief.
     
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    You're all obsessed with that stupid man. You would be better off ignoring him completely. All of you.
    And he has no place in my thread btw!
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    It did go off on a tangent there sorry ;)
     
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    I agree, politics has no place in this thread especially when its filled with assumptions and stereotypes.
     
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    This absolutely true! When chaste, a man will notice, appreciate, and admire all the beauty women possess and the work they put into the fashion, hair, makeup that would otherwise either be ignored. When a man cannot extinguish his lust by sex or masturbation, he has no choice but to allow that lust to impact his interactions with females in positive ways, forcing him to take notice and appreciate every woman he encounters.
     
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    Honestly, with all the sexual harassment in the news lately, I think you're right and it would be a very positive change. It's great that there are women like you to help promote this lifestyle to other women.
     
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    In some ways it would be a positive change but we would end up with all the guys being horny all the time and thinking that everything is about their penis. Oh wait, we have that already now that everyone has easy access to porn lol
     
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    I think Mistress Jules is correct. Although it may seem a good idea initially, it may ultimately make men more obsessed with their penises. Being horny all the time is a great example, pestering their female partners constantly about “when they might be released”.
    Every action would ultimately I fear, directly return attention to their penis.
     
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    Well said Mistress Jules
     
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