Moving Forward.................

This weekend saw me remaining locked and without any obvious teasing or sexual play. I was however expected to perform one of my more enjoyable duties for Jane, to shave her down below. Ever since Jane has asked me to do this for her, I have enjoyed doing it, feeling just that little more submissive and subservient, performing such an intimate task. It also didn't take Jane long to instruct me exactly when she wanted, rather that letting my rather imaginative mindset give her what I liked. I now perform this task for Jane, kneeling beside her bed as she lays back and checks her phone, FB or whatever. There is something extra special about completing this task, being kept locked and denied, ignored by Jane, taken for granted that I will obey and follow her instructions.

What tasks do other guys have to complete for their wives or girl fiends that they find enjoyable and even arousing?

 

This weekend I was unlocked by Jane and allowed an orgasm. At first she told me to unlock, I was going to use my emergency key, but then she stopped me and told me she would get her key. From the very start, I have always had an emergency key and have used it daily to allow myself to wash and keep everything clean. I've used the emergency key because I did't want to go to Jane everyday or time that I needed to be unlocked. I didn't want her to have to be bothered. In some ways this has been a bad move because maybe she somehow feels in less control, as she knows I can remove my cage anytime I like. It may in part be why she is less likely to encourage me to lock up, but i'm not sure

Anyway, it felt highly significant therefore that she was going to get her key and release me. She retrieved her key from her purse and went to unlock me. But would you believe it, the lock was unsecured, I had failed to click the lock shut properly that morning after cleaning. Well that killed the moment, I did explain what had happened but that significant moment was lost or at least watered down.

That very annoying episode aside, I was about to end a 6-7 week period during which I had been expected to pleasure Jane on numerous occasions, while I remained teased and aroused but denied any orgasms a total of 5-6 times, and for the last 9 days had been locked in chastity, so at least one of those denials had been while I was securely locked. The result was that by this weekend, I was in a heightened state of submissiveness, closely focused on Jane and everything feminine about her, I was devoted attentive, ever keen to feel her feminine charm wash over me, happy and pleased to serve and submit to her in every way. In short I was her obedient and attentive servant keen to please her and encourage her to tease me.

I don't think that you can over emphasis the impact on a submissive's mindset post ejaculation, at least not mine. I enjoyed the orgasm, it felt great at the time, and maybe for a few seconds after, but I can't tell you how deflating and disappointed I felt after that. Even now, as I write this post some three days later, I am still struggling to get back my submissive and attentive state of mind that I was so enjoying pre-E.

Does everyone else feel like this? How long does it take you to recover to your pre-E feeling? And what if anything do you do to get back there?

 

Having experienced the massive highs of the last month or so, I now find myself in a low, wishing for and needing some form of more regular acknowledgement from Jane that my submission is to be encouraged.

Bottom line is that as a submissive husband, I crave the feeling of being aroused and turned on by Jane, but as means of her demonstrating her power and control over me, being locked and/or denied, reinforcing her control over me in that way.

During these periods, I find myself texting Jane with suggestive words and sentiments, very few(actually most) of which she does not reply to. I appreciate that as a submissive husband, I am in a pretty weak place to ask for or insist on a particular response from Jane, so find myself remaining quietly frustrated and disappointed. I know that some would criticise my attitude and say that it is not my place to "top from the bottom" or that I should concentrate my efforts on pleasuring her, but during these times it is very difficult.

To put my situation into prospective, on an average month, I am maybe called upon to please Jane orally. once or twice a month. Following this, I am either teased and denied, or teased and made to release myself, something that probably never takes longer than three minutes maximum from start to finish.

Rightly or wrongly, when I am feeling in a low, I often equate my 3 to 6 minutes a month of extreme high, to the almost constant submission devotion and attention, and even servitude, that I do my best to give Jane at all times. I feel that my needs are being overlooked by Jane, but have never told her I feel this way. To be honest, I can't believe that she cant see this herself, and worry that she limits expressing her control and "dominance" that she holds over me because she doesn't really enjoy it.

