Will Chastity ever become more "Mainstream"?

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    I would not talk about it in the open, that is with people I know, or my real name. It is a fetish, it is exciting to me. But it is embarrassing, humiliating, and degrading if the people you talk about it with don't understand it. My wifes sister and her husband know about my wife and I , and our lifestyle. When we take about it , it is of interest to them, but not funny, They respect our choice .Her mother knows something kinky is going on, but doesn't know exactly what it is.
    There are others in our lifestyle that know and participate. So that removes the embarrassment.
     
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    Just remember everyone,

    Hate Speech, even disguised as an opinion, is still Hate Speech.

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    What does hate speech have to do with this?
    And who is saying hateful things.
     
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    It wasn't all that long ago that being homosexual was absolutely forbidden to speak about and look where we are now. You never know what the future might hold.

    For example, I have seen chastity devices in mainstream TV (Californication), and Femdom relationships in mainstream TV (Billions). Cable yes, but out there for all to see. So you never know what might happen if the media starts treating it as something "normal" people do.
     
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    It is interesting to speculate on how general acceptance would work. Perhaps when couples date, when there is at least a chance the date will end up in bed, one party wears a cage or belt that he has had long enough to know that he can wear it comfortably for long periods. The cage is connected to the internet. During the date they decide that they have a real relationship. He gives her the code to his cage. She takes out her cellphone, connects to his cage, and changes the code so only she can open it. If she drops dead or whatever the party wearing the cage has to go the local ER or fire station, which by then will have the right equipment to take it off. This will all be expected when couples get together and have any expectation of having a lasting connection.
     
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    I always think of mainstream as being not unusual rather than popular. Male chastity was not unusual in Victorian England. It will be again; now that we have entered the era of the female western society. Glad to see it in my lifetime. Privileged to have been an enabler.
     
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    #33 TheMilkybarKid, Apr 25, 2021
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    As others have said, the average man is so wedded to the idea of being able to have a stroke whenever he wants that the idea of chastity becoming mainstream is negligible. But personally, I get off on the deviance aspect of it anyway. I don't want it to be normal. I like the looks I get when I tell people I am into it, it makes me feel ... not degraded that's not the word. Humiliated maybe. Or erotically shamed perhaps.

    There was this one guy (my boss) I worked with, an ex-Navy guy who thought he was a real pervert, always going on about getting rusty trombones from whores (a bj with a finger up the bum) and then going home to his wife. Sometimes he was a bit of a dick tbh but he was a very alpha sort of macho guy. Then I showed him my cage in the loos once at the pub after work and his jaw just hit the floor. He just couldn't fathom why any dude would allow another person to lock up his junk like that. The look of awe he gave me was delicious.

    So who wants it to be mainstream? Not me, that's for sure.
     
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    Chastity devices are, for the most part, sex toys. They fall into the same drawer as handcuffs, paddles, blindfolds, and nipple clamps as being something that people have heard of (or may possibly hear about) in the context of some naughty bdsm play.

    They probably will never become mainstream in the sense that everybody has tried one. But every year the sales go up, and we see one or two articles in various publications mentioning them.

    They really need to show up in a few mainstream porn videos, since that seems to be where people take thiee cue from as to what is fun or acceptable. Even if a CB6000 is in a video just as a form of teasing play, it would go a long way toward making them a more acceptable kinky play toy.
     
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    Views on sex have changed much over the years. I believe there was a time when young women were not allowed to visit with a man without a chaperone. I will site a non-sexual change that could serve to say that chastity could become more openly accepted. Not many years ago, Marijuana possession meant serious prison time. Then as people learned its value for pain control, particularly in cancer cases, it has slowly become legal in many states for medical use. As they then found out that it probably is not as bad as alcohol it is now becoming legal for recreational use.

    I choose this analogy because in a way it is similar to how Missy and I got involved in chastity. Good friends felt it might help us in our dysfunctional sexual incompatibility. It has helped us. Moreover I am slowly learning that sexual fulfillment is more about the intimacy than the actual orgasm. It will probably be many years before couples therapists start using chastity as a tool but who knows. 5 or 10 years down the road?

    Unfortunately, Missy and I will not be the ones to encourage this treatment because we are not as enlightened as we would like to be. Dick and Jane and you members of the Mansion will be the only ones who will ever know our story.
     
