Permanently cutoff from PIV

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    I'm intrigued
     
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    I realize you don't know which is worse, knowing or not knowing. I've had lots of intercourse with lots of women, but knowing what I know now, I should have been locked up at around 12 years old and kept as a virgin forever.

    I haven't had PIV in 37 months, and strangely, I don't miss it. My ex-Mistress showed me why I don't deserve to have erections, PIV, and cums as a sub, because they're only for real men who can pleasure women. Subs serve women, not pleasure them. She locked me in my chastity device until I forgot what a pussy feels like, which took only about 4 or 5 weeks. Once I couldn't remember the feeling, it was really easy to go on indefinitely locked without any frustration to speak of. I had approached her to stop masturbating, and once I stopped that, the rest was easy for me because I WANTED denial. It wasn't punishment for me, because I WANTED to be totally denied, anyway.
     
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    Sexually I have nothing to offer a woman. I have no idea how to pleasure a woman and I have a tiny penis to boot so I'm of no use to any woman. And I don't really want to be some alpha chad anyways or start learning the basics of intimacy at this age anymore.

    To be honest the selfish "I must have PIV at any cost" caveman male part of me annoys me so much. But the denial of the most primal part of manhood is also what fuels my agony and makes being a virgin so deliciously frustrating.
     
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    Ok so... sexually my KH and I have PIV sex a lot. I do not cum without permission but as she enjoys it when I do, I cum inside of her about 2-3 times per month. Although she claims I will go without an orgasm for at least a month she usually folds on that in the heat of passion. 1 out of those 3 I lick her clean. It's her call.

    Then she regrets letting me cum and tries to beat the sub drop out of me. Which kinda works, but not all the way. In some ways I'm a lucky submissive. She wants penetration and my orgasm for her own enjoyment. The longest I have gone with true orgasm denial is 14 days. I was locked all 14 days but there was still 8-9 of those days of PIV sex. Which mostly involved me doing math problems in my head to keep from ejaculating inside my Mistress.

    The stretches do tend to go on longer, and after a solid week, letting me orgasm seems like losing the ground we've gained. But. At least for now, she wants her boy inside of her quite often, and each time is a struggle for us both not have me cum.
     
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    I have never had pic with my new wife
     
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    You're a lucky man that you're still erections and entry to the holy place. My erections are strictly limited.
     
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    James W, how long have you been together with her?
     
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    10 years
     
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    Wow, long time and never had PIV sex? You must have a unique and yet long running relationship together.
     
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    I married 32, years and had sex in that way maybe 2 times in the last five years - wife prefers her wand and toys to achieve the O
     
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    I can relate to what you are going through. Last time I had PIV was two years ago, which made it one time in three years. Menopause has taken a toll on my wife’s libido, no interest. I am locked most of the time.
     
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    Amazing what one can get used to and even adapt to if necessary.
     
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    It certainly is.
     
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    Thanks for all who responded with similar situations! I'm actually really impressed with those who have graciously gone many years without PIV not from a discussion or mutual decision, but rather their wives simply lost interest. That sort of loyalty to your wife and dedication to remaining locked up through it all is pretty inspiring.
     
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    It happens rarely and only when Miss A. wants it. It is done the way that she wants (position), and only for as long as she wants.

    I am never allowed to "finish" inside her.
     
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    As I told you a while ago, I don’t need PIV anymore. Very occasionally it’s nice, but why would I want that mess! A boy can be used in many more ways :)
     
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    I've been cut off for about 3 years now. My wife and I started years ago with a tantric based way of having sex, and she hates cum, so I had 15+ years of learning to focus on her orgasm, and not need my own. In the last 7 years or so, she's enjoyed toys more, and we were having me wear a strap-on about 70% of the time.

    With my keyholder, the friendship is over a decade, but serving her has been about 5 years. 3 years ago, we got much closer and I had to learn about her real wants and needs in a servant. She is essentially asexual, and always found that her partners found bdsm (She is a sadistic Top) to be a form of foreplay, and expected it to turn sexual. She has no real interest in sex, but humored me anyhow. She allowed my 3 tries to give her an orgasm by PIV sex. Each time she demanded me to thrust harder (I did get her close to orgasm once) until I failed and came inside her, which of course I had to clean up. The final time, she was on top, and I failed again, and that was it for PIV for me. I honestly thought I could avoid orgasm, and give her one, but she just isn't wired for getting off from sex, and I had to learn that, and accept that she likes bdsm, and massages. A cornerstone of my chastity is that I could not give her an orgasm, and that I was unable to avoid cumming. I asked for permanent chastity, and she agreed. My wife approved of permanent chastity too, and agreed that we'd use the strap-on 100% of the time.

