Am I too strict?

Personally, i think you are being the textbook example of what many men dream of. Stick to your heart’s desires.

 

this seems to be the unanswerable question for every couple (and then both partners individually); where is the perfect balance between nothing / something / everything?

- 'everything' is now off the table now she is in charge

- I couldn't go on without hope of 'something'

- our own sweet spot is therefore 'exactly as much as she wants' but 'less than I'd like' ... see #1 & repeat indefinitely

 

I voted for both since the option was there, just to be a trouble maker.

No, you are not being too hard on him. His fantasy is probably for you to be meaner.

I would say that keeping him locked and denying him access to you or not teasing him is something I would rebel against, and I would get the cage off somehow.

Without the pleasure of pleasuring my KH and her teasing then I'll break the cage off, and pleasure myself.

 

I think you need to think real hard about wat you both want. There has to be a balance. The way you wrote down the first part makes it seem to me she overstept your limits.

The second part you wrote seems that you love it.
Now I understand chastity and the way it makes you feel at times (desparate) but not being edged or getting any attention in that matter would be a hald limit for me.
And if she does not hold that in consideration, she can forget about any massages or keeping my key for that matter.

 

It’s whatever works for you! To me it doesn’t sound to strict,

 

Nothing? No teasing? No release to even get hard? Hmmm... not sure I could do that.

 

4 Monate sind eine lange Zeit. Wenn es beiden nicht gepasst hätte, wären sie längst zerstritten. Das Sprichwort „Pass auf, was du dir wünschst…“ scheint hier zu gelten

 

Too strict for me, but maybe it's fine for you and yours. You're not my KH so I can't say you're doing anything wrong, only that I wouldn't want that for myself.

 

That depends.

How do the two of you feel about it?

Because while FLR is Female Lead, it's still a Relationship.

A Relationship thrives and grows based upon communication between the two.

The two of you are the only ones that can decide whether it is too hard, too strict or not strict enough.

If what you are doing works for the both of you, and you are BOTH happy then no, She is not being too strict. However, if either of you are having problems with how the Relationship is run then I would say yes, it is too strict.

Just my 2 cents.


Iso.

 

I think you're doing perfectly. A little complaining or testing you now and then is normal. Always be firm with him if he tries to get you to do something you don't feel like.

 

Yes, keep him locked, yes deny him orgasms, but don't forget to keep mentioning that he might get unlocked soon, or maybe even an orgasm if he's been really good. Of course, keep all the promises vague, then it's much easier to keep on denying him as it wasn't specifically promised after any specific time or event.

It's the not knowing when or if a release will happen that keeps the frustration exciting, not the release itself. You can quite happily keep on promising, and finding reasons not to; Just keep the communication flowing and the anticipation high and he'll do anything for you and love you all the more for it.

 

My Wife plays 5D chess with my little head and I can never win.

I'm not allowed to whine or beg. BUT, I can express desire. Sometimes (most times) she's like.. uhh, no. I'm good.

Other times she's like, OK, go get the key, pop some Viagra and let's get it on.

So I know there are times that go by that if I asked, I could get some. I also know that if I asked frequently she would judge it 'begging' and I'm gonna stay locked a lot longer.

So the result is that even considering when to ask for a release gets to be this production where I try to make sure she's in the best mindset possible, I've been the bestest best boy possible, and I think I've passed whatever the magical time frame is she's decided upon, to get the best chance of success.

This chastity lifestyle hands so much control to the Wife I'm not surprised once a woman catches on to it she keeps her man locked perpetually.

 

If only they knew

 

It's all about perspective, personally yes I think it's too strict, but if it works for both of you then have at it

 

It sounds like a dream relationship to me. You are really lucky she is prepared to lock you up for extended periods. You are really small, so being locked away is probably the best for you anyway. There are men who go for years being locked so hopefully she will stick to the plan and keep you locked permanently. What you have is a fantasy turned into reality. Now you need to accept it as your normal. I wish I had a KH who would lock me up permanently.

 

I think she is being perfect and giving you exactly what you want and need

 

You are a Lucky man!