Well, after a number of years with both a husband and a lover, it's now just the 2 of us again. After a short period near the end of our journey, both hub and bf were caged. Hub more reality, bf more play. But the play affect appeared to have quite a profound impact on bf! I never really noticed it with hub, he sort of took to it like a duck to water, but bf almost metamorphosed. Quite strange really. One minute the mighty bull, next the confused almost manic oddball. Anyway, clearly caging has an energy and power that has the ability to bend thinking! So, whether it's play, real or something in between, caging may be quite complicit in all manner of neural wiring. But this I do know... unquestionable devotion holds so much more marvel than sharing 'terms' in our lifestyle choices... for me. @L-u-c-y says it far better than I and with verified status... My way or the highway! Muggles madness
Despite the fantasties of many on this forum, chastity never will work with a lot of men. There has to be a submissive mindset in the first place.
hi @Mandynjack the main thing is that both you and Jack are still totally solid. As you say 'unquestionable devotion'. Good luck.
Life is experimental for me. If i am interested in knowing something, I have to take a few steps down that path. If that path's shoe fits, I'll wear it longer. [its crossing a metaphor & a figure of speech, so no pun intended] Endings are beginnings. You're strong @Mandynjack ... I have no doubt y'all can tackle changes.
Totally agree with this view. it will not work for all. It works amazingly for some. I am one of those.
As you say Lucy says it right “My way or the highway” That way may work for her when she has little if any physical contact with her subs but with a husband that you live with Every day it can be totally different. Chastity and FLR have to be worked out and as you have experienced it’s not always easy or cut and dry. Being locked changes people sometimes for the better and sometimes not. Sadly to say Chastity may not be for everyone. I think sometimes us subs have it a lot easier than the Ladies do. I hope everything works out.
I also totally agree the strongest Chastity cage isn’t plastic, steel or carbon fibre. It’s the submissive mind.
Hi, speaking from personal experience. The initial periods of being first locked is very intense and can be both confusing and unnerving. I was introduced to Chastity many years ago by an Ex Girlfriend - I basically freaked out and pulled away from the situation. But within a short while I was drawn back to it. My point is if you either a KH or the Locked party and haven't experience Chastity before a slow and understanding start with lots of communication usually is the best way forward. Actually being locked is very different to the fantasy. Id be interested to know if the now EX Bf contacts you in a while to try again - thats what I did after I had time to process my feelings and thoughts.