My age old dilemma, do I discuss it with her and risk finding out that she doesn't really want an FLR, or keep quite and keep enjoying the extreme high brought about during those 3 to 6 minutes a month. What do others think?

 

During a week away with Jane, I found myself stripped totally naked but for a pair of yellow rubber gloves, and being told to carry on with my domestic duties as expected from my "maid". Although not locked, we hadn't taken my cage with us, I felt for just a few moments as though Jane was actually controlling this situation and had chosen herself to put me in this position. For the whole week, as Jane read her book, I found myself wearing those rubber gloves to wash up, clean and generally serve my queen. Although naked on only this one occasion, I nevertheless felt myself submitting and being "dominated" by Jane, expectant and with her readily accepting my submission. After giving her two separate oral orgasms, while I remained denied and reminded of my submissive and obedient position under her control, Jane finally relented on the third occasion, allowing me to masturbate while kneeling in front of her. Jane took this occasion to remind me that when we got home she expected normal "service" to resume, and that I could expect to remain under her spell, fulfilling my role as her obedient and attentive servant.

 

Since returning from our week away, things seemed to have taken a step backwards again. At my suggestion, I was locked again, but with no recognition or encouragement from Jane, I decided to remove it. No reaction from Jane either way, once again suggesting to me that she is apathetic about the whole chastity thing. I am definitely thinking hard about just giving up on the chastity device.

I can see no point, in going through the motions, having to "suggest" I am locked, then locking and being largely ignored, only to be told to unlock a few days to a week later.

Although it's taken a very long time, I'm getting to the stage where Jane's apathy and lack of encouragement are making me feel that she is just not interested in anything chastity or even FLR. Sure she goes through the motions, and when she's had a few can make me feel very submissive and even believe that she might be enjoying it. However, much like our sex life in marriage she has never really been bother either way. Why then, should I have thought that she might take to tease and denial, chastity, and/or having a FLR, I am not sure.

What I did think was. that by submitting myself to her, giving her control over how, when and if we engaged in sexual play, even to the extent that she could simply satisfy my needs by a bit of simple tease and denial once in a while. That she would enjoy and want to encourage my continued devoted and attentive behaviour, but it appears that I am wrong.

I know people will say that I should be talking to her, but what can I say. She knows that I love her, that I am a good, maybe even great, husband to have, other people's assessment not mine, I am devoted, loyal, kind and considerate, attentive and do pretty much she would want me to do. Oh but that I have an insatiable desire to feel submissive to and controlled by her, that I am aroused and excited by being teased and kept denied, that I would enjoy being kept tied up and teased, dressed as a maid and made to serve her. That I am fed up with only ever being given "tip bits" of encouragement, 90 seconds at a time, but supposed to last weeks.

Any advice?

 

A Glimmer of hope. After weeks of inaction and not much to talk about, I text my wife with the following "when you're not working you need more time to spend painting, reading,entertaining and relaxing, so hope that you will require a full time maid and servant to take care of the domestic household needs. Kept teased aroused but denied, i would love to apply for the job, Interview and training?". No response, so I text again the next day. "Do I get an interview or is the job already mine?". Jane's answer "Yes, I would definitely consider you for the job and arrange an interview". Pushing my luck I relied, "if you let me have a detailed job description sometime I'd love to apply".

Then thinking that Jane would not have the time or maybe inclination to write such a document, I went back with "knowing how busy you are, would you like me to create the perfect job description for the position of maid and personal assistant for your approval and or amendment". Jane repled, "Yes please, being proactive "

I now have the opportunity to put down in writing how I would like to see this part of out FLR to look like and how I may be "reward" for continued service and devotion. It sounds a lot like topping but I don't really see it that way, I see it more as my way of communicating writing rather than having to find the right words to explain

Although a bit long here is that job description:

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Duties and responsibilities of Maid & Personal Assistant

Owing to the Mistress of the House’s position of great female power and authority, and for her need to have as much time as possible for her pastimes, relaxation and entertaining, the position of maid and personal assistant to the Mistress needs to be filled.

