Part 4 ~ Putting the "FUN" in DysFUNctional...

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    Well, I ordered pet to write in his journal so that people can see our life isn't just a one-sided argument and that so that I can see what it is he feels he's doing round the house (lol... I just have high standards, that's all!)

    Unfortunately he's just been shot down in flames, so we'll see how long blogging lasts.

    I do think the reply was a little off topic (curious44... I don't post in pet's blog, which is why I'm mentioning it here) and although I do understand the general thought-process of the reply, it was of little help under the circumstances.

    If it makes you feel any better curious, I tell pet every single day how lucky and privileged he is, and he does realise the position he would be in if he hadn't met me... that said, a kick-up-the-butt is never a truly bad thing, it might just be badly timed. :smile:

    As for me... I'm still feeling desperately horny but having problems feeling close to pet, which means he doesn't want to have sex with me now because I can't connect intimately (oh for fucks sake, I'm going to go find my rabbit)

    This morning though, because I was in half-asleep dreamy mode, I could be intimate more easily. I was thoroughly enjoying pet's touch (it was just one of those days where it was soooooooooooooooooooo perfect!) and baby woke up. :cry:

    So now I'm fed up and even more frustrated, which means I'll probably be bitchy all day.

    Other than that, I have a room to decorate! Speak later everyone.
     
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    i will try to follow his blog and offer feedback as seems appropriate. Please remind pet that he is going to take a lot of heat, especially in the beginning as i think the community will focus on chastising him for your issues. Although i might end up doing so as well, i will try to be supportive.

    Keep on him and keep talking! If you can't afford or schedule in professional help than the only way things will ever work out is if BOTH of you are willing to commit to making things last. It is easy to get discouraged and say "fuck it, I'm through", but doing so risks losing what could have been a great relationship.

    (BTW, i feel you are more at risk of going down the "fuck it road" while pet is on the selfish "oh poor me i try so hard road" that will keep driving you away).
     
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    Perfection, kids and house work are a combination for anger and frustration. Even if Pet was a perfect home maker which I'm guess is FAR from the truth. We insist on things being hygenic. No food laying about or dirty cloths on the floor. As to the rest we insist the crap be in neat piles if nothing else.

    I've also found that buying some large black trashbags and taking out my anger on throwing "shit" away is very helpful. Kids who see some item they left laying on the floor for a week get thrown away learn quick.

    As to being horny... Your making me crazy! Your Mistress watchful! This just can't be allowed to happen! If nothing else put batteries in the Rabbit or buy a Hitachi magic wand vib or better yet both! :evilgrin0010: Then use them in front of your Pet and remind him of how much he is missing!
     
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    Things appear to be levelling out a bit.

    We messed about a lot in bed last night, pet was writing his blog, we were watching TV and just generally touching, tickling and kissing... so it was all quite relaxed and hopeful.

    Then I did something really stupid. I said I was going to sleep. I didn't *mean* I'm going to sleep, I *meant*... chase me and make me feel sexy! Apparently men don't get this "hidden meaning" thing as I found out in a discussion with pet today.

    Apparently (and I think this is quite a radical approach) I should say what I want, rather than say something else and assume pet can mind read. Odd, but there you go. I might try it!

    Today has been a good day. I did a second coat of paint on my son's room, then I had 4 hours to wait until the paint dried... so because I didn't want to sit there and watch it, I decided to get dolled up, grab the video camera and make a sexy photo shoot of myself. It's what bored housewives in suburbia do you know.

    Once I had done a few poses I thought I better go and get dressed before the man came to fix pet's windscreen! I decided to take a quick phone-photo of my naked breasts and send it to pet, just to cheer him up. That seemed to work.

    During my semi-naked posing, I'd got really REALLY horny... so horny in fact that I couldn't help myself. I don't usually indulge in a spot of sexual DIY, but I had to... oops! This meant that by the time pet returned home, desperately horny, I was done and dusted lol!

    We popped out to run a few errands and after we got home and had lunch, pet confessed he just really wanted to go down on me... so as I was still tingling from earlier, I stripped off naked, snuggled up in the fluffy blanket on the sofa, and waited for him to come and find me after clearing up the laundry.

    Once he discovered me, he swiftly got himself naked and buried his face in my pussy. Mmmmmmm, definitely a good day! After I had cum, he obviously decided it was his turn and entered my soaking wet pussy, gave me a deep tongued pussy soaked kiss (I love that... reminds me of my bisexual days!) and fucked away.

    Our sofa is a great place to have hard-fuck sex, not sure why, but it works for me! I luuuurrrrvvveeee it when we cum so close together.

    I've posted some pics below from the video camera. I know you might feel I've been over artistic with them, but there are a couple of reasons for this. 1) it gives me a little bit of anonymity and let's me hide myself a little, and 2) the video camera is not great quality-wise so I figured I'd go creative!
     

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    :tongue: Nothing else to be said
     
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    I think some ones got there confidence back. I hope pet knows how lucky he is. :boobeyes:
     
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    When pictures like that compliment that already well written post, what's to add. Hope the streak continues for you two. Nice imagery.
     
