What is your favorite part of male Chastity?

Yep. It's the last and most intimate of your physical self. And the longer she keeps you locked, the more real it becomes!

 

I like to be in charge.

 

Great and worthy goal! Goddess Worship is a way of life!

 

We are not 24/7 and just starting chastity but for me it is about changing my focus. I used to be the typical horny husband just looking to get off. Didn't really worry about her satisfaction. Being locked takes my pleasure out of the equation and I can focus on pleasuring her with my tongue and her toys. This change has greatly improved our relationship and has made me more intimate and focused on her. Even when not locked, I would rather her orgasm than me. Many times now I bring her to orgasm and just say "I'll have mine later". She is becoming my Queen.

 

You get it. Your chastity device is going to work great for both of you.

 

I think so. We are off to a great start. Whether in my cage or not, I am always mentally "locked" and focused on her. I only think of her and worshiping her.

 

Good luck to you and your Goddess!

 

I’m not typically one for the unknown, but I find that one of the exciting parts of chastity. Giving up control and not knowing what lies ahead is a rush.

 

The “not knowing what lies ahead is a rush” is exactly the essence of how we live in a Loving FLR and Goddess Worship. It’s all about navigating the journey. Enjoy!

 

I agree

 

She may want you to not think about it and do it I know my KH is really happy for me to give her a little pleasure unexpected and loves it

 

Funny, as we are currently discussing the same topic, as we haven't included chastity with 100℅ in our FLR.
@feather gave me the following questions:
1) when do you decide to put on your cobra cage?
2) when do you decide (for yourself) to put if of and ..
3) why do you put it off?
4) do you need this for "self regulation"?
5) what is my role in this?
6) we had already some loose rules regarding chastity in place which didn't work. What do you expect from me (helping improve this situation)?

Will not write the answers here without approval.

But honesty, most of the above answers include how great the cage is and how it comforts you and that you appreciate wearing it.
I can't relate to this, but I am course happe for all of you that it seemals to be so easy.
In my case the cage remembers me about my commitment and it raises my attention towards her a lot (!) but at there are often times, when its also a sacrifice and not just comfort and joy.
It feels like training a muscle, which is not always pure joy but necessary to make progress.
There are days where I feel lost & highly charged, nothing I would like to complain about as it's necessary and a part of being or at least trying to be a submissive.
I would like to read more about those times from others who are also struggling to fulfill the fight becoming/beeing a sub.
Can't believe I am the only one who feels like that.

Feathers.sub

 

I have the same way of thinking at times but we're a work in progress so chin up and be ready for it to get better soon hopefully it's a little bit frustrating but as we know love will find a way

 

Mine is the same way

 

I very sure your not cause I do

 

Before this was defined as permanent chastity and permanent denial, neither of us really, I have to admit, bought into the Chastity deal properly. I never got the teases I wanted and she never got the loving husband I was offering. It was very lopsided and a no-win situation for both of us.

After agreeing to my wife having absolute control over my sexual pleasure and in fact it being agreed that my climaxes had come to an end, forever - it was only her climaxes that mattered and that were going to happen again, the surrender of it all has given me the most incredible feelings of freedom.

No stress to perform, no stress to worry about release, no stress to even worry about my selfish fetish desires anymore, no stress about ED/PE etc - I am free from all that pressure to just LOVE my wife and to GIVE HER the pleasures she chooses with real focus this time.

The extreme and constant high of denial, the squeeze of my penis in its tube far away under its cover of my full belt "in frustration", the inability to touch and do anything and yes the extra effort in cleaning and using facilities are all part of the cost of this. Nothing worth anything comes without effort, and putting in effort for her has become a pleasure not a chore.

We do not do FLR or anything else like that, despite her becoming amazingly strong for both of us in perpetuating this agreement - we just love the dynamic we are in and it has become clear that her being prepared to do this for me and me do this for her, is showing love that seemed hard to express before. We would not change this for anything. Her confidence in standing strong is making her an even more amazing woman and partner and is something I am more and more proud of.

I only wish we had seen before that what we really needed was a mature-ness from me to accept that it was MY climaxes that needed to be TAKEN OFF THE TABLE to get the win-win scenario this has become, so that she could really see her benefits.