Does a chaste and obedient submissive servant deserve a treat from his key holder on his 30th consecutive orgasm free day? I will read these response to make your argument to my kh.
Deserve? Probably. If it makes her happy by giving you a treat then yes. If she doesn't feel like it then no. Our way of chastity is more driven by her lust and desires. I could be perfect and do everything right, but if she doesn't want me to orgasm, it would not happen. Would never happen just cause I was good. I'm supposed to be good.
No treat unless you count a plug she has me put in before bed. That does make for a nice morning usually as it has a handle she can easily hold onto and play with me.
My pet gets treats rather frequently for good behavior (or just when I feel like it), but those treats never come in the form of an orgasm.
Depends on how you define a treat. At one time a "treat" and orgasm were synonymous and there were rewards at times for favorable behavior. Over time that changed. The "if this..." "then that..." can be effective as a motivational tool for a time (or maybe all the time.) It depends on the couple. For me it was being able to keep hopes and expectations in their right place which initially was a lot easier said than done. There are still hints of a treat or reward but if they're delayed or just don't happen I'm finding myself I more often sink back into trying to figure out why I "disappointed" or didn't quite meet her expectations. Sometimes leads to a conversation about where we are, other times makes me work harder. We don't always hit that magical point where she's the mirror and my happiness is a reflection of hers. But we're getting there.
How often do we need a treat ? That’s a good question and what should that treat be? I like what @simplysub says about a treat being an orgasm, but that was a different time in our life, now orgasms for me a few and far between. Everyone no matter what kind of relationship their in needs something from time to time to give them that feeling that their being appreciated. If your getting nothing from your relationship than why are you still involved in it. That being said A simple touch, or a kiss or maybe even those words of I courage to is all you need. A treat can simply be knowing that your Mistress cares about you.
You ask if "a chaste and obedient submissive servant deserves a treat from his key holder on his 30th consecutive orgasm-free day." The number of days has nothing to do with it. If you're deserving, it's because of good behavior, not because of your chastity. So your question can be reformulated as "does a chaste and obedient submissive servant deserve a treat from his key holder"? That depends on your keyholder's standards. If mere obedience is enough, perhaps you do. But be careful: petitioning can be seen as cheeky, impertinent, presumptuous, demanding. Or worse, whiny. Just asking the question could be reason for a "no." Better not to broach the subject! ;-)
its lovley when Mistress is happy i think and being took out is a treat. ooh and getting new knickers as well.
It appears for myself that being allowed an erection was a treat... whether it remains to be so time will tell.
When you haven’t had an unrestricted erection in months just the feeling of having one can be a glorious treat.
So I have learned. The last two were 3 months apart IF there is another I am thinking it will probably not be for 5 months. It is a guesstimate though. I dare say I'll see.... or not.