As this covers both Chastity and Denial, as well as Female Led Relationships, I wasn't sure where to post this. Instead I've decided that maybe I should start a journal to follow my story. A little history. The thing that I have always wanted most from my own WLM, is to feel that my wife wants to encourage my submission, and is taking control over me because she enjoys the effect that it has on me. In order for this to happen, I strongly believe that I have to give my wife what she wants, and that's not necessarily what I think she wants. Only then may she consider giving me some of the things that I want. Experience has taught me that no matter how much you think she might like to be in charge, to be in control, to have you at her "beck and call", to have all the chores done, it's not necessarily true. You certain shouldn't expect her to become some sort of dominatrix wife constantly pushing your submissive buttons. Life and reality are just not like that, so it becomes a balancing act. For my wife, what she wants is my love affection and true devotion, to be attentive and listen to what she has to say. Whilst my wife has in the past tolerated me wearing a chastity belt, with minimal intervention on her part, she has seemed to struggle with tease and denial, especially the denial part. The more I ask for things, albeit suggestively and mainly non verbally, the more she ignores my desires and me. Just to put this in prospective, I have been trying for the last 10 years to make my relationship with my wife one in which she is comfortable with herself in a dominant role and me submitting to her in all things. It is only just in the last few months that she seems finally to have accepted that by keeping me locked on occasion, keeping me teased and aroused but not always allowed to orgasm, is something that she now seems happier to encourage. And not just because she knows that it turns me on to be kept so, but because she knows that it will keep me attentive and devoted to her at all times. The price I have had to "pay" is remaining constantly obedient to her needs and wishes, follow and respond to her orders when given. and to make her feel the my submission is as much about my desire to pleasure her and be turned on by her feminine sexuality. All of this wrapped up in a what to many from the outside might be considered to be a pretty vanilla relationship, but done in a way that my wife feels comfortable with, including importantly letting her initiate any sexual activity between us when she wants, rather than me pestering her. In recent months, I had been very close to giving up and just accepting that my wife just doesn't want to see me in this submissive role or to have me locked in a chastity device and at her "beck and call". There have been occasions when I felt like "throwing my toys out of the pram", deeply frustrated by my overwhelming desire to feel controlled and submit to my wife's feminine being. Experience has taught me though that this would be the wrong thing to do. Either it would have pushed my wife further away, or if did produce any positive moves from my wife, then it would seem that she were doing things only because I wanted them. Surprisingly, at the eleventh hour and when everything seemed lost, my wife has taken some positive and very encouraging steps towards granting me my long time wish for her to take control in our relationship. More importantly, she seems to be enjoying and more willing to use her feminine control, to keep me teased and aroused but denied regular orgasms. Following an early morning oral induced orgasm that I gave my wife, she had me kneeling naked at the side of her bed. Now sitting on the side of the bed and looking down at me, I handed her her earlier discarded panties. Rather than put them back on, she arranged them so that she could place them over my face and head, ensuring that the gusset was pressed over my nose and touching my lips. She then begun to tease and play with my nipples, something that she knows drives me deep into sub space and makes me willing to agree with anything that she says. I have often referred to this state of mind as being held "under her spell", and so it was that in this state, she began to lay down some of the "rules" to which I must agree and what she expected from me. The list was quite long and included several references to feminine things about her and what she wore, her shoes, nylon covered legs, her painted finger nails, underwear, all of which she knew would pushed all my submissive buttons. While I listened intently and hung on her every word, eager to accept and unable to resist her, even if I had wanted to, she continued to play with and caress my now increasingly sensitive nipples. Despite my mind racing and being in a bit of a blur at the time, here are just a few of the things that I recall. From now on, my wife told me that she wanted me to be locked in my device on those days when she was out at work, so I maybe reminded that she is in control and that I should remain obedient and follow her instructions at all times. She scolded me for several things that I had done wrong or forgotten recently, or where I had not followed her instructions to the letter. She informed me that I was being denied any orgasms until after Christmas, provided that I "maintain standards" ( domestic chores) and remain obedient and attentive to her needs. When she finally finished all she had to say, I was released from her "grip", but remained firmly "under her spell", aroused beyond belief and willing to believe that she meant all that she had said. In this situation, what comes with submission and feelings of joy and elation, is a deep feeling of love and affection towards my wife for making me feel the way that she had. So it was from Monday morning that after my wife had left for work, I locked myself back in chastity, content in the knowledge that she had asked me to do so. She had also reminded me that I must ensure that all of the washing and ironing were kept up to date and that I must keep the laundry room clear at all times. Thanking her for such a wonderful weekend by text, she responded by saying “You are under my full control and must obey me and carry out all requests”. By Wednesday night, I found myself once again kneeling naked beside my wife’s bed pleasuring her orally, unusually coming only days after the last time. Normally my wife is content with much longer gaps between her orgasms, so I was pleasantly surprised to find myself locked and giving my wife a second orgasm in only 4 days. Even more surprising was that my wife told me that I would remain locked until Saturday evening, just before we go out to a party. I had expected her to want be to unlock Thursday evening, when she finished work for the week. It seems that my wife is now happier to keep me locked longer than she originally intended. Is this really happening? It feels like we are moving forward again and I can’t wait to spend increasing amounts of time locked, attentive and devoted to my wife, obedient and subservient as much as she wants.