Stuck ! Female Lead Relationship

We gave lots of support! Then it went a bit askew.

 

I'm back. I got kicked from mumswhohavetodoallthehousework.com for trying to solve everyone's problems through surgeon metaphors. Thing is if they had only scratched beneath the surface...

 

Do I need to be drunk to know surgeon and sturgeon are just a tiny teeeeeeee apart?

C'mon, man, life is pure entertainment, seek it out, preferably sober IYKWIM.

 

I had to look that up

 

It's just very odd to me majority of us here are submissive to or dominated at times by a woman. Yet a person see's a professional at it she's a whore. I just bought the wife carat diamond earrings we do all kinds of weird shit. Better break news to her she's a prostitute lol

 

I have no issue at all with women who work in the sex industry! My point was simply that paying someone to let you pretend to be their slave isn’t being submissive, it’s being dominant.

 

Those two things are unrelated.

Sure, we may experience being dominated. And yes some people see a pro sex worker as a whore, but so do people with blue eyes, or hair on their heads, or people with hands, or people that have access to a dictionary.

I'd hold off on that, if I were you.

Maybe first ask her how many people she exchanges sex (in all it's forms) for money or goods to the value of, to see if she thinks she is a sex worker. At least then, you'll be better informed before declaring her as a whore.

(If you need a sofa, I hear there is a deal on somewhere)

All relationships in nature are along the lines of "you do for me, I do for you". Energy exchange is how the universe works. (simplyfying) Plants produce complex sugary exudates to feed the soil web, which in turn provides access to nutrients that the plant roots cannot readily access within the soil, and the plants produce seeds which are nutitious and tasty, which the larger animals eat and spread, etc.. It's beautiful.

As @Muppet knows, Eve promised Adam endless fucking and blowjobs instead of masturbation in exchange for protection from the things she didn't understand, and thus, the exchange of sex for protection was born. It was biblical. Trust me bro.

 

I really detest blowjobs. And the word “blowjob”.
Yeuch.

 

Eve totally gave adam blowjobs. Many times. Heck, adams cock might have been the snake that coerced her to bite the apple just to freshen the poor girl's breath. Think about it, before soap and showers, and after huntergathering all day. Smegma, it must have been a holy crust.

 

Well I've seen girls do worse things with apples these days.

 

I’m not ideologically opposed to them, I just don’t like them.

 

That's clearly TMI about your weekends, but now I have to wonder whether the shows in your part of the world include grown women doing the same or is it just girls?

Do your think your god approves or disapproves of blowies? Does your bibble say whether sucking on someone's sex organs is good or bad?

 

It does not mention the topic.

 

Yeah that goose gets everywhere! Last I heard it was passing itself off as a surgeon

 

the goose flys though your brain and takes you where it wants to go.......never good

 

You mean… Canada???

 

How about asking for ball kicking as well as face slapping? I get ball kicking, I get more than that actually. As a submissive male you do have to lower your expectations a bit but you need something to keep you going. I've been told we're having an anal worship only week when I get home on Thurs I can't wait.

 

I don't think anything needs to be permanent. You should be able to take a break once in a while. She should also be open to that. If she reacted in a way that seemed, oh, like she had gotten too used the way it is and could not adapt, that would tell you something. Relationships, even FLR ones still are supposed to be a) voluntary and b) mutual. Then again, I don't really know about FLRs.

 

Clearly not

 

Cut through the smog like a laser beam. Pow

 

All relationships are voluntary and mutually agreed upon. Yes even bdsm, flr ones. Nobody here was kidnapped and whisked away to a femdom island of dominant women in leather boots. The fantasy is you have no say and can't end the dynamic at anytime. The reality is both people agree to their roles and have them right to amend the relationship as needed. Even end it if that comes to it.

 

Perhaps you’re correct in some ultimate sense but aren’t you giving insufficient weight to things like emotional attachment and financial investment? Sure you can quit a relationship but it can be very, very expensive both to the heart and to the wallet. And there are many other factors in play as well, for example fear of losing face by backtracking on promises, and the power imbalance in relationships based in psychological differences between the people involved. So you get people saying things like “I can’t say no to her”, and one might assert that indeed you can… but what’s really being said is “I can’t bear to say no to her” or “I dare not” - or perhaps “but if I say no to her then the game I desperately want to believe is real will dissolve”.