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    So, I am for the first time ever on the 11th day of denial with plenty of intimate time with my wife during the 11 days. I am genuinely shocked at how I feel. The feeling I get from seeing, smelling, and touching my wife are over the top like being a teen in love again. I feel "enchanted" around her.

    How do I responsibly act on this, explain it to her, that I'm loving it, get to frankly enjoy it myself...without seeming "weird" to her? This is my problem right now.

    Thanks!
     
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    Be honest but not smothering. In other words discuss your feelings but know when you have said enough just let the conversation flow.
     
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    The real problem is not overwhelming her. I get the same way and just constantly want to be around her, look at her, touch her, etc. It gets a little overwhelming for her and she gets annoyed. Forcing yourself not to be like Pepe Le Pew around your wife can be a real challenge.
     
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    Its so easy to get over excited about this new found sensation and you really have to curb the urge to overdo bringing it into every opportunity you get to bring it into conversation. nothing will annoy the person holding the key more than having to constantly discuss or exchange words with you about your feelings etc whilst they are under the impression they are supposed to be in control. It is such a hard balancing act at the beginning trying not to let your level of excitement become tiresome to the keyholder.
     
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    How do you tell your wife that you want to be Lockedup and Serve her. Now haven’t all of us struggled with that at sometime in our new life.

    The Love your feeling for your wife is very special. Very few man ever allow themselves to get to that point in their lives together maybe it’s because they keep discharging their cum so much they don’t have a clue what Giving the Ultimate Gift could possibly be.

    To answer your question. Do it with Love and Commitment to making her life happier and more enjoyable. Now what women wouldn’t want their man dedicated to them. Remember You know her better than anyone else so how ever you tell her it’ll be perfect. Welcome to the best part of your life together.
     
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    Wait and do what you're told
     
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    Get a cute "I love you" card and leave it on her dresser.
     
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    I don't think you need to over complicate it. Simply be romantic, show your wife how much you love her with simple gestures.

    Actions speak louder than words even if it's just the little things.

    As mentioned above a card, flowers, maybe surprise her with little love notes.
    Make her feel special treat her to a massage, there is a world of creativity to show her how much you enjoy it.
     
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    This. And don’t make it about Chastity, the device, teasing, etc
    Make it about her, your marriage and how much you love her . She WILL connect the dots as to what’s the catalyst for this new found devotion and affection. When she does, don’t ever expect to be released ever again(at least not for a long stretch of time)
     
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    I just let my wife read some of the posts on CM...she could not believe it a first, but now after 18 months, she now understands just how good I feel. I'm only allowed ruined orgasms because she doesn't notice any down time. My last one was 8 days ago, and she offered me a ruined orgasm this morning, but I begged her not to allow it, and she agreed...I don't want even a couple of hours of down time, and neither does she.
     
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    Someone just posted this link http://archive.is/wvvgc#selection-605.101-605.208 My wife just read it and said it was the best article she has ever read on the subject and very easy to understand.
     
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    Great advice, all around.

    I can attest to the power of a well-placed love note. Short and sweet can speak volumes... especially if she happens to find it on a day when she could use an extra smile or two.
     
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    It was ME that dug this article up and posted it!!! My wife has definitely been inspired...glad it helped!!!
     
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