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    #36 cagedfellow, Apr 25, 2021
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    I agree. the chastity cage is increasingly becoming a required accessory in bdsm. As if the norm is to wear one while the reverse has become nonsense. I think it's taken for granted that a submissive male must carry the cage.

    If one thinks that there are probably tens of tens of millions of cages sold in the world, if one sees the explosion of the market in the sale of this instrument, there should be, with a rule of three, a clue that it becomes mainstream. Except that...

    For example, the dildo is a toy that has been around for decades. We see it appear in movies or comedy shows to provoke laughter or fun. But no more than that. Because it is the private sphere.

    What tempt me to believe then, the chastity cage is probably going to become a toy that will stay in the partners' box, it is a toy that will stay in the context of the bedroom in most cases.

    Except ... like the rule of three, if the average modern household has more and more chastity cage in their toy bouquet, there is a good chance that the chastity lifestyle will increase proportionally.

    but mainstream? As something as two woman will discuss at lunch about their relationship problem? I have doubts.

    But it's allowed to have the fantasy! to imagine it is very exciting for me.
     
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    Maybe it is that kink, in general, is becoming a lot more mainstream as generations of people are being exposed to new and ever more inventive types of (free) pornography via the internet?

    And then chastity is becoming more visible as part of that, as people increasing attempt to find their own unique 'kink.' Because I am sure that orgasm control has long been a mainstay of D/s relationships - it was just that kink, in general, and thus D/s itself was a lot more hidden before.
     
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    I think what's needed is for the mainstream women's magazines to run some features on chastity devices, both as play, and as a lifestyle.
     
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    I think knowledge of chastity play will get more attention and will become better known about.... a long time before the different aspects of it are understood

    But like femdom, FLRs. female supremacy, feminism BDSM I think they are becoming more in the public domain.

    Mainstream would take another generation or two I think
     
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    A very good point here. Ten to fifteen years ago, chastity was a very distinct (and difficult to find) niche within femdom porn. Now it's almost weird to see anything femdom-related without chastity being involved.
     
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    The question wasn’t mainstream but MORE Mainstream.

    We’ve established it’s become more mainstream and is continuing to do so. That said, I agree in another generation it’ll probably be very mainstream.

    Now if it’ll be a social norm I don’t know.
     
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    I stand corrected. yes more widely known about for sure... and doubtless misunderstood, the majority of us are not wimps or sissies as some consider us all to be, not that there's anything wrong with either it simply is not the majority of us, and that's the kind of thinking that could potentially put a lot of people off experimenting initially.

    Though I do rather see that the future for a growing interest in experimenting with chastity play may well come from the apparently increasing popularity of Female Led Relationships and the interest in femdom which is arising from that as one form of progression.

    It would be interesting to see how it all progresses but I don't envisage anything other than slow developments.
     
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    I wonder if the gay community will lead the way?
     
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    What’s that suppose to mean?

    As a bisexual male I am familiar with kink in the “gay community”. First many gay people are just normal folks. Second use of male chastity in the “gay community” is similar to that of the “straight” community in that it’s becoming more and more common by those who practice BDSM..
     
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    My possibly erroneous impression from places like the Locked Men forum is that the some sections of the gay community are more open to random kink in their hook up spaces than the vanilla one, and that discovering a partner is wearing a chastity device would not be a deal breaker in the same way.
     
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    Well I have the opposite idea:

    The more in vanilla relationships women are in charge and they are bosses, prime ministers, church leaders, ... the less a FLR or a keyholder/lockedguy is a kink, a sexy twist of the real world.
    So I expect that the interest in men for chastity belts go down the more women are dominant in real life.
     
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    Makes sense.
     
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    It does get discussed in magazines aimed at both men and women, such as Men's Health, Women's Health and Cosmopolitan.
     
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    I wonder if chastity will become a thing common among AMAB non-binary people?
     
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    I think if women in general understood it, it would be a bigger thing. But the issue is that women associate it as one of the ways men have oppressed them unreasonably historically.

    A lot of them see it as more damage than good. In helping teach my Goddess, I frequently push the idea at her, the men have treated women poorly for fear of their control. In my case, I am transitioning at the same time, so it is part of having her show me how it feels to feel injustice, or unfairness, in the same way as women have. I can immerse in the feelings as a female, and enjoy it that way.

    Most have final say sexually in their relationships as it sits minus chastity, and have never had full say in what happens within the dynamic. It's daunting for some of them to take it.

    The porn will never convince them. It has to come from within them, through awareness and education.
     
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