Hello to all and I hope everyone is having a wonderful holiday season!! My partner and I have been playing with chastity on and off for about 10 yrs but this is the first time I am enthusiastic and super into it!! We are poly and trying to navigate what chastity and poly look like together. Right now we don't have any other partners so I am keeping him caged 98% of the time. I am learning a lot about chastity and how to handle infractions with maintenance and punishments and also being a kind loving and generous keyholder. Eventually I would LOVE to be a keyholder to others as well, but that is for later right now it is about learning and finding what works.
Welcome. I'm currently into our first long term chastity and orgasm denial trial - we (wife and I) agreed to keep me locked for 90 days, and have zero orgasms for that period. My wife could have as many as she desired. We did this to try and move our experience out of roleplay and make both of our roles real to enable us to assess if we wanted to make this a permanent lifestyle and feature of our marriage. I'm currently on day 84 since my last orgasm. My wife's last one was about an hour ago. We've learned a lot about chastity, denial, and submission of control of every aspect of my sex life to my wife during this trial period. I'm happy to share anything we've discovered - We're mono rather than poly like you, but if there's anything you want to know from our experience, just ask.
@QueenBitch What a GREAT way to start the new year! I wish you the best results to all your efforts - and hope you end up with many keys. Methinks you are going about it smartly by putting the horse before the cart (flipping the archaic expression on purpose) - reading about it, adding to your understanding, learning more, etc ... If I may be so bold, may I suggest routinely checking in with your intuition on questions you have? I think you'll find that you latently know the answers to many of your questions. If it feels right in your gut, its probably right on. Definitely keep observing & learning & practicing & adapting - the more tools you have in your toolbelt, the more effective a keyholder you will become. Of course I am on the locked side of the equation so can't speak to the satisfaction a keyholder enjoys - but I can imagine!
Other than the poly part. This is similar to the relationship my wife and I. We tried it a few years ago and she wasn't ready. Now it feels different. We are still learning. I am in Chasity about 50 percent of the time. She don't like sharing so I am okay with that. I feel like it's brought us closer together.
I love the key necklace. When I had a key-holder she had one leather necklace that allowed her to lower the key and hide it under her blouse or raise it so it would show. It was always a turn on for me when we were in a social setting and she would look at me and raise it for all to see.