Question for you, ladies: If you were originally completely vanilla, did enforced male chastity lifestyle make you become kinky? I mean initially you were absolutely not kinky, your man made you discover chastity and finally you became kinky, beyond chastity.
I find it hard to believe that someone who has no kink in them whatsoever would suddenly develop one just because their partner has it. There's got to be something inside to get activated. The problem is, sometimes the genie is out of the bottle and the partner freaks out because it's not the way he'd planned it. Oh well, too late to change your mind now!
My madam was kinky before I met her, and she was the one who introduced chastity to our lifestyle, we were a bdsm/flr couple before chastity.
That is hitting pretty close to home. 1) Having a vanilla partner that loves you and wants to please you in a relationship of equals is a wonderful thing (occasional kink games based on mutual fun and pleasure) 2) Giving your partner control of your orgasms begins to tip the scale 3) Giving your partner control of the bedroom and when things happens builds trust, but also creates freedoms for your partner to explore their own desires and fantasies 4) Scale tips further and suddenly you find yourself no longer in control and focused on your fantasies, but instead learning more about your partner’s fantasies 5) Best of all, you start wanting what your partner wants. You give up a little more control and the cycle keeps spiraling, It can be both wonderful and scary. You no longer know what will happen and, in that way, balance is restored to a relationship again.
This is also pretty close to my relationship. My wife isn't kinky, I am more so. We both were very "early" in our respective sexual discoveries, so we explored things together. I like bondage - a lot - she really doesn't. She somewhat enjoys causing me pain, but not very often, and not *that much*. I'd say she's almost totally vanilla, really. Until I suggested chastity. She indulged me because she loved me and wanted me to be happy. And then found she really enjoyed keeping my dick locked up and keeping me horny and desperate. It took a while to get there, but she has fully dug in. I don't have a say over whether my penis is caged up at all.
This is probably the most concise description I have read yet. This deserves to be quoted frequently.
My partner married young to an abusive jerk who belittled her for 30 years, and had no interest in sex, so she didn't know just what sexual relations could be. I, on the other hand have been into porn my whole adult life, constantly looking for more and more kink, even though I was married to someone who was clearly just going along for my sake. So when my first wife died, and I met my new partner for life she was more vanilla than you can imagine. She had no idea that all these options were out there, but has been enjoying it more and more as we progress. So whether you say it was inside her for 50 years waiting to break out, or our chastity games created the wild one who now owns me, I would say she would definitely answer yes to Capitaine Kapok - discovering chastity has made her kinky.