She told her 2 best friends....

So my revised advice. If they your friend. Go for it. Worst is they'll crack jokes on ya. Best is they'll understand. Acquaintances. Not a good idea. But I don't know anything.

 

Most people I know will give ya a beat down for dropping trousers in front of another's wife or girlfriend. Use your judgement.

 

If the cage is tight enough, it won't "rattle".

 

My wife has told two of her friends about our chastity and in both cases it was in a discussion which already was of a sexual nature. It was a bit awkward for me, but ultimately I’m ok with it.

The last part here is what makes me uncomfortable. Tell a couple people, fine, but to add the requirement that one of them isn’t easy is where the line is crossed for me. If it isn’t easy, I feel like that is an indicator that you shouldn’t be sharing with that person. It isn’t about being embarrassed by your kink, it’s a matter of being respectful of others.

My 2¢.

 

I've come full circle regarding the matter. You should tell them.

 

And I've come full circle to "maybe you should be a bit cautious who you tell".

 

I'm thinking it is okay, even exciting, for a wife or girlfriend to tell a few of her female friends. But that is about it. Then, it would be thrilling for you to run into those friends, knowing that they know.

 

This may also be good advice. I'm not sure now. I'd go with whatever anybody says next.

 

I admire your decisiveness.

 

Exactly. But I didn't anticipate the OP to give the next response. At this point, I'm completely lost.

 

Clearly.

The problem on large forums is that while *you* may know this, not everyone else is aware that you know this.

There's probably a lesson here... if we could just figure out what that is.

 

I'd go with this. Seems reasonable.

 

I just phoned Jerry Springer for a final thought. He said if you're in a FLR that you should trust your woman and not ask a forum. But that it was a great story so share more.

 

Steve though. I can't get a hold of him. Hope he didn't get the Rona'.

 

Lots of my friends know I am locked up. Totally ok with it. Awkward at first, but now I dont even give it a second thought. Its who I am now. A better person and they all agree.

 

I would love my wife to tell her close friends about being kept in chastity

 

well i spect She will after a bit cos nearly everbody dose after a bit.

 

There are three people who know about our FLR. One is a friend of my wife’s and her husband. The other is my wife’s daughter (my step-daughter). We do not interact with the daughter much because she lives 2000 miles away but have socialized publicly and in private with her friend and husband. They are in the early stages of their FLR and when we get together in private, we are in our respective Dom/Sub roles. The reason the daughter knows is because she was an online pro-dom when we started and it was from her that we got the idea of a FLR. It was awkward at first discussing how to approach a FLR with her and listen to her very practical suggestions. Her daughter is aware of some aspects of our relationship, but not all, and when we get together with her, we are all strictly vanilla.

 

I share the opinion here , that telling others who might not want to know, because it is thrilling is disrespectful.

That is not to say we can’t share with anyone. If we have close friends we share sexual details with, it might be ok; or people who are already kinky...

Personally, we shared with some kinky friends, and some none kinky with whom there was already a dynamic of sharing things of sexual nature.

For the rest of the world, we often share the FLR nature of our relationship, but not in sexual or kinky term.
My wife might say that she expects me to do more chores than her around the house; or that she doesn’t like when I’m too assertive with her, or things like that. It’s already fun to see people reactions, and to us, it’s more meaningful than the cage itself, which is just a tool.

 

I totally agree, share with those in the know, and don’t force your kink or fantasy on others you never know how they will react to it, I did post a thread recently about being asked about cock cages at work by a co worker,
And she went on to tell others about cock cages, her response and a few others were all good, they loved the idea of locking there men up, but the other 80% of the department thought it was weird as hell and deranged!
I’ve since been asked outright by another co worker if I wear a cock cage, but that worked out cause as she asked me if wore one she said it’s cause She has bought one for her husband!