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    This is a repost from my BDSMLR blog "Yesmysweetness". Hope you enjoy it.

    I’ve seen a few posts talking about “rules” for a Femdom relationship. I would argue there can’t be any “100% you must do this” type rules. All people have different interests, desires, dislikes etc. I am not into cuckolding, SPH, anal, feminization, or pegging so obviously my rules will not include those, but yours might.

    I thought I would share the rules my Queen and I agreed to when we decided this was the way we wanted our roles in the bedroom. Our relationship is also different in that She is only dominant in the bedroom. He rules the roost, she rules the rooster sort of thing.

    These have changed over time. Sometimes she likes to be taken roughly without me asking. She has granted me one “freebie” during the week to fulfill her need for this and my neediness when I am denied. We have agreed she can take this “freebie” at any time as she holds the final word over my pleasure. She also permits me to masturbate if I leave for more than three days. That being said, She usually revokes this privilege and only allows edging.

    Sometimes these rules are not followed “to a T” for practical/life reasons, or she may have a week or two when she is not in the mood and just wants vanilla sex.

    That’s ok! Sometimes she doesn’t want to make decisions. If you want your relationship to work in the long run , it should be ok in yours as well.

    Without any further delay here are our rules.


    Rule 1: You will be naked at all times when we are alone or in our bedroom, regardless of what I am wearing or what time it is, unless told otherwise or you are getting ready to leave.


    Rule 2: You will obey my every order/command/whim without question or complaint.


    Rule 3: My pleasure is always the priority, ALWAYS! You, your body and, your cock are here for my pleasure, NOT YOURS. Know your place. Additionally, you will provide me with as much pleasure and as many orgasms as I desire, in any way I desire, whenever I desire.


    Rule 4: Your pleasure is mine to allow, give, deny, or ruin, which I have the right to do for ANY reason at any time. You do not get ANY pleasure without my permission. I may give or take permission at any time for any reason.


    Rule 5: Should you pleasure yourself, come without permission, give me attitude, disobey me in anyway, or just because I fucking feel like it, you agree to whatever punishment I deem necessary.


    Rule 6: Absolutely no coming without my explicit permission. Assume you cannot unless I say otherwise. If you are unable to hold back and do not have permission you must immediately stop stimulation and ruin it. You will still be punished for coming without permission.


    Rule 6: You will not beg for me to change my mind or cum unless I prompt you in some way (tell you to beg, ask how bad you want to etc.). You will not complain about your cage or any punishment unless I ask.


    Rule 7: After every time I play with you or use you to cum you will thank me properly. With an edge on your knees thanking me for the privilege while kissing my feet, unless you are caged or I tell you not to. You will be specific as to what you are thanking me for. (Ex. “Thank you for allowing me to give you the orgasm you deserve my Queen “, “Thank you Queen for edging me and reminding me of my place”, “Thank you for ruining my orgasm and helping me remember your pleasure is the priority” “Thank you for allowing me to cum on your beautiful feet” etc.)


    Rule 8: I make the rules and can add, change, or make them up as I please. I do what I want, I dont have to be nice or fair about it.
     
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    very nice!
     
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    Ok then..
     
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    And welcome to CM.
     
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    Welcome and thanks for sharing, I think rule 8 is the most important driver towards a successful FLR.

    Imhers
     
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    Oh but what about a rule for clean up?
     
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    Are there really 2 rule #6's?
     
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    Typo
     
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    Honestly, She rarely makes me “clean up my mess”.
     
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    Honestly, She rarely makes me “clean up my mess”. It has happened but she didn’t make it a rule
     
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    Sorry wrong message lol
     
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    What is the intent of this?
     
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    In addition to making up new rules, she can also number them as she wants :)
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    When we first started we had a very similar set, one of my favorites was to please her orally every morning or that night. As time went by it turned more into basically...you get unlocked when I unlock you, you cum when your allowed, and follow my direction.

    I think when we started she was doing a lot of stuff mostly for my benefit in what she thought a domme was supposed to be and what I wanted. Now it’s what excites her that matters and she fills in my needs when she thinks I’ve earned them or she’s in the giving mood.

    Welcome to cm, enjoy the ride
     
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    Yeah... forgive the typo
     
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    Heh. No problem.
     
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