I grew up a sub with a wicked imagination, but not much action. I wasn’t willing to indulge those fantasies! Now that I know my own power, I find my encounters with men unsatisfying. They think they want to serve, but in fact it ends up being all about them. So… I’m thinking about chastity, and how it might help me enforce a better attitude. B
Welcome to the site. As for your problem, chastity might help, but I don't think it is a panacea. One problem is that in my opinion, chastity cannot work long term if it is only about the woman. There needs to be some reciprocation to keep the man motivated. (That reciprocation need not be directly sexual or fetishy) That is probably even more true if the man is not interested in chastity on his own. Good luck and feel free to ask questions. The women in the verified females section can give you their perspective. Us men can give ours though you might have to wade through some level of fantasy bullshit.
Hi. Thanks for your thoughts. The last guy I fooled around with described perfectly an incipient orgasm drop, yet still was fixated on coming, on elaborate orgasm fantasies. I was struck by the contradiction. I’m comfortable with fantasy. I found my way here looking for porn.
Hi and welcome to this website I hope that you find the information that you desire. My own thoughts are that the male chastity device is to control the male in the males mind but a device will not convince the female keyholders that they are the ones in charge. That have to come through time and actions.(Our precived roles in life is to well in grained in our minds) hope this is not a brain fart.
Welcome to CM. As has been said, keeping us blokes in chastity doesn't necessarily force us to be submissive! There are many couples who don't do the whole D/s thing but still use Chastity as part of their sex lives! If you have the right partner you will probably find things evolve over time. But ultimately if people (blokes?) don't want to do things then they won't! Good luck and have fun!
I meant fantasy in the sense that some guys here offer "advice" or say how things should be based not on reality but their fantasies. That's not helpful at all. That's not to say that everything us guys say is that, but take things with a grain of salt.
Welcome to CM hope you find what it is you seek. You say you grew up a sub with a wicked imagation. So do you hope to find your answers here. So please tell me about this wicked imagation and fantasies you have. Are you looking for a male dominant figure to to lock you in chastity and train you. Tell us or me what are your deepest and darkest secrets are maybe we can help you along the way.
Welcome to the mansion! Our quest for orgasms, despite our understanding that the drop in euphoria limits our submission, is confusing I’m sure. We chase. We enjoy the chase, we even revel in achieving our goal. No matter the consequences of that achievement. We are lucky sometimes when we find someone that can keep the carrot far enough away to keep it away, yet close enough we still keep trying. Knowing that occasionally we need to get the carrot, or we stop chasing. We are simple creatures and when hungry for something will keep working, but like anything, needs to be fed occasionally. Good luck here and hope we hear all about you
As a sub of course I was into trying and striving and always falling short. So I can begin to see how the chastized want the orgasm, and the denial.
Like others, I think that the chastity device is only part of the equation. I learned that, when I'm caged, the level of my service to Her is escalated as I try to please Her in hopes of being released. After a while, I found out that my serving Her worked Ok for a while and then She would take things deeper. She always takes things deeper. She has the POWER and I must just submit and await my fate.
So if you are interested in the submissive side and your feeling on this. This is the place to look, explore, and answer questions you may have. Explore it tell us desires the advice is free and some of it may help. But in the end how far you take this the final decision is yours. Good luck on your journey.