longer term wearers- goals?

We don't do it like that. Being unlocked for us is if she wants sex with her cock. Otherwise I'm permanently locked.

She likes that she doesn't have the pressure of having to return the favour when I do things on her. That can really get her get going. She's slowly learning not to feel guilty about it.

Basically we're a team and I usually do what she says. Hoping to get to the point where I do nearly everything she says.

 

Could try a points system. When you reach so many points (200) you earn the right to be released or an activity for you pleasure (100)
We used to write lots of activities and they be drawn at random.

It helped in unlocking my potential. But as you know now she’s in full control of when I’m unlocked.

This was my task list:

1 point
1 Washing pots, putting away and wiping sides down.
2 Cooking tea
3 Hoovering either down or upstairs.
4 School run
5 Bath and bed routine with kids
6 Going to shop for supplies
7 Fold + Put clothes away
8 Brush the dogs
9 Mop downstairs floors
10 Clean all living room glassware and dust shelves
11 remembering to put the bin out
12 pack ups
13 small walk with dogs (eg park around corner)
14 taking care of prescriptions

2 points
1 clean the bathroom and toilet room
2 dust all bedrooms
3 dust all ceilings in the house
4 decent walk for dogs

3 points
1 ironing pile full basket amount or more
2 long walk with the dogs
3 full weekly shop
4 cutting grass

 

Nope

 

Sometimes when she wants pleasuring, she'll unlock me to tease me about my "limp cock and how it doesn,t satisfy her and thats why it wont be going inside her ever again ", sometimes she'll ruin me sometimes she just leaves me locked, it all depends on how she's feeling.

 

I don't have goals towards unlocking or climaxing. In our dynamic, She decides when i her unlocked and when and how i climax.

I do have a long list of service jobs to do, but the "reward" is avoiding punishments.

But if system like that is hot for you two, go for it!

asa

 

Looks like your in the minority with this one @tinynails0
If you want her to take more of a lead just roll a dice. A month for every number it falls. You won’t unlock yourself for that period.
The only way you can be released sooner is if your KH decides so.

 

I can't imagine using complicated goals and points systems and other machinations like that to determine unlocks and rewards. It seems so antiseptic to me. I would be doing all those things anyway.

I much prefer just being at her mercy and whims. Now, if behind the scenes she is calculating these types of items in order to make those decisions, that's fine - I just don't want to know about it. I like living with the unknown I guess.

 

Agree with you on this. Moving from games and rewards systems to a genuine FLR has really enhanced every aspect of my life.
The games were hard to manage. Tallying up points. Earning rewards when she wasn’t really willing at that moment etc.
However, at the start some reluctant KHs need that little bit of assistance to keep their man locked down, especially for longer periods.
Knowing the chores she wanted doing and finding my own routines to achieve them was beneficial. She saw the benefits and that helped this progress into what it has become.

Once the KH has adopted and is comfortable in the lead role, then there is no longer a need for goals or tasks.

 

No. We don't have the time or energy for such things.

She is developing things to keep the cage on longer, such as; If I ask about release, or complain, then she adds a day. This is new so I am not sure whether this game will last.

 

Shouldn't all long-term goals in an FLR revolve around what's best for your wife/girlfriend, with little to no thought to the sub/locked? depending on the dynamics of the relationship, of course.

For example, all "my" rewards here for good behavior are beneficial/pleasurable to her. I do the dishes, she allows me to kiss her feet, or rub them while we watch tv. I do all the laundry and sweep and swiffer the floors, she allows me to go down on her. I do all the above plus clean the bathroom while she's out for the afternoon getting a manicure and pedicure, I'm allowed to lick her asshole, then give her an orgasm. Shouldn't it all revolve around her?

 

This. She makes the rules. And she is always right. And I am slightly ahead of you ... I do everything that she says.

 

Do you mean she gets 10 orgasms before you get unlock for yours..? Is she dictating this? If it is.. so be it. A woman with flowy juices is just too irresistible.
Single digit orgasms per year is almost like a month each.. go longer if i were you..

 

Hmmm, my goal would be to become a short-term casual user. Unlikely to happen.

 

I'm locked until I stop chewing my nails. Then She will start using her cock again.

 

Totally agree with this. What fun is chastity by algorithm, what next, an excel spreadsheet? The not knowing, constant arousal and simmering anticipation is what makes it so amazing.

 

i bet those nails never tasted to good! The life many on here long for; and all you have to do is chew down on your fingers every week or so in the most seductive manner possible .

 

No goals here...My penis locked in a cage, and that's it. My Wife(KH) controls our sex life. She may have goals, but she has never said anything to me about them.

 

Nope. She says that everyday life is easier if she doesn't have to worry about my dick.

 

the goal is whatever my wife wants, we do agree on the time in the cage and only once was the time frame forced on me. Usually they time is 7 days, 14 days the majority of the year, but we observe Lent and Locktober.

 

No goals. Only her whims.

 

No goals, locked 24/7 until my wife lets me out, normally about every 8 to 12 weeks.

 

We just started a points system. I usually get let out once per week for sex and almost always get to climax, but that is shortly about to stop, golden rule no sulking or cage off permanently. Sometimes mistress "thinks" I am sulking when I am actually not...maybe I was expecting something and my energy level changes...she can detect my slightest mood change...anyways in this case we have decided that she will give me the paddle....if I complain game over.

I have to get to 10000, mistress arbitarilly awards points at random and they are written on a white board. Currently I am stitting on 3000 points. They can be awarded for anything, for being thoughtful, for cooking a nice dinner even for finding a good car parking spot. its taken me 2 weeks to get to 3000 so I probably have another 5 weeks to go. I am permitted to comment if I think something I have done is worthy of points and she will award or not.

We have a container with paper tags, these are "activities" that I chose as a reward. Mistress has vetted them all so there is nothing in there that she wont or really doesnt like, indeed that we have done before.

Most of them involve me giving her oral (which doesnt happen very much in our relationship sad to say), others involve her pegging me, caged or uncaged while using her wand (if its while caged), some of them involve me giving her ....her strap on which is a vixskin dildo while caged. So my goal involves being rewarded with some more kinkier aspects of the lifestyle....because for the most part I am simply locked still she feels like sex.