Ruined orgasms - what’s your trick ?

The last ruin I had in front of my wife, I had to do myself. She told me to catch whatever dribbled out and then recycle. I wish she would do this for me to be honest, but she currently has a medical condition which she has no inclination to do anything at the moment. Basically means I stay locked. No O’s anywhere soon for either of us. But the thought is still there….with me on all fours and her, reaching around from behind me…. And letting go 1 second before my climax… and telling me to catch all of my dribble…. And eat it all up…
Ahhhh… one day…. Nice thought though… one can dream!

 

I’ve had ruins in multiple ways. Usually my Wife gives me a handjob while I lay on my back and legs spread on either side of her, but we’ve also used a wand vibrator to force a ruined O, although that’s only happened a few times over the last few years.
Sometimes when it’s been a longer time in between any releases, she’ll let me grind my cage against her naked bottom and after a while it’ll make me cum in my cage, I just have to stop in time so it ruins it. The first time we found out this would work, I kept humping and had a full blown caged orgasm and had full subdrop from it, that was very surprising.

My favorite way to ruin it is to slowly rub my erection on her pussy for a minute, and just allow a very slow leaking ruin all over her clitoris and down her labia, then have to lick her clean so she can orgasm.

 

I'm caged in a jailbird and cant get fully erect because of the short length of the cage . I find it painful when the ureathea opening is pushing against a bar at the end of the cage . I've been caged going on 4 months now ,and no O in that time .

 

Mistress property last orgasm was a ruined orgasm. Mistress property also had to cum in the cage. That was over 2 yrs ago. Mistress property is forbidden to orgasm period. But at least slave gets plenty of frustration and denial. But Mistress says Mistress property may never orgasm again. After all Mistress is always right. Oh Mistress property has been permanently caged for 5 years and there's no reason to believe that it's going to change.

 

Stop-and-go. Stroke for a bit, then when you think the sub is getting close, pause for a bit, maybe ten or fifteen seconds. Then start stroking again. When it doubt, stop sooner rather than later. Make the pauses longer instead of shorter. As soon as there is any spurting, stop all stimulation. Hopefully that happens during one of those pauses. This can take a while the first few times you try it, but it's a great way to ruin an orgasm. As you get more experience with your sub's reactions, you can time it better and won't need as many pauses. The goal, of course, is for there to be a few seconds between the last stroke and the first bit of cum.

 

A very memorable one for me was when she used her bullet vibrator on my penis (while restrained of course). She worked my fun spot near the frenulum for a few seconds until I was getting worked up and then brought it over to the back side of the head where the intense vibrations were almost painful and not as exciting and I would scream. She repeated this over and over, telling me I wasn't allowed to cum. She started working the fun spot longer and when I screamed that I couldn't hold back she moved to the back of the head again and I dribbled out intensely but in agony. I legitimately asked her never to do that again but she just snickered - I would still rank it as a punishment but relief is relief.

 

I use very moment you write as a learning lesson of a cautionary tale.

 

@MsPamela ; Excellent explanation.

Since I have had PK pierced with a PA, I have been fascinated with the sight of his cum escaping from both holes during a ruined orgasm session. I vary the sessions by administering the stimulation with him either uncaged (restrained), a PA ring inserted (restrained), or his glans only cage fitted on (unrestrained).

Some captures of an uncaged session.
Using the Magic Wand on his sweet spot gets PK all excited and he squirms uncontrollably.


The first signs of his impending orgasm, time to stop.


Mmmmm, there you go my sweet cuckold. PK's cum dribbles and oozes out both holes. Love it, such a thrill.

 

What fantastic photos

 

Being restrained helps!

 

When solo it is also a stop and go game. Just when you feel it getting good, stop. Let your cock settle down and then rub it lightly getting back to full excitement then let go again. Eventually you will sense when it starts to bubble up. Keep doing this until the cum dribbles out without orgasm. Immediately scoop it up and eat it. Repeat until no more comes out. definitely a learned skill. Practice, practice, practice!

 

Definitely a learned skill and definitely take will power to not allow yourself a full orgasm.

 

Not being allowed to cum,is like 24/7 foreplay.. It never ends . Think of it as waiting for the xmas turkey to be cooked and served. Thats the foreplay, you cant wait to bite into the feast. 20 minutes after eating your fill, someone asks if you want more , you say no way ,I'm stuffed and dont want any more .. Well not cuming is like waiting for the xmas feast, except you never

 

stop and squeeze

 

The most mind blowing ruined orgasm for me happened by accident. We were having sex and my wife was on top. It is rare that I am permitted to orgasm during sex. I remain still while she humps me and I concentrate on not having an orgasm. This particular time, it was feeling so good that I told my wife I needed a break but she was too close to orgasm and just ordered me to hold it. I tried as hard as I could but as her orgasm hit there was no way to stop my orgasm. However, I tried as much as I could to suppress my orgasm even as I was having it. It totally ruined the pleasure for me but afterward it was such a mindfuck knowing that if I just gave in for a second I would have experienced a mind blowing orgasm in rhythm with my wife. Feeling her orgasm while mine was being ruined was intense. For weeks afterwards I had an incredibly strong craving to have full blown, unrestricted sex with my wife, which of course she would never allow.

 

Madam and I use the stage system, she will edge me and ask what stage I am at, 1 being just hard and 10 being I’m cumming. I have to tell her what level I am at as she edges me, She will take me to 9 several times stopping as soon as I say 9 then starting again after a minute or so.
After getting to 9 a few(2-3) times I’m then to tell her at 9.5, again as soon as I say 9.5 she will give one or two more stroke and stop, again after 2-3 times of this I will “ruin” and ejaculate with no sensation at all.

 

That seems to be a really good system. I may have to send this to my wife as a tool to learn more. Would your Madam be ok with this?

 

Of corse! It’s just what we learnt from the internet!

 

Stop-and-go technique, extending the pauses, reducing the stimulation and in doubt rather stopping sooner than later really is key. I had my first experience in this field with an online keyholdress who managed to lead me to a completely ruined emission after three weeks of chastity on parole by written instructions only. At last, my semen just began to ooze out, running out of my peehole and down the shaft in one slow stream without any climax, and this new feeling was truly addicting

 

That’s what I call a real ruined orgasm. I’ve done this solo up to three times in one session. You can then go for ages without climaxing, and then when I did there was no ejaculate, I’d fully drained earlier, weird to have an orgasm with no cum.

 

That is something I am still looking forward to to achieve....