Permanently cutoff from PIV

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    TL;DR- No more PIV for me. Ever. Anyone else in the same boat?

    About three months ago, my wife and I (30F/31m) had a very serious talk. It was one of *those* discussions that can only occur after a full orgasm when all minds are thinking rationally. The issue was that we hadn't had PIV sex in well over a year. To be honest, I don't even remember when it last happened, but I know that particular instance broke another year+ drought.

    Don't get me wrong, oral sex and mutual masturbation are still regular occurrences. PIV though...just seemed to always go by the wayside. In fact, in 5 years of marriage and 15 years of being together, we've probably only done 'it' a dozen-ish times, maybe less.

    We soon came up with a number of reasons for why it wasn't happening...
    • As teenagers, the notion of "waiting until marriage" got us both very comfortable with oral/hand stimulation (we actually gave in about a year before our wedding, but that's neither here nor there).
    • Irrational fear of accidental pregnancy despite her being on birth control (not an issue anymore as adults)
    • Our femdom-dynamic encouraged a lot of playful PIV denial and a bigger focus on me performing oral sex on her.
    • She is exceptionally tight to the point that penetration is very difficult and oftentimes painful for her.
    • Whenever we could make it happen, I never lasted more than a couple seconds.
    • Because of the last two reasons, PIV has always been too slow, methodical, and cumbersome and ends up bringing the burning, lustful passion of foreplay to a screeching halt.
    And with that, we decided to commit ourselves to complete PIV denial. Sometimes it's a little surreal to think about being cut off from the most basic human instinct and traditional/fundamental form of lovemaking. Now at 30 years old, it's official... I will never again fuck my wife. My penis will never again enter a vagina. "Sex" now means orally servicing her, humping her leg, pegging, or penetrating her with a strap-on.

    Of course, we're still working up to that last one due to her tightness. Once successful, she has the option to use other men to fulfill any needs that I can't, although she has been pretty adamant about not doing so. Anyway, I'd love to hear from others who have been permanently cut off from PIV...

    When was the last time you did it? What made you stop? Do you now count something else as "sex"? How does she fulfill her desire for PIV?
     
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    Married 32,years and I think piv Maybe 3 times in the last 4 years - she never had interest in my penis or balls from day one
    Chastity keeps from Wanking and my wife prefers her devices to get off than me - and she rarely ask me to help her get off - I ask once in while if she would like help -
    So I stay locked only unlock for doc and flying- she has not interest in my parts
     
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    Surely "doing" sex like most things in life is what ever works for you both as a couple. Are you yourself comfortable with the idea of no more PIV? If so no problem surely. Especially if it physically hurts your wife! As for her "using other men", whatever gives you the idea she would be remotely interested? That's a completely different ball game all together. For some it's great for most it's not.
     
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    I probably could have been more clear that I'm totally happy and at peace with this arrangement. This is definitely not a woe-is-me type of post. But like I said, it's still a little surreal to think about.

    As far as her going outside the marriage...you're right. She hasn't expressed any interest in doing so, and I certainly won't be pushing her into it. After all, that would be her pleasing my fantasies rather than the other way around. That said, she's very aware of my interest in such an arrangement, so the option will always be there if she ever wants to take it.
     
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    Well, we are a funny lot by definition really aren't we. I mean chastity and denying orgasms, what's that all about? It really is counter intuitive! If our vanilla friends knew about it I'm sure most wouldn't understand it! How can it be that us chastity couples have a better (in my opinion) sex life? As they say it takes all sorts. Those of us who are kept Chaste and frustrated are indeed very lucky indeed! On the cuckolding front, well, it definitely isn't for us! We don't share and that's that! But I love to read the cuckolding section here at the mansion! I don't judge how people live and find it incredibly interesting that this lifestyle is out there and couples are getting so much from it! Just shows that old sayings about "it takes all sorts to make the world" and that "variety is the spice of life" are certainly quite true!
     
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    Can not remember last PIV, it must be months ago. Since months, our intimate moments are all "treating her" and T&D sessions, no PIV. Last week my Love said that our sex life was so much better since I am chasted. Speak out for myself, I would not be unhappy if this lasts for ever. However, my Love rules...if she is happy, I am even more!
     
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    Our last piv sex was over six years ago, madam and I used to have regular sex when I would be Dom, but the truth is that I was never any good at it! As the times between releases increased and madam became even more dominant, and then we began cuckolding, madam informed me then that my piv days were over.
     
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    I was more or less cut off from PIV years ago. Once we both realized that the dildo could please her so much more because of its size and stamina (both of which I'm sorely lacking), the dildo became her regular sex partner while I would be allowed inside her only sometimes after she was satisfied. And over time that became more and more rare until it was maybe only once a year, perhaps on our anniversary or some other special date.

