I’m going on 1.5 months of caged and no cum, only to be released to service Mistress with PIV or using my penis sleeve with her. The longest I’ve gone without cumming and/or a break from the cage for a couple days is a lil under 1 month. I’ve lost my constant horniness or constant desire to be sexually pleased. Yes I still want it, but it’s no longer a drug addiction type feel that pushes me to continually wanting to satisfy her in/out of the bedroom. Last night, Mistress said she can see a difference in me and is slightly disappointed in how I’ve grown to accept being caged and denied this long. She likes me feigning. I feel like I’m letting her down but I don’t know what to do…. I don’t really feel wanted from her either so I’ve accepted it as the norm. Any advice is appreciated. Have you ever experienced this low and how did you climb out of it. Or just advice in general.
Besides the occasional piv, do you get teased and edged at all? If I’m not teased and brought to the edge of orgasm at all for an extended period of time, I will get kind of mellow and not so amped up to please. Fortunately this is a rare occurrence for me
It comes and goes. You get long stretches where you feel content and in control. But then, out of the blue, with no trigger you can identify, you'll get horny as hell and start climbing the walls with frustration. Then it will pass. And repeat... Good luck!
If your not on the madly horny roller coaster 24/7 any longer and it's because youve been locked for ages then you have made it. Congratulations. Youre now a high plains drifter. Relax and enjoy but be aware that there will always bends on this path that you cant see around.
I'm only on day 14 of the yearly observance of Lent and have been using chastity with my wife for over 7 years. While my lockups periods normally vary between 7 -14 days and my sex drive is low because of blood pressure medication and age, I still have those same desires you have. 2 nights ago I had a nighttime erection, I'm actually lucky I get them with medication. My wife enjoy sitting in the hot tub several times a week and those while relaxing do lead to teasing and her satisfaction. Sometimes they have no impact, other have me going off the walls. All I can say is sit back and relax.
When I get like that my wife unlocks me for a few days. After being unlocked for a few days she locks me back up again. Then it all returns. However, after reading some of the other comments before mine I think we may be doing the wrong thing. Sounds like it the desire returns with a vengeance. So, next time I may suggest to my wife to keep it on and see what comes of it.
I’ve had this same feeling for the last week or so. There’s definitely something in the need to tease. If you’re wife isn’t participating enough that will bring out this mellow side (if your accepting and don’t get a feeling of resentment). That’s the cause for me right now, my wife is just not feeling it. Burned out. So our sex life has been put on the back burner. That’s ok. I don’t expect her to be on it all the time. Yet, it’s counterproductive as the normal driving factors the cage creates just aren’t there. It’s almost when you need it most, it’s not doing its job. That’s said. I woke up with my wife this morning and a little time spooning her, her ass against my crotch, my hands wandering… that was enough to bring about the horn all over again. I’ve had that feeling of ‘I could really do with a wank right now!’ all day… So if she is expecting you to be horny and responsive, maybe my advice right now would be one of two things: 1) Tell her she’s not doing her side well enough and she needs pull her finger out a bit. Put on some lingerie, dance a little, rub her moist crotch against you and drive you wild. (This obviously is a terrible idea) 2) Find a way to make yourself horny. Fight the battle against placidity! Watch some porn. Fantasise about your partner. Feel her warm skin in your arms and think how much you want her… You’ll be climbing the walls and making your KH happy soon enough.
I don’t want to put it all on her plate but if she noticed it also… she may need to turn up her teasing game a little. It can be hard to be turned on if you’re just flat out being ignored. No real fun in that. That’s assuming she’s not engaging and doing what she can to drive you bonkers.