Too much fantasy

We have pretty much the same rules as Jon Dake, except I'm not required to keep my chest shaved, just pubic (belly button to upper thighs), and while I'd love to get the maintenance spankings going, we have kids around the house and no place that would be noise-proof enough. So spankings are a rarity.

Why for the shaving? It reinforces her authority over my groin. And yes, it does take at least every other day attention, but I shower at least that often, so no problems.

Who wears clothes to bed? My wife, for one. I don't, didn't before, but there was a time when we had the reverse dynamic going and she was my slave. I required her to go to bed naked, but when I was done with her, I'd often let her put something on since she slept better that way. But now she "requires" me to sleep naked as a, I don't know if it's just a lark for her, but she said it, and hasn't retracted the rule, so there it is.

Spankings are fun for me. Wish we could do them more often.

 

1. Chastity. 24/7 when traveling alone. 16/7 at home.
2. I am required to not shave.
3. I sleep naked by choice.
4. Basically no spankings.
5. She likes when I cum.
6. No sissy stuff or cuckolding stuff.

 

I was hoping it would be different here. Tired of guys claiming you cannot orgasm when locked when there are many porn videos showing guys doing it. I will look around some more but I am 71 and learned that most who post online are living a fantasy sex life which is a shame. I lived with two girls and never even visited a sex site because we did every fetish we heard about. There was no reason to post since we were actually living a fetish sex life. Too early to tell for me so I will just look around some more.

 

Where did you have soreness and pain exactly with a CB-6000s? I have been wearing CB cages for years. I am down to a mr stubb[/QUOTE]
@subspider So I went to the doc last week and the doc thinks I have jock itch. The doc gave me an ointment and it seems to be clearing things up. My guess is that I was so focused on making sure my cock was clean inside the cage that I neglected my balls a little - especially my scrotum right under where the cage rests. The ring makes my balls tight and so my balls press fairly tightly against the cage - so it is kind of difficult getting in and cleaning the scrotum where the cage sits. Once I get this cleared up then I’ll go back into the cage a little wiser.

 

I have the same issue with fit and have to pry things open to get in there and clean right between the scrotum and top of the cage. Fortunately, I haven't had the issue you've had because I'm prone to jock itch & athletes foot.

 

I've noticed in life that those most prone to point fingers at others, are often those whose own activities are, at least, somewhat questionable.

Perhaps it's better to applaud those who write truth, and ignore those you consider to be fantasists.

 

Sadly, I agree. Love reading the posts, but I am looking for reality and not made up fantasy. If you find a site that is more suited to real life vs fiction, would love to hear about it.

 

I've had very wide experience in the scene over many decades. I've seen things with my own eyes, heard of things that I've every reason to believe to be true, that these correspondents would consider to be fantasies.

If I did write those stories here, I would needfully have to obscure names, dates, places, the key details that could serve to 'out' those involved. So the sceptics would take them as fantasy because 'fictionalised'.

Demanding that other people tell only literal truth, unless in the fiction group. Then, only within the limited range of what you consider to be real, is never going to work. It just isn't realistic. It is contrary to human nature.

As the song goes,
"Still a man hears what he wants to hear
And disregards the rest"
The Boxer, Simon and Garfunkel.

Just accept people are human. For many reasons, good and bad, they may embroider truth. Just use your bullshit filter, and try to improve its calibration through experience.

 

but perhaps do so quietly so as not to spoil things for others.

 

Maybe have your KH check the KH only forum. It’s not very active but I wish it were. I would love to chat with other KHs

 

Not much activity on that forum, unfortuately.

 

chastityforums.com has much less fantasy. Less posts too. My guess is most of us experiencing it in real life are getting what we need without fantasy, and it's, well, most chastity is about what didn't happen, so what's there to write about?

 

I like reading plausible accounts of hot situations, especially if they give me something new to get excited about after almost 50 years of my own fantasies. Plausibility is key. I don’t want to KNOW that something is true, I want to be able to BELIEVE it is. So for example, it ticks me off if someone writes that they maintain a stress position for two hours that I know from experience would lead to cramp or choking or positional asphyxia or drowning in your own vomit if imposed for more that 15 minutes. But that’s not because I have some weird hangup about truth, just that such stories don’t give me the tingle I’m seeking. Also I think there’s an ethical element because if I were to recommend that someone leave their spouse tied up in a certain way and go shopping, claiming this often happens to me, and then some poor woman comes home from the supermarket to find their husband dead in a pool of vomit, I’d be complicit in involuntary manslaughter. So my request to writers would be to lie well, and lie responsibly.

