I was on this site a few years ago and at the time I needed to step away. Now I am back with a new account. I have been married nearly 30 years, and although our libidos didn’t match, we had sex a few times a month for the first half of the marriage. Now she has zero interest and so I have tried chastity play as a way to cope. She hates the me being in chastity (afraid I will be found out so,ehow). I am out of ideas - I gave up chastity and porn, got a vasectomy, had weight loss surgery and have dropped over 100 pounds, and she seems even less interested in intimacy now than ever. Medical stuff, stress from her job, early menopause, an increase in her church and religious life, and an aging father are all factors. I tried to be supportive and submissive, offering to do everything I could. She didn’t want that. so I am back and exploring the idea of self locking chastity once again.