    About two years ago it was decided that I will be "pussy free" for life. I am not allowed to have PIV sex ever again, nor am I even worthy of most stimulation from her: absolutely no blowjobs, maybe a rare handjob combined with humiliation (she recently jerked me off until I very quickly came in my panties, and then she laughed at how pathetic that is), mostly just teasing to the point of frustration. I am also not allowed to see any female nudity -- not her, not anyone -- unless it's needed for the times I get her off with my tongue and/or the dildo.
     
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    I can't get it up without Viagra, and I can't take it without permission, which I have been given only once this year. There is no indication that she cares about PIV anymore. She gets off with her Magic Wand every other night and had never had an orgasm with PIV.
     
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    I am "pussy free" as well. (Although, I prefer to say that I am 'not allowed to enter her vagina'. I don't like referring to my wife's body in slang terms out of respect.)

    But for us it may be a bit different motivation. My wife simply sees it "inappropriate" for a chaste man be allowed inside of ANY woman's vagina, much less hers. Just as my wife wouldn't let a stranger inside her vagina, she wouldn't allow a chaste man either--especially me. Her vagina is highly valued by her and would only be opened for the proper male.

    To help illustrate, my wife does not object to masturbating me to orgasm if she feels I deserve one. But penetration? Not even considered, even if capable and she'd enjoy it.
     
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    I can't imaging my wife cutting me off that way but I could agree to her locking me 24/7 and maintaining total control
     
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    My Wife would probably like too cut me off from pretty much everything and definitely PIV permanently, but I won't go along with it
     
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    I agree with this. To be clear, the only reason I felt comfortable using that term is that she does too.

    The amazing thing is just how frustrating and arousing it all is being denied this way. This morning my wife stood in our closet naked, and I took off my own clothes because I was about to shower. I walked up behind her and pressed my body against hers so that my tiny caged penis was nestled between her beautiful and ample butt cheeks. I put my hands on her waist and kissed her neck, and I hardened inside the cage immediately. All I could think was how incredible it would be to have sex right then and there as I fought to remember what that even feels like. She pushed and wiggled her ass against me and then turned and faced me, kissed me, and rubbed her body against my little cage. Then she patted it with her hand and sent me away.
     
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    Today the same thing happened. It was incredibly intimate and sensual, and I was quite amazed by just how strongly I felt the urge to have sex after such a long time accepting that I will never again do that.

    As we stepped away from each other I started to say, “Sometimes I wish I was a real man—“ and she cut me off and retorted, “Well, we know that couldn’t be further from the truth!” while looking disdainfully at my minuscule caged penis. I finished my sentence saying that if I was a real man and didn’t have a tiny, locked penis I would be able to make love to her then and there, and then she said that if I were a real man I would have made love to her A LOT more often and that "we would be fucking all the time and in every imaginable position." Then she dismissed me and got in the shower.

    Again, it is so simultaneously frustrating and arousing to be reminded in this way what I can never experience.
     
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    I've been permanently pussy-free for 3 years and 1 month. My penis will never be inside a woman again. My wife gives me about 2 hand jobs a month now, sometimes no times a month up to 3 months, and allows me to eat her once in a while. She has wished me impotent for about 10 years now, but everything still works, much to her disappointment. I'm about as close to sexless as you can get.
     
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    I totally get the "i'm not a real man" thing, so I'm not trying to knock anyone's emasculation fantasies (lord knows how many times I've gone down that road myself).... but I'd argue there are a lot more ways to "be a real man" than having a big penis or aggressively fucking your wife. Some would even say an alpha-type with a big dick who also happens to be a big dick that contributes little else to the world is probably a lot less of a real man than you.
     
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    I agree. We reserve this kind of talk only for the bedroom where it is in the context of not having much of a penis at all, not knowing how to use what little I do have, and not being able to control my erections and orgasms.

    Outside of that context we are a pretty normal couple, and there are no insecurities on my part nor any doubts about my success or efforts as a loving husband, father, and so on.
     
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    We have been sexless for 10 years now (married 24 years) as she had lost all interest due to ongoing health issues. No PIV, oral, no sexual touching, nothing. I am locked 24/7 with unlocking only for hygene or T/D sessions, which she enjoys. She has said to me more than once, "If you want pussy, buy a cat'.
     
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    I have only had PIV with my wife one time 18 years ago. She was very disappointed in my little pee pee. I lasted about 90 seconds. She has had a live-in boyfriend for over 6 years. He has a great cock that gives lots of pleasure to Ms Val. She told me that I would never feel the warmth of a vagina as long as we are married. And she has kept her word.
     
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    I can certainly relate. I have not felt the warmth of a vagina for quite some time.
     
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    Yes I do love variety!!!
     
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    this particular thread feels like a mid-period leonard cohen song - think something from "various positions" or "the future"...
     
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    Some also seems like utter nonsense and not hinged in reality at all.
     
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    I've never had PIV because I'm an adult virgin at 43 years old. I often wonder if it's worse having had PIV and then being cut off from it forever or never having felt it in the first place? Would the frustration be worse if I knew how it felt? The adult virgin mind boggles.
     
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    Some people's reality may be others fantasy! My goodness, how deep is that for a Saturday morning?
     
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