What Subtle Signal to Use?

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    My Keyholder Wife, @MistressAMA, has asked me to propose a way for Her to alert me about poor behavior on my part in a vanilla group of friends or family. We don't need to get into details (or do we?), but i recently was not observant enough of serving Her while out with friends and She wasn't sure how best to let me know it at the time. She did let me know about if afterwards, though!

    This might cover anything from "My drink is low" to "quit talking" to anything else, which i will hopefully identify once i'm back on my game.

    I've heard of using hand signals, but what other, less-obvious ways do any of you use to make this type of communication?

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    My Goddess has a tendency to text, even if I am sitting beside her in a room as described. Nobody else sees it, it's normal behaviour, and she knows that I have gotten it.
     
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    Why subtle? :rolleyes:

    Just pick an unusual safe word or phrase, if you want to be subtle. "Indigo." Or, "Naughty subbie!" You know, something subtle.

    Or just screw the subtlety, and let her lay down the law.
     
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    How about the American Sign Language (ASL) sign for "No"


    It can be seen from across the room and only requires line of sight.

    Iso.
     
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    Hand signals apart, Lady C usually will say, "Oh, just you wait....", or "wait 'till I get you home...", but emphasise it in a jokey way. Suppose it depends on MistressAMA's personality and rappore with you. In the pub, she'll do a couple of different things: "you'll pay for that..." and hand me her glass to refill, or "the Lady would like a drink", as everyone knows that she is entitled to use Lady as a title (Scottish landowners can use the title Lady).

    The simplest one of all is to call me by my full first name, and not the abbreviated version of it, sometimes appending my middle name.
     
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    Once I see "the look", I know I'm in trouble.
     
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    We have fell out of the discipline aspect of our dynamic, but she would just give me a look. She would wait if needed to give it, but rarely do I not keep her in eyeshot. It was normally a grin with slight scowl if that makes sense.
     
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    There is a youtube video about hand signals for submissive training from Ms. Elle X. Its worth a watch. I post the link below.



    Good luck :)
     
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    Same here.
     
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    Ms Elle X is wonderful!
    My Mistress and I use hand signals to communicate while around others and we have done so for years. It can mean anything from "you're in trouble, buster" to "I need your attention. Now."
    She's also great with giving me "the look" which is a specific way in which she gazes at me and says more than words ever could sometimes.
     
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    I think many of us know the look!
     
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    You mean she has got only one "look"? Lady C has many from don't dare to you are so f*cked.
     
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    I like Disciplined Boyfriends idea,

    "The simplest one of all is to call me by my full first name, and not the abbreviated version of it, sometimes appending my middle name."

    Would be simple and easy for her to use your full name or add your middle name. I think the "talk too much" thing could get me in trouble too...
     
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    Wow she is a no nonsense dominant lady! Frightened me.
     
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    I totally agree! And my madam also isn’t shy about saying as it is.
     
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