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    I think naked pictures are not the sort of thing someone from the suburbs should be doing.

    My church group is the place you should join to redeem your soul.

    Amen
     
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    Yeow... You may have found the cure for Viagra. As in who needs it with your last post?

    ;-)

    One comment I have to compliment you on. YES men can't read minds. Some of us are not even great with communications at all so please... Don't ever be afraid of being too direct. Its very cool to be 'wanted' sexually and when its said in a direct way thats hot!
     
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    TCFun.... :anim_12: (Hehe, just kidding!)

    Slave_Kris.... :happy0120: Thank you.

    xcitex2... :character0100: Thank you also.

    subbutstillaman... :sign0004: come on then if you think you're *hard* enough! :evilgrin0010:

    Jimi123... :innocent0002: Thank you too. I'm glad you liked them.

    On that note... I'm off to bed!
    pet >>>:love0055: <<<MW with a strap-on!
     
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    Come down to Florida.....it will solve your SAD and my lust all in one :love0001:
     
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    Odd how that works... you say what you want and you get results... wow! :boobeyes: Goddess and i had this discussion some years ago actually, now when She wants me to follow Her upstairs for sex She just grabs my hand and away i go! :hump:

    Praise the lord and pass the flogger! :whipbang:

    oh.. the pics... :sex023: what else can i say?
     
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    sigh I should have known better ..... those photo's ..... cb2000+POI .... OWWW!!! (of course all my wife can do is laugh!:evilgrin0036:)

    You, My dear Mistress, have that X factor! you take very sexy photos.
     
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    TCFun... I'm on my way! :character0028:

    newsub... Lol. We all know that's how it works, but for some reason we want it to look like it was YOUR idea. Don't know why! Maybe it's to make you feel better. Lol.

    eceem... Thank you... you make me blush.

    Quick blog because I'm tired and lots to do!

    pet cooked dinner for me when we got back from shopping last night, it was late and I was really tired from decorating all day (it makes me ache so much!) and we watched Top Gear. It's one of the funniest ones I've seen and I was laughing so hard! :happy0195:

    After that I just played with pet's cock, like I do sometimes, and he blogged... I stopped for a while so he could concentrate, but I could still smell him on my hand, which made me INCREDIBLY horny!

    I felt really sexy and really wanted to play, but being the idiot I am I overdosed on pudding and felt a bit sick and a bit full, so I offered pet a quickie instead.

    I *love* quickies. I feel such a slut (which I told pet through the duration of the quickie, which turned it into a super-quickie... lol. I wish pet would talk dirty more, I love it just as much as he does!) there's something about just being fucked, just being used so that he can cum which drives me crazy. I love to have the feeling that I'm just "open for business" and if ever he just feels horny and wants to fuck me then he is to go ahead! (Not exactly in line with chastity and FemLed relationships, but I'm writing my own rules! :rules:)

    Seee..... now I feel all horny again! Totally distracted. Mmmmm @ quickie sex and just being grabbed in the kitchen, having his fingers forced into my pussy and being bent over and thrusted into whilst being told what a dirty little slut I am.... Or have him strip me down and sit me on the stairs, spreading my legs and licking my pussy... mmmmm:sign0007:

    Where was I?!

    Oh yes, so we had a quickie which I found sooooooo horny I was a bit miffed when pet scooshed back over to his side of the bed to play XBox whilst I went to sleep.

    I was VERY frustrated. I did tell him so, but he avoided this issue. Then I realised what the problem was. He'd cum inside me and is a little bit squeamish about playing with me afterwards.

    Given that we had sex earlier in the day, it wasn't even that messy... and besides that... he really needs to be trained not to be bothered by it. It didn't used to bother him. Maybe he was just being lazy lol!

    How the heck am I ever going to train him to EAT his own cum if he won't even touch it. Which makes me wonder what he does when he masturbates... I think too much!

    Very busy day today. Decorating, looking after next door's toddler, visiting the childminder, sorting out my timetable... all this after getting up at 6am to do Pilates! :indifferent0028:
     
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    I love this place... MW You ask such interesting questions... A couple of thoughts from Capt Vanilla. :character0028:

    An analogy - When a man first says he wants to try anal sex a good female response is what size dildo does HE think he can take. ;-) Then if he agrees he will be a lot more careful and gentle when doing anal with his female partner. For a guy who wants oral sex but is squeamish about his own cum? Ask him if that would be acceptable for you to never do it because you feel squeamish about cum? Most guys do a giant "Whoops" and suddenly be more then willing. Is he willing to kiss you after fellatio? If not? Are you willing to kiss him after he goes down on you? If so? And he is not? He needs to have that pointed out.

    If that doesn't work there is an alternative. Ladies First - which simply means whatever he does with you in bed the point is that the female partner climaxes first. So if he really is too tied up in the worry that going down on you after intercourse he can solve your needs first then work on his. If you prefer to climax last you can break him in slowly having him do it first one in a while. And DO tell him how much it turns you on. Positive re-enforcement is a great way to accomplish whatever you want in life. Then make it a more regular thing. Pretty soon it will be SOP if that is your wish.