    Last June, my wife had me enter her unlocked, but I'd become too sensitive from chastity, and was going to cum if we kept trying, so she had me hold still while she used a vibe on herself. That was the last time my parts were used for sex. This June will be a year, but outside of that, it's been 3 years.
     
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    I am curious about why you made the agreement with such finality. What change did that bring? Why not just continue to not have PIV without actually ruling it out. To me, the tantalising possibility being there, however remote, is part of my fascination with my KH.
    And, things might change, such as hormonal changes with menopause that put it back on the agenda.
     
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    Same here. Since I discovered chastity there turns out to be so much more fun to be had for a woman. If he gets to do it, it's only with a strapon to add to his frustration.
     
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    I can see your point and can imagine that would be true. On the other hand, for me, knowing that I can no longer have PIV sex sometimes makes me want it more than I ever did.

    I actually had no problem giving it up. I was terrible at it: small penis that she could barely feel, often had difficulty getting and maintaining an erection during sex (because of constant masturbation and also a need to be humiliated in order to get aroused), and zero control over my orgasms (i.e., once I did get hard I couldn't help but cum seconds later). And I get incredibly aroused just from watching her get off in all the ways she actually can (dildos, toys, oral, etc.). I think I was the one who suggested she should deny me PIV, though the feeling was mutual, and the decision was hers.

    But now that I can't have it and know that I will spend the rest of my life not having PIV sex, never had anal sex, never had a blowjob to completion, and never will... it's very powerful. For example, I see people having sex in porn and it has a whole new meaning to me. It used to be just porn, but now it stirs all these feelings: I've never done that, I never will do that, I'll never know how this feels, I can barely remember how that feels, my wife would enjoy that with another man, my wife should enjoy that with another man, and so on.
     
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    I have not ever done it but I think that must be a lot better than having done it and then not being let to do it again. and anyways theres nice things to do that not use your willy.
     
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    It really makes a guy feel submissive when he realizes he can't sexually satisfy his wife and that she's never really had orgasms with him. Porn's a problem that way, when you realize how far from adequate you are. It makes the cage a lot easier to accept.
     
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    Wow that is kind of surreal, I suppose it’s not like you were getting PIV everyday and then just cut off, that would be hard to deal with if it was a part of regular play. But the overall thought, planning/knowing you’re spending the rest of your life with your partner and then agreeing to never have PIV again not only for her comfort reasons but also for dominance and chastity reasons. That definitely drives the point home.

    After our son was born Wonder Woman and I didn’t have PIV sex for well over a year because the birth was so traumatic and she was experiencing different soreness and pain for quite some time after. When we started that kind of sex again it was very slow going, couple that with chastity and she only wanted PIV maybe once every couple of months and sometimes she’d make me stop because it was so sensitive. There was mostly mutual masturbation for a long time which I actually have to say I really liked. It was so enjoyable because not only was my beautiful Wonder Woman allowing me pleasure but doing so from such a dominant standpoint, there was a big mental and physical rush from how she would touch me and treat me that made me crave her touch over always wanting to be inside her. Our sex lives and wants in our relationship have evolved in a lot of different ways during the last 6 years and I have a feeling it will continue to change and evolve as my queens wants and desires change.

    I’m glad you and your mistress communicate well with each other, so important in any relationship but especially in our chastity lifestyles.
     
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    I've had the same experience with porn. For me it reinforces what I can't have anymore, but I also view it much as I did when young, and it was something that other people have. It's like going back in time in a way. I no longer view myself as capable of having traditional sex, or erection, so it's fun to see people having sex, when as a chaste man, I have no penis to use for sex, and so I see and imagine how I would interact sexually quite differently.

    I had reached a point where my erection was getting unreliable, so that made it easier for me/us to retire it. I'm actually fairly large, and have a bit of a bend, and the bend was becoming a problem when not fully hard. One problem with a larger penis is that people want and expect you to Top, even when you get more from bottoming, and don't want to be in charge of the sex. I've had all sorts of sexual experiences thanks to a fairly open marriage and years of kink. I've done most stuff, from straight to bi to kinky, and it's my offering of thanks to my wife to give up PIV, and my surrender of control to accept permanent chastity from my keyholder.
     
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