TL;DR- No more PIV for me. Ever. Anyone else in the same boat? About three months ago, my wife and I (30F/31m) had a very serious talk. It was one of *those* discussions that can only occur after a full orgasm when all minds are thinking rationally. The issue was that we hadn't had PIV sex in well over a year. To be honest, I don't even remember when it last happened, but I know that particular instance broke another year+ drought. Don't get me wrong, oral sex and mutual masturbation are still regular occurrences. PIV though...just seemed to always go by the wayside. In fact, in 5 years of marriage and 15 years of being together, we've probably only done 'it' a dozen-ish times, maybe less. We soon came up with a number of reasons for why it wasn't happening... As teenagers, the notion of "waiting until marriage" got us both very comfortable with oral/hand stimulation (we actually gave in about a year before our wedding, but that's neither here nor there). Irrational fear of accidental pregnancy despite her being on birth control (not an issue anymore as adults) Our femdom-dynamic encouraged a lot of playful PIV denial and a bigger focus on me performing oral sex on her. She is exceptionally tight to the point that penetration is very difficult and oftentimes painful for her. Whenever we could make it happen, I never lasted more than a couple seconds. Because of the last two reasons, PIV has always been too slow, methodical, and cumbersome and ends up bringing the burning, lustful passion of foreplay to a screeching halt. And with that, we decided to commit ourselves to complete PIV denial. Sometimes it's a little surreal to think about being cut off from the most basic human instinct and traditional/fundamental form of lovemaking. Now at 30 years old, it's official... I will never again fuck my wife. My penis will never again enter a vagina. "Sex" now means orally servicing her, humping her leg, pegging, or penetrating her with a strap-on. Of course, we're still working up to that last one due to her tightness. Once successful, she has the option to use other men to fulfill any needs that I can't, although she has been pretty adamant about not doing so. Anyway, I'd love to hear from others who have been permanently cut off from PIV... When was the last time you did it? What made you stop? Do you now count something else as "sex"? How does she fulfill her desire for PIV?