Job Scope

The maid will be specifically required to perform all of the household chores such as washing, cleaning, kitchen and laundry services, all to be set out in a list of specific tasks and chores detailing when and how often they should be performed. (See attached)

In addition, the maid will be required to attend to the needs of the Mistress of the House, performing any and all tasks set by her. Performance of all tasks will be carried out in a timely manner, ensuring that the Mistress’s high standards are met and maintained at all times.

Job Requirements

The maid shall remain devoted and attentive towards the Mistress of the House at all times, obeying her orders and remaining constantly attentive so her every need can be fulfilled. The maid will remain politely, courteous and subservient to his Mistress at all times. The maid will not talk back to his Mistress and always listen carefully to her instructions as she is ALWAYS right.

When the Mistress of the House entertains, her maid will always be on hand to perform “carry and fetch” tasks, drinks replenishment, kitchen duties and any other tasks as required by the Mistress of the House.


Duties and Responsibilities

• Prepare and serve Mistress breakfast in bed

• Hoover and mop kitchen/bathroom floors

• Carry out kitchen cleaning duties including sanitizing countertops and arranging cupboards

• Ensure that all kitchen appliances such as cooker, dishwasher fridge microwave are cleaned and maintained perfectly

• Load and unload dishwasher, hand washing glasses making sure that they are put away in designated cupboards

• Wash and iron clothes in accordance to specific instructions provided by the Mistress of the House

• Hand wash dry and neatly fold the Mistress of the House underwear

• Clean toilets

• Keep the Mistress’s Boudoir cleaned and tidy at all times, undertake foot and body massages, bathing, shaving, pampering, pedicures and all other personal services required by the Mistress from time to time

• Maintain and keep clean the Mistress of the House shoe and boot collection, ensuring that all are ready and waiting to be worn by her

• Wash and launder bed linen weekly, make beds on a daily basis, along with tidying up bedrooms and living rooms

• Ensure that carpets are hoovered on a daily basis

• Empty waste bins and ensure that all rubbish is recycled or taken out to the bins

• Dust window blinds and tidy up curtains

• Wash windows both inside and out when required

• Clean bathrooms and toilets, replenish supplies such as soap and toilet paper

• Shopping and running errands set by the Mistress of the House

• Any and all other tasks periodically added to this job description by the Mistress of the House

Mistress of the House

The Mistress of the House is responsible for ensuring that her Maid carries out all of his duties, and performs them in such away that they meet with her high standards. If at any time the Mistress of the House is displeased or unsatisfied, with any aspect of her Maids attitude or quality of work, she may require those tasks to be redone. In addition the Mistress of the House may consider punishing her maid as part of his training and to improve his performance in the future. This will also serve to remind her Maid that his Mistress is in charge and requires COMPLETE OBEDIENCE and DEVOTION at ALL TIMES.

In order that the Mistress of the House’s maid is kept focussed and totally devoted to performing his job role to the best of his ability, the Mistress of the House will keep him regularly and strictly teased and aroused, but denied orgasms. His pleasure will be taken from serving and performing his duties for his Mistress, being aroused by teasing, and greatly from pleasuring his Mistress. The Mistress of the House may decide to allow her maid permission to have no more than 2-3 orgasms a year, only to be awarded when the Mistress of the House is particularly pleased with his level of service or on special occasions. However, the maid agrees to give the Mistress of the House absolute discretion and power to withhold or delay permission, if she is not entirely satisfied with him.



Signed and irrevocably agreed by



Mistress of the House …………………………………………….

Maid and Personal Servant ……………………………………………..

If you've managed to read this far, I'd like to know anyone's views on this and my approach.

