Will Chastity ever become more "Mainstream"?

Chastity is VERY mainstream in the trans/sissy/dom/sub communities and dating realms. Now everybody is different and I don't want to make broad generalizations here. Being a trans/sissy girl on the prowl for a good man (I can dream, right?) has given me the opportunity to converse with many guys, but few local to Florida.

Some guys don't care one way or the other or see my cage as just a fun toy. For those who do care, things get interesting! I'm still trying to fully wrap my head around this because it's got some layers to it. We're gonna go down a little rabbit hole.

I have learned that when a big tough MAN'S MAN quickly compliments my cage, it's more than flirting; it's fishing, but for what??? He wants to know my deal, if I'm content in my little device, do I just look good in a pair of heels or do they really do suit me. 9/10 he's traditional, assertive, strong, etc. and wants the opposite in a partner. Gender roles. Men do men things. No, I don't drive a truck.

So round and round we go being flirty and joking and talking even through usually miles away. Do we get along and click? Do I watch tons of football? Am I a competitive crazy jerk in a dress? What type of girl does he like? Hobbies, family, pets, work, movies, music blah blah blah. Who is that special somebody?

Usually I have to gently pry this out, but apparently there's a shine of sorts that goes along with staying in chastity. It took awhile to put my finger why, but I suspect it's plain old traditional courtship intertwined with other things as well. The longer you hold my keys, the more serious the relationship gets. Exotic dating strategies

Nicole

P.S. The way wives and mistresses use chastity is something else entirely!

 

That's really interesting, not least because it speaks to two chastity streams. Do you think this will help or hinder chastity bleeding over into the mainstream? And what would that look like?

 

Some horrible group of gold-digging barbie escorts will conspire to lock their wrinkly old man rich boyfriends and charge them to be unlocked for sex until they are no longer rich. Barbie dies horribly. Lifetime will make 17 movies about it including "The Key to Indecency."

 

I think chastity might become more mainstream. Stranger things have happened. In Victorian times, in general, men were dominant and many women wore corsets. Women were not forced to wear corsets, but they were seen as a sign of respectability and strict morals. To say a woman was strait (tight) laced meant she lived by a strict moral code. Since then, the pendulum has swung to gender equality. Maybe it will continue to swing until some people see a male who is willing to wear a chastity device as a true gentleman, willing to give a partner the full respect and control she deserves. For that to happen I think two things will be needed. Firstly further improvements in chastity technology so that any man can purchase a device he can wear continuously without serious risk of injury or discomfort throughout work, exercise, sleeping etc. Secondly it will need women to realise that a relationship can be much more fun for her with a man in a chastity device and that being given the key to a secure device was a sign of love and trust. Aspects which are not brought out in most of the articles in the more mainstream magazines as far as I have seen. Were those things to happen, I expect single men would want to put themselves into chastity then want to let it be known that they were so prepared. If that were commonplace there would be no embarrassment over the device being visible. The key might take on a similar role to an engagement ring. Having got a man’s key, the woman now his keyholder might be only too pleased to show it off. If chastity devices became that commonplace perhaps emergency services would be equipped routinely to remove devices in an emergency. That would largely remove the other problem, the need for an emergency key, which does rather spoil the whole dynamic; the lockee still has to resist temptation and the keyholder is not certain of complete control. It has taken a hundred years to get from corsets to something close to gender equality, so I don’t expect anything to happen quickly.

 

A CB2000 is very hard to come by nowadays. Are there any knock offs, or genuinbe versions being sold anywhere still, for a reasonable price?

 

There is sometimes discussion regarding whether, if a woman wears a functional looking key round her neck it is an indication that she has a man locked in chastity. Most key necklaces have old fashioned style keys, but just a few have padlock style keys with triangular teeth like this https://www.etsy.com/listing/776364...lkey=dbd27a31056a10a5e3cacfe3d468dbb7ebae4d9a . Maybe someone could start a trend along the lines that an unattached woman wearing such key necklace is looking for a man prepared and willing to be locked. Alternatively perhaps having one of these https://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/373594128575 on a keyring or a handbag could indicate the same thing. Conversely a single male could indicate that he is fully practiced and willing to be locked, by the right person, by showing one as a keyring or, if he’s brave enough, on a neck chain.

 

I still have a clear and a pink cb2000 if I remember right

 

I think those key neclaces are much more a symbol für key & heart than for keyholders.

So I would not mix things up. And even considering not valuationg, but much more bemused reactions and questions even from other members of the kink community I doubt very much that castity in the forseeable future will rule the males.

 

My wife wears a key on her anklet but only when we are on vacation. She has been doing this for the past 5 years and we take five to six vacations a year. Not once has anybody looked twice at it or even made a comment.

 

I hope it doesn't become "mainstream". Where would the excitement be if it was normalised? It would become vanilla and vanilla makes me physically impotent, personally. Or at the very least, completely un-interested.

 

That is so awesome MrsBennett that you are open with your families and friends. It must also make you feel less stressed not having to avoid it in conversations with them, having to keep that a secret.
And I agree that's how it will become normalized, like so many things that seemed like they could never happen - until they did.

I've recently found the podcast " Keys and Anklets" have you heard it? The host is a long time bull, Michael C and he does excellent long interviews with people living the Hot Wife and Cuckold lifestyles. Anyone who had negative opinions or were unaware of it would have a much better feeling after listening to one or two of these. You sound like you would be great guests, hearing you talk about opening up to your friends and relatives and how they accepted it would help others take that step, and I'm sure they'd benefit from your experience.

Anyway just wanted to chime in on the "opening up to normalize" point. Hope you get a chance to listen to the podcast.

Here's a link if you're interested -https://www.keysandanklets.com/episodes?offset=1554855128665

 

It cannot gain publicly acknowledged widespread acceptance until it is first visible. (Seriously, the majority of people may not even know its a thing.)

By analogy, there is a "transgender day of visibility" for a reason.