Control in permanent chastity

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    If you're in permanent chastity, the threat of extending your lockup is mute since you already know you're not getting a release.
    I wonder what alternative methods KHs use to keep their sub/slave in line and control their behaviour.

    I often hear folks saying that permanence removes the drive to learn and please. Personally, in my case, I think the threat, for example, of a good caning would do the job very well!

    I wonder what sanctions others have in this circumstance??
     
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    Why do you think that the possibility of release would be the only way to control a chaste partner?

    There are other methods in play here.
     
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    "I wonder what alternative methods KHs use to keep their sub/slave in line and control their behaviour."

    I think that states that I think the opposite actually. I've even given an example! It's those examples I'm looking for if you read the post correctly.
     
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    Chastity is a given in my relationship anyway and we have an agreement of minimum yearly releases. That of course doesn't mean my wife/kh can't add or take away more.

    We also have regular play sessions, these are up for removal as punishment if she wishes.

    I think ultimately to answer the questions as with most things I guess it depends on the dynamics of your relationship.

    I can only speak for myself but my KH knows how to get in my mind and what grinds my gears and can use that for punishment to her advantage and if she wishes.
     
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    That's what I'm looking for. Her alternative sanctions. Removal of play sessions is a great example. Thanks.
     
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    If you can't manipulate somebody into being your friend, hit them. Right.
     
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    Excuse me?
     
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    If you have to dangle a carrot in front of somebody to get them to please you, they don't actually like you and probably never did; they just wanted the carrot (i.e. release). The KH has nothing left to offer and becomes as useless as their sub's caged penis.

    Hit them.
     
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    There is beside chastity nothing that keeps me more in line and controlls my behavior more than forced feminization. And I realy mean FORCED feminization. I never had something to do with female clothing / acting even though I wasn’t a realy macho / alpha male…

    But my wife started here feminization regime on me from the early days of our relationship and belive me or not - it is hard not to follow everything and stand up against your wife when „your penis“ is in a small cage which is covered by cute panties with a little bow and a matching bralette on your brests, covered with a floowered dress…

    this keeps me permanently on my toes in our home and I still feel ashamed if we have guests after all this time…
     
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    "Continue adding polka dots and floral patterns until unwanted behavior ceases. Repeat as needed."
     
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    Unfortunately there are no one size fits all in any relationships.

    My KH has many things she likes to see me do which I am not so keen on and can and are used for punishment. Ultimately I do them out of my love and respect. Certainly nothing wrong with pushing boundaries either way.

    I guess this is where the agreement of limits comes in. Hopefully everyone is in a relationship where they can discuss consent, wants, needs and desires openly.
     
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    My wife has never used length of chastity as a means of punishment. Her theory is that it’s hers, and if she wants to unlock it or have sex then that’s what will happen and not keen on the calendar holding her keys. Although she has threatened a few times like “keep that up and you won’t get unlocked for a year or two!”. It was mostly fun, but it wasn’t exactly out of her wheelhouse to actually do that, and I didn’t push her into enforcing it. For the most part, she unlocks me as a treat for me, not a physical need for her. So she could definitely go through with it if she felt upset.

    We did domestic discipline for a bit, was humbling and not surprisingly, it does work. Of course I agreed that I would submit to that, nothing non consensual. I haven’t had a paddling in quite some time now, now she just mentions that I am cruising for the paddle and I laughingly stop the naughty behavior.

    The biggest deterrent she has been n her arsenal is the big quit. She could always threaten to go back to normal, but I suspect that has lost some teeth since I doubt she would give up me being locked without a fight lol!
     
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    I actually can't wait for that moment that my Mistress decides to permanently seal my cage. She currently keeps her keys in a safe deposit box in a bank...but the thought of that complete devotion and commitment to her wants and needs by her deciding to JB weld our device is just something that I hope happens! I dream of a day where she ties me up, blindfolds me, gags me and without even saying a word or telling, she just seals both of the screws. I want to please her more than anything so it's not about a threat of lockup or a carrot to motivate me, her pleasure and happiness is what motivates me!
     
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    That carrot and stick approach is how very many chastity based relationships work - loving one's.
    Fact.
    I won't continue this conversation as you're sticking to that narrow view and this wasn't the purpose of my post.
     
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    You do them out of 'love and respect'.
    Absolutely. This is a common thread in FLRs. Thank you!
     
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    My chastity is permanent, or at least there is absolutely no plan to unlock me. I obey her and serve her because I want to and, I do get punished if I don't. She keeps me hyper-feminized (sissy) as much as possible and diapered. I am submissive by nature though so I would tend to obey anyway. Most of the time.
     
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    Mine too. A good sub always does their best to be good but it's human nature to make mistakes sometimes.
    Hopefully your Owners corrections make you a better sissy.
     
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    She can tease you in all sorts of ways, and make you available to do her bidding. Do not underestimate the power of a woman to entice when you do not have a way to relieve the tension which builds up.

    Think of foreplay without any release. Repeat again and again.
     
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    Am I the only person who does not wanna be teased or edged constantly?
     
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    I did not me constantly, I meant as appropriate for the situation at hand.
     
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    If you have my keys, just be grateful and appreciative that I picked you. Be a gentleman.
     
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    Me. Its torture!!
     
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    I was first locked in Chastity in 2013, it started out as days, then weeks, then eventually months. Enjoying the power she wields she has slowly but surely made me recognise that my purpose is purely to serve. In the early days of this dynamic, she would make me her financial slave then eventually put me into full domestic servitude, handling 99% of the cooking and cleaning.

    Since beginning to read the works of Ingrid Bellamere earlier this year, she has been further emphasizing the dynamic between us which has included the introduction of permanent to mean permanent chastity. I was last let out at all about 5 months ago.

    As the months have gone by, all I can report really is that I continue to feel more and more submissive to her, even in my sleep. If I stir and wake up in the night, I wake with my head by her feet and immediately start kissing and rubbing them as previously requested.

    It is an honour that she has made the decision that she wants me to dedicate my entire existence to her, thinking of her every minute of the day. The carrot has become the act of serving itself now and I feel incomplete if I have not achieved what she desires each passing day.

    So I guess for some people, like myself for example as desperate as I am to make love to her, I now find fulfilment from the servitude itself. It is a treat to be in her presence, grovelling at her feet awaiting orders.

    Since sticks were mentioned, they are technically there too, but not never needed to be used. She has stated she wants this forever and has photo proof that we are in a Mistress Slave relationship and has attained prior consent to tell others if I attempt to end what I agreed with her, something she knows I would be deeply embarrassed by. Further to this, if I ever start slacking she said she would make me a cuck, something I would strongly prefer not to happen, but I know its within the agreed rights my Mistress has.

    All I can say is permanent chastity seems to have made me more submissive, rather than the other way around and I am grateful for that.
     
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    This is a wonderful addition to the postings. As someone who has been in longer and longer stints of chastity, it now being, like yourself, permanent, I find a real resonation in what you describe. The replacing of orgasms with a simpler need to just serve and serve well. I find that this has been more of a shift in perspective as I've gotten more mature and more deeply understanding of a service orientated outlook. Interesting though that, as I suspected, some kind of sanction exists and consequences of failure are still very real.
    Thank you for the wonderful post.
     
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