I have left a copy of the JD in Jane's bedside draw, which she moved this morning promising to review it tonight. I'm worried that it maybe too much, but for what I am seeking, I think I can offer Jane so much more in return. I never expect to be dressed as a maid or humiliated or even physically punished, but I would like Jane to accept and encourage my submission, hoping that she will see the obvious benefit to her of having me take care of all those things that will give her time and the opportunity to explore the things that she would like to do.

 

Thank you @Fatkid57626 I hear what you are saying, but I don't get many, if any chances, to get my desires across to Jane. If she cant't be bothered to read two pages, then that might say a lot. What I am hoping is that her agreeing and even signing a document, it will confirm to me that she at least clearly understands what it is that I want. If it's not what she wants then she has the opportunity to say so.

 

Thank you @Nicoftime for your thoughts and comments. Once again I hear what your saying. Based upon how are relationship has developed, I am not so concerned that Jane will see this as an imposition on her or that she will be losing a "partner". We spend a good time with each other, are both in love, and pretty much live a vanilla lifestyle day to day, other than I am generally subservient to her and her wishes. She seems to pretty much like and enjoy that aspect, so the principle of me serving and attending to her needs as her "maid" shouldn't be a problem. The reason that I tried putting a number on how many orgasms I should be allowed a year is so Jane can get a better idea of how reasonably and long I would like to be kept denied, instead of asking me every time "what are we doing". I want her to keep me denied because she knows that I enjoy being kept that way, and how much control and power she holds over me. If she can enjoy that to, then so much the better.

As for keeping me aroused, Jane knows how to push my buttons and can take very little effort. I have been very careful not to impose myself on her or badger her for sexual play, so she shouldn't feel any more obligated or pressured by having her "maid and PA" attend to her needs.

We still kiss, hold hands, laugh and joke with each other, just like any other couple would and I don't see that changing.

 

@Fatkid57626 I agree that this approach is risky, but take out the references to "maid" and this is what I am largely doing already. Add the reference to "maid" and the "Mistress of the House" responsibilities and it maybe more formalises our respect roles. I would like Jane to treat and think of me as more of her maid for day to day chores and become more demanding and expectant as a result. More importantly, I wanted to say what I did under MOTH responsibilities, although you will notice that I didn't call them "responsibilities", to explain what and how I would appreciate being kept and controlled by Jane. I have tried to explain, mostly non verbally, but either I am completely wrong in judging Jane's attitude towards my submission, or she just doesn't want to keep me this way. This will be the final attempt, because I can't explain it any better.

As yet, Jane has bothered to read my JD, although she spent most of the evening last night on social media. As I say, if she can't or won't get on board with this, then it's not fare on her to keep pushing. I have long coined the phrase, "yes won't say yes, but she can't say no". I hope that I am not pushing her into a corner, but fear I maybe. Am I selfish or not?

 

Unsurprisingly, Jane made no comment or reference to my job description all weekend. Once again, I was falling back onto the theory that she hadn't said no or refused to consider, but equally she hadn't said yes.

In my mind, I was hoping that even if Jane didn't want to discuss it, she may still feel able to sign it, thus indicating in some way that she would encourage this type of submission from me.

On Friday morning, by which time and I'm not sure if Jane had read the JD, Jane had me pleasure her orally in bed, and then had me assume my normal position kneeling at her feet next to the bed. After a short period of nipple teasing and foot worship, during which Jane outlined my duties to be performed getting her ready to go out with her friends on Saturday night. These included bathing her, removing her toenail polish, helping her choose what she would be wearing, making sure her shoes were cleaned, laying out her underwear, and helping her get ready. As Jane, verbally listed out all these things, she continued to play with and tease my nipples with her red painted finger nails. Looking up at her, as she looked down on me, I had an overwhelming feeling of submission, listening to all that she would have me do for her. With each task, the next one more subservient and girly than the previous, I soon found myself slipping quickly into sub space, that almost hypnotic trance, where the combination of the sensation from nipples and my mind envisaging me in this submissive and subservient role to Jane as she got ready, put me in a desperate need to serve and submit to Jane's feminine self.

