Decided to quit chastity

This weekend my wife and I were casually discussing my cage and that I had developed Peyronie’s disease I think back in 2016. If you don’t know what that is it’s when you develop a fibrous scar tissue inside your penis and it constricts the penile tubes that fill with fluid to make you hard, it essentially shrinks you, gives you a bad curve, is painful and/or all of the above. The severe curvature could require surgery to correct if it gets bad enough. There are a couple of causes for this: One is from repeated injury during sex or physical activity. The second is from (or so I thought) is hereditary, it can run in the family and also manifest itself in what’s called Dupuytrens contracture. I learned a while ago that my father also has Dupuytrens as well as having a lump in his genitalia. He initially thought it was a tumor but turned out to be this fibrous tissue. So with this knowledge I convinced myself it was probably just hereditary and not the cage’s fault and I continued to wear various devices up until yesterday.

Thinking back to 2016 I had a device call the pepper mill. It was short but wide and very heavy. The cage stopped my erections from going forward and my penis expanded outward and things honestly got pretty painful sometimes when I was hard. That device was short lived as I moved on to something lighter, more comfortable and better fitted. I think that was the cage that caused my Peyronies. Luckily for me my peyronies stopped developing after a year and nothing else seems to have changed. Although I do feel smaller which I’m sure I am do to the peyronies I also don’t thing my cage was helping that either. My wife was looking at peyronies articles online a couple of days ago and what she researched said that it’s possible it is passed down but now the Urologist community isn’t sure that’s the reason it develops and are sticking more to injury being a more likely cause. So now I’m thinking it wasn’t a guarantee that I was going to develop peyronies but I am more susceptible to it since Dupuytrens does run in my bloodline. I was reckless and wanted to wear the cage so bad I wasn’t being smart about my physical health.

Pretty much every other cage I’ve had since then was nearly perfectly fitted to my flaccid anatomy. My erections were more stifled and I didn’t get as hard but I was also taking longer to get hard once I was out of the cage and would need continued stimulation to stay hard sometimes. At times when I’d be taking a break from the cage for extended periods I noticed my nighttime erections were coming back and I was able to get hard like before. Then I started wearing the cage again and my erections weren’t as strong and taking me longer to get hard. This started to cause me some distress when my wife wanted PIV as I just never felt I was ready to preform with out more fluffing or prep which I think might be part of the reason we have not been having much of any PIV sex lately.

So after a discussion, my wife and I agreed that I’m not going to wear a cage anymore. This decision has actually lifted a lot of stress off of my shoulders. I think I have been somewhat unhappy with our lifestyle lately, feeling overburdened with not much return as well as my concern about breaking my penis beyond repair. Neither my wife nor I want that to happen. Saying I’m quiting chastity doesn’t mean that all elements of our lifestyle are going away. Obviously my wife doesn’t want me to be masturbating or watching porn but that habit was broken long ago and I don’t intend to return to how I was in my past, I truly had an addiction to break at that point. Many elements of our FLR will stay in place, there are just things we’re now accustomed to after 8 years that we both like and don’t want to change. Generally I think chastity has made me a better man in many ways and I’ll always be grateful for the experience and everything I learned about life in general from this.

Ironically last night (and this was total irony as my wife agreed it should come off) my wife couldn’t find the key anywhere. She was genuinely stressed about it and not playing a game. I ended up taking a pair of pliers to the magic locker and broke the locking tab so it could slide out of the cage. I was surprised at how much force it actually took, they’re built better than I thought. Then I chucked my cage into the trash. I’m going to finish cleaning house when I get home tonight and get rid of a lot more stuff. I’ll be posting my Behind Barz Belt here soon, I tossed a bunch of fetish wear and toys I no we won’t use. It just felt really good to get rid of that shit. I know this sounds weird and I never thought I’d say this but it actually feels kind of good and refreshing knowing we’re going back to a little bit more of a vanilla existence, my mind feels a bit more free and clear.

 

I wouldn’t throw it away, if I absolutely could not sell it I’d give it to someone here for the price of postage. I just posted it for $450 and we’ll see who’s interested. As far as wearing cages anymore I’m done with that. I think any damage I’ve done was done long ago and I hadn’t hurt myself any further because all of my cages and belt have been a proper fit since the notorious pepper mill cage which I think might have been the culprit. The cage just doesn’t hold the same excitement for me like it used too so there’s really no love lost there.

 

I think any damage I did with a cage was with the pepper mill cage I owned in 2016 and wore for around 4 months. It was a bad fit and erections were certainly a lot more uncomfortable in that thing. After that all of my cages were the right fit. They stifled my erections and never allowed them to get painfully uncomfortable. It was only nighttime erections that would sometimes be fairly uncomfortable but nothing like in the pepper mill. I also noticed in general I didn’t/don’t get as hard in the cages anymore but I took that as though I was acclimating to the cage and getting used to it. It seemed like the longer I was in the cage it was harder for me to get hard and stay hard once I was out of the cage. If I was out of my cage for a couple of days it seemed like the next day if I had an erection it would automatically be stronger and harder than the day before. So perhaps that part of it was normal with chastity as I’ve read about other guys going through that especially after spending considerable time in chastity. Also I need to take into consideration that I’m 8 years older than when we started this adventure and I haven’t done much in the way of really trying to be healthy as far as working out and eating healthy other than for a few months at a time here and there over the years when I start to feel guilty. Last November/December I was out of my cage and testing out some testosterone pills (because I had intended to start working out) I was eating better, taking these pills and more active. My erections were strong like when I was in my 20’s, the only difference because of my peyronies is I’m not quite as long and not as thick at the end of my shaft. Some people have it way worse so I consider myself lucky.

In the end, I believe most of what I think is wrong can be corrected through healthy eating and exercise. As far as losing a bit of length and girth because of they peyronies and 8 years of chastity, I might try a penis pump to help stretch things out, I imagine the efforts will be futile but worth a shot anyway. It’s not like it’s small, it’s just not as big as it used to be. Chastity has kind of lost its luster for me for many reasons so I really don’t feel sad about not wearing a cage moving forward. In the past the thought of that really would’ve bothered me but I don’t care now, it’s just become a daily inconvenience that gives me anxiety. Weird how your mindset changes over time.

 

Thanks,
The honor system is the plan, we started chastity as a way to help curb a bad masturbating habit as well as porn watching. For that matter it has helped and done its job and I no longer feel the urges to behave how I previously behaved. Just being more conscious of it and realizing what I was doing making myself less attentive to my wife is good enough motivation to not fall into the same trap. But honestly, it just feels good to be free and not wearing a cage.