Totally new to this thing

Good luck, similar story here.

Plucked the courage up early March, now locked. We did the t&d games for years so she knew I was nicer frustrated already. She prefers me frustrated.

That sort of helped my step to being locked...

Now in a red chili London Tower made to measure device, so much better than the Chinese starter cages we all seem to use at first.

 

GO SLOW WITH YOUR WIFE!

Seriously dude, you have had time to assimilate this idea, she hasn't. I have lost count of the amount of times I have read statements almost exactly the same as yours and a few weeks later get a 'she said no' update.

Also, unless she specifically goes for calling your penis pathetic do not, under any circumstances, try to get her to lock you up because your penis deserves to be locked up. You will totally freak her out. Some Women are very much into humiliation but many are not. She decided to let you become her husband and unless you are highly unusual she probably saw your penis before the big day. It probably doesn't matter to her the same way it does to you.

Please, do your research and don't just jump in both feet first, disaster lies that way.

 

By the way, the 'she said no' statements range from reactions like a simple 'no' to 'get off me you freak!' I have read posts where relationships have ended because the guy didn't take the time to build up an understanding, or didn't read the danger signs. I cannot emphasise how important it is to take things slowly.

 

If she loves your cock then definitely push the idea of humiliation to one side for now.

I totally recommend that you read the posts by @keephimcaged and her Tumblr https://keephimcaged.tumblr.com/ - She has lots of advice about this exact issue. My Wife is starting to think about talking about the size of my Penis and it has taken her a few months to get to that point! It was the descriptions of how this works and ideas of how to do it in one of the Tumblr posts that turned my Wife from hating the idea to understanding that it was only a game and not serious.

Good luck.

 

Awww, thanks Jas! And let me completely reiterate what he's said to you, you have to take it slowly or you'll crash this thing before you both work out how much fun it can be!
You need to start with tease and denial, not a cock cage, not penis humiliation, not any kind of punishment. Start with tease and denial because that's the first hurdle you have to get over - her realising that not letting you cum can not only be fun but creates a magical intimacy between you. Next, if you aren't already, you need to get her into you going down on her. There's a great trick hubby used on me to get me more relaxed with that (I always liked it but like other women had hang ups about it) - so if it's a problem area I can tell you about that.
Give her time to see the benefits of just the tease and denial first (and you can also try it on her to see how being edged makes her react, so she both gets insight into it but most of all, is horny as fuck...). THEN you can try dropping in 'So, this might seem a bit crazy but I saw this cheap thing on ebay and we've been enjoying these teasing games and I thought it might be fun to just mess around with'.
And so on and so on, little by little. Rush it and you'll kill it and end up with both of you pissed off and have even more work to do to get to where you want to be.

As for the penis thing particularly (thanks Jas for basically calling me a size queen ) this is a pretty new kink for me but hubby's introduced me to it brilliantly and honestly, I've gone from never having even thought how big cocks get, to lying back as my caged hubby goes down on me, watching big cock porn. It can absolutely happen (although I still can't believe it...). Even that though comes in phases (as does my desire to watch any porn at all) so right now I'm not wanting to do penis size teasing at all (hmmm, I'm just now wondering how monthly this is!). However I'm truly in love with him fucking me with a strap on that is MUCH bigger than him, we do that at least weekly. I know the image below is probably supposed to be cuckolding related (something we'll never be into) but I shared the below with him in our secret blog this week and he loved it... his reply being 'Why do you think I taught you to love it in the arse, darling?' lol

So yeah, much to my astonishment, penis size teasing (teasing, not humiliation) has taken a firm root in our play, and we both love it.
But none of this will happen if you don't start very slowly and get your mind off what YOU want and into how she is thinking and feeling, and build from that perspective.

 

Just wait for the 3am erection....

 

Mine was always at about 4am. I sleep through now.

 

You only had one?
I normaly had 3. Usualy they were at 3am, 4am and 5am.

 

Yes only one, at 3am, it usually lasted 2 hours...

 

@shadowman6 I agree with all the advice given to you from the members above, although I can't quite see the need of a captioned picture of a naked female.
you do need to realise that this is not all about you and it is your wife that will ultimately have complete control over you. you might not even like what she wants.

 

Well, at least that's a start.