What Was Your Motivations For Chastity

Tbh, recovery from bad places in relationship. Originally had brought up chastity as a possible way to fix my repeated reckless behaviours and incidents and eventually she gave it a go and grew to like it more than me. I was just curious but it works.

 

What began as a lingerie fetish in my adolescent years was changed, after my long term vanialla wife caight me wearing panties, into near divorce and a bearing of all of my dirty little secrets. I told Her about my stach of lingerie, how I enjoyed dressing up in private, aswell as my daily maturbation habit. After consulting with a psychologist, she dared me to get a bra fitting (to verify my commitment to CDing) and began to feminize me. That was over 7 years ago. Later, when the masturbation issue became obvious once again, the cage was added and soon therafter, the FLR. I'ts been quite an adjustment for both of us, but now we couldn;t be happier.

 

I wish I could get in my wife’s head about why some things appeal to her. I think the “control” aspect is appealing in ways other kinks aren’t. We have dabbled into much wider areas, as she can be fickle but she is VERY committed to ruined orgasms. Almost every HJ has been ruined to some degree in last 5 years, which is usually a few times a month. She doesn’t ruin intercourse l, but that is more like once a month, lately not at all.

She used to be more ambivalent about crossdressing but it has grown on her with more experimentation. We can feed off of each other’s anxiety and I think she likes the calming yet adventurous influence it has. We’ve been in public a few times, which I didn’t think would ever happen until a few years ago.

Kink can seem like a hassle/work like anything else when life gets in way. I’m glad she’s mostly flexible.

 

I've always been fascinated by having my cock in some form of bondage. The first toy I ever bought, forty years ago, was one of those leather and steel cock harnesses. Not really good for anything but show, but a start.

Since then, I've evolved as the chastity device market has.

 

I saw it as a huge challenge and as a thing that would help me give everything about me to Her. You can do that without giving all of you.

 

it felt like the right thing given the dynamics of our relationship.

 

For us it was due to my wife being bi with a strong leaning towards women. She is not aroused by regular men, only the model androgynous types. She does not find male genitalia attractive or arousing. All was fine when we shared a girlfriend for most of our marriage but when we retired and moved away from our girlfriend, I no longer had a mistress to server and so my wife took over tha role minus sex and since she does not really like sex with men, she prefers that I stay locked up and allows me to watch her masturbate once in a while while she does CBT so I can moan which makes her cum hard.

So it was either resentment from not having sex to making it a sex game where sex is only for my wife's pleasure and I get nothing but sexual frustration which is OK by me since I am a sexual masochist submissive.

 

I would say as our relationship is morphing into Femdom more and more, chastity was something we both discovered and are interested in. We are not 24/7 with Femdom or chastity but it has added a new and exciting element to our relationship. For me it focuses my attention on her and takes my immediate pleasure out of the equation. She enjoys the focus on her and the more I focus on her the more dominant she is becoming and the more I find myself locked up.

 

I’ve always liked to watch her masturbate, she and I have a mild shared cuck fantasy, and I like being tied down. I started suggesting chastity for me while I was “forced” to watch her. Eventually I bought a cage, and she agreed to give it a try. I had a hell of a time getting it on without getting hard, but finally managed. She enjoyed our little game, and it continues to take place more often as time goes by, as she enjoys it more and more.

FWIW, she has yet to tie my caged self to a chair and make me watch, but she does let me participate.

 

Originally it was with my ex-wife that we got into the idea of it together
In retrospect the idea had been appealing to her long before we 'accidentally' came across it whilst browsing

it did appeal to us back then
I still am ...but the reasons are different now...there became a lot more to it

As for her... she's history ...what her feelings about it all were I have no idea

 

All three.