 

I have had lots of very kinky real life experiences and like to talk about them. When I do, I want the reader to enjoy the story. So I leave out things like “but in the end that relationship broke down, in large part because of my insatiable demands for treatment that my loving partner eventually found to be at best tedious and at worst, morally disgusting”.

 

Also the fantasies that have ruled my life since childhood are characterised by essential elements such as incest and non-consensuality. If these happened in real life the perpetrators would be monsters and deserve incarceration with a whole-life tariff. I am entirely clear on the distinction between what it’s ok to want and what it’s ok to do. What I don’t find either sexy or necessary is people going on about safewords and so on, in a thread that up to that point has been an exciting read. Also the snowflakey obsession with “don’t impose your kink on others” as if someone is going to be traumatised by seeing a woman humiliating a man in public in some entirely legal way.
I think on this site there’s a pretty clear tacit distinction between threads that are technical/informational and those that are simply for titillation. Both have their merits.

 

Over the years I've published many kinky stories, hundreds, certainly. If you count every short story in book-length anthologies of short stories, possibly a thousand or more.

"... lie well, and lie responsibly." resonates.

People don't want to hear too much preaching or safety warning, but if a story fires them up, they may well try to recreate it.

I recall one which involved some kinky goings-on in an entirely imagined, but plausible place on Salisbury Plain, some soldiers on exercise, and a lady who'd strayed onto their war games.

A reader wrote in and say, "The valley is East-West, not North-South! But my girlfriend and I loved reliving it, where we could make love in the place you described, imagining being in full view of the company of soldiers dug into the hillsides, looking on. He'd obviously pored over Ordnance Survey maps to find something real, just like the imaginary place I'd described!

One very kinky young woman wrote a gripping (fictionalised) account of a very nasty, degrading rape and humiliation scene, by a burglar, at knife-point. I wanted to publish it, because it was ultra-hot, but altering it to get too preachy would have utterly spoiled it.

So I just added right at the end: in the morning, as usual, she found a note on the bedside, "same time, next week?" Suggesting it was a negotiated, consensual, if extreme, scene, without spoiling the eroticism and realism of the original fantasy.

It said, in effect, "If you want to be the burglar in a scene like that, if you go looking, you may well may find a woman who wants to play the victim, there's no need to do it to a random stranger."

 

Me too

 

I have pretty much the same shaved area. She likes the look, and when she does give me a BJ, does not like to lay on my hairy lower stomach. Hey., pretty small concession if you ask me.

 

There is no avoiding BS or trolls on any site. A given for the internet. I've had some intense kink experiences in my life, but almost none outside of my marraige. And the ropes that used to be tethered to the corner of our water bed have gone years at a clip without being used . Most of my life it had been very much on again, off again, and mainly bondage, with some flagellation here and there. Did not even get a real chastity device until I was in my 60's. Did not get into any kind of a full time scene with my wife until several years before that. It was glorious, intense, magical even, but even then, life happened, and that stopped again for years. Full stop. All sex too, but at least that was mutual. Only seen our sex life, and chastity return in 2023, so yeah, anyone who posts life is a non stop sex show is likely either a rare duck indeed, or totally full of it.

 

I agree with you about fantasy. I much prefer reading letters or forums like this to visual porn or nudity. There is absolutely no doubt the sexiest part of any person is their mind. And the poster from Portugal said, if you can imagine it, someone has done it. I have always said, and believed, life is stranger than fiction

 

I think you are on to something about the publishers rewriting things submitted to them. I was a big fan of Penthouse Variations. Bought them all, read and reread them, , mail for the femdom and bondage letters. i had one letter published by them, but they changed 3 or 4 things. Not enough that I didn't know it was my letter, but I really wondered "why bother"? None of it ws that out there. Some of it I had done with my wife, some was wishful fantasy, but change it they did none the less.

 

I fully agree with you.
It is possible to have a full orgasm while caged, without touching or direct prostate simulation. See for example my new album:

https://www.chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?gallery/albums/cumming-while-caged.9345/

Too often peopl forget that the major sex organ is not the penis but what sits between the right and left ear and it is that that makes possible our hidden fantasies

 

I hope that’s not the case, we joined here today and hoping for a good mix of people

 

I only joined about a month ago, but I think you did come to the right place. I like it anyway

 

Like anything on the internet take what you read with a grain of salt. In time you’ll figure out who are regulars ans who you can believe and trust ans who you can’t.