    I think Oral sex after intercourse is a good combo because intercourse tends to rev the women up to a great state and very little oral sex will be needed to get her past the edge.
     
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    Lots of interesting thoughts there Jimi. :happy0160:

    A few comments backatcha!

    I just wondered why yesterday was a problem... it wasn't a problem this afternoon!

    Usually I do come before, during and after (depending on who has how much energy!) so I can't complain.

    I wouldn't force him to eat his own cum until I'd put him through a lot more training, I love to swallow... always have, but then I'm a slut. Also (as I think I said yesterday) I love kissing him after he's been down on me because it brings back all those lovely pussy licking memories I have... girls are great... so soft and juicy!

    Talking of sluts!!!! We managed to squeeze in a little fun this afternoon, which ended up being a LOT of fun. For some reason I'm still all sluttied up after yesterday's quickie, so when he said he wanted me to strip naked so he could play with my pussy, it wasn't a problem.

    But I fancied something more, so I suggested he tied me up, which he did, and then asked him to put the hood on me, which he did and by this time his hard-on was RAGING!

    Plenty of dirty talk came my way, so it wasn't too long before I was cumming nice and hard. Mmmmm @ afternoon kinky sex!

    Then he absolutely filled me to the brink with cum... I love feeling flooded with warm sticky cum. It was wonderful sex, just like we used to have. He also finds it easier to "abuse" me when I'm hooded. He talks dirtier, he fucks harder, and is much more animalistic!

    Afterwards he started to play with my pussy again... oh AND (a huge thing for me) he spent ages kissing my tummy! This was SUCH turn on for me. I think I only felt comfortable because I was still hooded, but it was wonderful, felt so intimate and sexy... I just felt like he completely accepted me and all my faults.

    Unfortunately baby decided to end her nap, which has now left me on a sexy high. It's so nice to be intimate again, with all the kisses and cuddles that go with it.
     
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    Yay! i'm glad you two are good again!!! :happy0030:
     
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    Should that be B/both of Y/you? Surely Mistress comes first :smilies_xxx22:
     
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    Well, I'm not worried... I wouldn't know if I should be capitalised or not these days, but as long as I'm getting lots of orgasms, I don't care! :sign0011:
     
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    Brave man....I would never presume to put a sub first, no matter what the circumstances:anim_37:
     
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    I'm in agreement with MW! Kris should take a few notes from pet
     
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    What a wonderful afternoon you had! :boobeyes:

    It almost sounds like the two of you are more of a switch couple! Nothing wrong with that, there are a lot of such copules. Maybe that is something you could work on as well?
     
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    Thank you everyone. I think this is a good place to be for the time being. We are totally mushy and loved up (and pretty horny too!) so if we can not rock the :character0117: for a while... maybe in a few months I can start integrating a bit of the FemDomme lifestyle I want back into the bedroom.

    Today we are dead as dodos. :indifferent0028:

    Baby was up around midnight, then around 3.30 am, we all snuggled into bed together but she just wanted to up and play, so pet took her downstairs so I could get some sleep (and I will return the favour later!)

    Babies are hard work on the off-days aren't they? We think she's teething again, it's not like her to not sleep through the night.

    In some ways it's good, because we'll calm our horniness down due to being tired which is a nice break sometimes when we get so full on... we just run out of steam lol!

    Well, I have a last couple of walls to touch up, doors to gloss and a floor to laminate today! Hopefully pet will just veg-out on the sofa with baby and watch daytime TV.
     
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    Ok first post outside of the Foyer but none the less I felt compelled to say hi and to say there is absolutely nothing wrong with a little switch every now and then. Having followed your posts as a lurker I can also say you two seem to be on the right track.

    When my pet and I hit a similar wall years back almost everything stopped, certainly the BDSM fun but almost all the vanilla did as well. We had many problems with chastity play until one day we both realized that was the real problem, it was play. I failed to realize how much he wanted to be controlled in that sense and he failed to realize I wanted full control not being topped from the bottom or having him cheat to get out. Anyway before I get way off base we have our times when I really like to be taken and used like yesterdays trash. When those times hit I simply let him out of his device give him a day to regroup and tell him if he does not make me feel like the slut I want to be then he can forget about feeling anything for a while. Mean? Perhaps. Topping from the bottom? Perhaps. But the way I look at it is I am really in charge so I can call the shots anyway I want right? :evilgrin0036:
     
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    Goddess Kate, that seems the perfect attitude to me. If I *am* in control, then I can have what I please, when I please!

    I thought a little more on this today, especially about what we have gained so far... I figured even if it ended tomorrow, it's made me more aware of asking for what I want, something I never really did before because I felt guilty.

    I'm amazed at how quickly we got back to super-happy-space so that says to me to stop stressing about perfection and just enjoy sex however we want, whenever we want.

    Sorry for the ramble, and thank you so much for posting in my Journal.

    pet has been spoiling me rotten today, even though he didn't sleep last night...

    .... Damn... gotta dash to Brownies, back later! :character0028:
     
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