If you're asking yourself what the title means, short and sweet it's the end (hopefully) of my woes of having trouble fitting into a device and also the beginning of fixing what I believe is the problem with a recently aquired prince albert. For those of you that haven't seen much of what I post about here on CM but for some reason have started to read this blog, chastity for me has been a struggle to say the least. I would love to have the perfect anatomy to be able to click that lock and have little issues wearing my cage. I would love to have the perfect cage be hand crafted in person, forged around the parts perfectly. I would love to have the perfect key holder relationship. Who wouldn't? If you've thought about any of this, follow my blog as we navigate some questions and answers together. Contribute feedback if you wish, it's warmly welcome. Thanks for taking the time to read this and I look forward to updating daily. As I have not done a blog before, I'm curious to know how far in the journey should I go back? How much past story is important to the future? Comment below.
Where did it start? Was there a defining moment? Did you know all along or did you stumble into it? It's your journal and journey, it can go as far back as you like, or you can give us the cliffs notes of the past to get us caught up.
I use mine, not online, to keep track of feelings, what i tried at certain times, and my progression into chastity and submission. Write what is important to you, and you'll find it helpful. Good luck and enjoy.
Thank you for the kind words! 2018 was when I purchased my first few cages. Knockoff CB and a bird lock. I don't remember exactly why. At that time my sole fetish was diapers, (another entry perhaps).....but like all other toys, they got put in a box in the closet with only a few fair tries to see what it was like to lock myself up. For me, I have a love for anything that gets my endorphins going because it's an easy controllable fix. From someone who has had depression way in the past, natural chemicals in the brain didn't come easy if at all. I know some of you can relate to the fact that staying horny on cloud 9 is better than orgasming. This may be the case for myself. MissyB I think talking about feelings is super important. I've never thought of doing a blog and I'd even consider a journal. I think getting thoughts like this out is healthy. I know first hand what can happen if things get bottled up. Disclaimer; I am no professional. Now let's take sexual feelings that you can't tell your partner, your parents, or your best friend for that matter. Writing it down helps alleviate that.
It's exactly day 7 from getting my PA. I can't even feel it and tell it's there anymore but it's all I think about. I'm working on getting more distractions in my life. A friend of mine suggested chess in addition to us talking about our feelings and keeping each other in check from cheating..... at least for the month of locktober. Even though I'm not caged, I'm trying to refrain from all activity. It's not easy. I haven't looked at porn in a few weeks and I'm sure the wife will want me to take care of her soon in some fashion. I feel like I'm doing everything right by not being overly kink focused with my wife, we had an argument about that in which resulted in her crying. I genuinely believe chastity is the one kink she can get behind and the only one that will actually benefit our marriage. I'm healing up and doing the salt washes every day. I'm still doing all the chores with a positive attitude. But boy do I want to be locked up soo bad. I really do have patience but this stinks. It's a hard feeling to describe. How do you deal with sexual desire at work or school or any other time it cannot be acted on? Do you distract or accept your fate because you are locked? Maybe you keep plotting or fantasize, further pulling your attention away from reality....
I have to throw myself into work, or hobbies, or anything else to get my mind off of it. I will be easier when I finally go back to working in the office instead of at home and no longer have easy access to "other" distractions while at work.
I succumbed to temptation. After I assisted the wife with the wand this weekend, I asked if I could partake. This was my first orgasm with the jewelry in. It wasn't bad. I made sure to take it easy and clean up everything. After experiencing this, it took my mind off wanting to be locked up of course. The piercing became "whatever". I also started playing Xbox again to distract myself. Still very happy I've gone through with it. Listening to others, I've decided to take a step back from jumping the gun on ordering my cage. There seems to be a jewelry shortage. At least in my area. Most likely due to covid. What are your thoughts?
As much as you don't want to hear this, you probably shouldn't think about mixing the PA with a chastity device for at least the first 6 months, or you may suffer a setback. That said, mine healed really fast for "minor abuse" within a few weeks. That said, when I tried it with a chastity device after like 3 months, it kicked up a fuss. Slow and steady wins the race on this one, I regret to report.
Your advice is solid. Im healing up quickly but i definitely don't want any setbacks. Did you finally get fitted with no issues?
Unfortunately, my Lori tube was designed for a standard PA placement. I'm super vascular in the center bottom and my piercer couldn't pierce me there. The bottom hole is off-center. Between the placement, and a few sizing issues, I couldn't use the tube. I did use the PA to secure a CB-3000 on and off for a few years. I just never liked the CB-3000. I would have smell issues with it within 24 hours. I abandoned wearing anything for a few years. I'm restarting now, hoping to work something out. My PA is tough as nails now, though, so I'm hoping it won't be an issue.
A bit over 3 weeks since peirced. My wife and I tried PIV this past weekend. It was 100% for her pleasure. We both took some edibles so I didn't want to be too rough to cause injury. It felt good and she didn't mind it. Maybe the weed talking but between me holding my hand on her mouth to keep her quiet and the wand on her clit her post orgasm comment was " I think you broke me". She gave me permission to use the wand on myself giving me my second orgasm on almost a month. It feels good with no pain at all. I've also been taking a break from porn. I find that this has been like a reset of my hormones.
Thanks. I think so too. The urge to lock up is incredibly strong. This is what keeps people from getting pierced, the heal time. Toughing it out.
Over 3 months since getting peirced, stepped up to 6g tonight. With some help from the wife, she forced the taper in. I'm back to salt soaks and walking funny but I'm glad it's over with. I'm at my target size. Once healed now, I'll order my forever cage.
The stretching site is healing fine or at least I can't feel it. Why? Because my 1/2" long barbell. The ball is literally like a ball gag on the tip of my urethra. Wanting to go in but it can't. Of course this only stimulates me but then irritates me more in a viscous cycle. My 8g was also 1/2" and I didn't have this problem. And my 3/4" is too long as it interacts with my underwear too much, effectively creating the same problem. If anyone has any input I'd love to hear it.
Mark this post as the only time you will ever have the privilege of saying that your “3/4” inch is too long….. Just kidding! Congrats on hitting your target.
The stretching to 6g had virtually no healing time. I can barely feel it now. Just ordered my BA-28 from badassworkroom last night. Hurry up and wait!
It's been a while since I've updated this blog post. Honestly not much to report on. BAW says my cage should be done in 10 days for shipping. Pretty excited about that. For those of you who have decided to read this, I'll leave you with a little joke. Why don't you ever see elephants hiding in the trees? Because they are good at it. Why do elephants paint their balls red? So they can hide in cherry trees. What is the loudest sound in the forest? Giraffes eating cherries! Thank you, I'll see myself out.
Blog update. A lot has happened since December. For one I found a cage and made it work. Secondly, the wife is on board with keeping me locked and taking control of the key and bedroom toys. It's now up to me to prove my worthiness. I'm on day 5 of straight lockup...a personal best for me. Been using the ht nub for a bit over 2 weeks now with only 2 unauthorized orgasms early on. But since last Thursday, I've been good. Making sure to nipple edge only and show better restraint at stopping when I'm supposed to. I still look at porn which I know is a no no in her book. I'm really considering begging for an edging session without release when she gets back from her trip. I think that should be my sex life. Edged, denied and locked. Now to find a good nipple numbing cream Any thoughts or recommendations?