Then just as I was blissfully enjoying my subspace state, Jane dropped in the "bombshell", "as you've been so patient, am I to release you, or would you like me to keep you under my spell", those dreaded words again. For fuck sake, I just wanted to scream. Now I get all the arguments about "topping from the bottom", about what "true" submission should all be about what "she" wants etc etc etc, but all I really want from this aspect of our relationship, the one small thing that I would enjoy above all else, is for Jane to "keep me teased aroused but denied orgasms", not forever, but along the lines I had set out in my JD. Am I being unreasonable? Is it such a sacrifice for a woman, a wife, to do something that to me seems quite innocuous, something that Jane must know that I crave and would enjoy. The only reasons, that I can think of for Jane constantly wanting to see me release is that either she really likes to see it, unlikely as she has never been that sexually active, that she feels guilty from keeping me from something that she has always seen the "ultimate" aim of our sexual play, despite knowing that I want and would enjoy being denied more. This leaves just one other reason, and that is that as in the past and maybe true for a lot of women with a low sex drive, give their husband a "quickie" get him to orgasm, and he won't bother me, or pursue me for any more sexual contact for a while.

Whatever the reason, I choose the second option, and remained outwardly calm about the situation. The weekend progressed, with me spending Saturday flitting around Jane, taking her shopping, carrying her bags, making her drinks, obeying her every wish, and then all those things that I was expected to do to get her ready for going out. At the end of the process, Jane looked beautiful, her hair and makeup, her feminine clothes, shoes, her scent and painted nails, all combined to generate a vision of feminine beauty, one that I willingly submit to and who has the power to control and manipulate my submissive mind.

Cut to this morning, Jane left for work as normal. When I went upstairs to our bedroom, there on the bed as the JD, Jane had signed it. I am feeling happy but only time will tell if Jane can bring herself to do the one thing that would mean more to me than anything else, and that is to keep me firmly "teased and denied".

 

Unfortunately, this is not the first time, as I am always given the option, Jane is putting the onus on me, because I guess she doesn't want to feel guilty, or somehow perceived to be cruel, which doesn't make sense because it's only me and I want this. I think for too long it has been just easier all round to let me have an orgasm once a month or so, and not be bothered until next time.

If this happens again, I am going to have to confront her, because as much as I want my denial to mean she is encouraging my submission, maybe her refusal to deny me means that she doesn't really want my submission. I have always assumed that she enjoyed my submission, my devoted and attentive behaviour, she seems to, but as soon as anything becomes too sexual, it's straight back to I've orgasmed so now it's your turn.

 

Having received a signed copy of the Job description from Jane, I to signed the document, irrevocably agreeing to become Jane's Maid and personal assistant. Eager to confirm my acceptance, I text Jane with an image of our combined signatures, and thanked her by saying that I hoped that I would meet her expectations and that she would always be pleased with me.

So from now on, in my mind at least, and hopefully more so in Jane's overtime, I have assumed the position of Maid to my Mistress. In my first full day, I served breakfast in bed, stripped and washed my Mistresses bedding, dried and ironed it, before remaking the bed ready for my Mistress to enjoy, did some washing and ironing, cleaned and polished the shower, hoovered the house, prepared and served dinner, cleaned up the kitchen, loaded the dishwasher and attended to my Mistress's needs all night.

 

After a weekend away staying with friends, Jane text me this morning. "Now you need to resume back to your duties to ensure that standards are maintained". Just the nudge I needed to stimulate my submissive desire to serve the Mistress of the House as her maid.

Toady's chores include bed changing, washing and ironing, hoovering, and hand washing 5 pairs of my Mistresses white lacy knickers and thongs. Today Jane left for work wearing a short flowery dress, sheer black tights and patent high heels. I know that I will be thinking of her all day, and longing to please her when she gets home. I haven't had an orgasm in over a month, and can feel my inner submissive and subservient maid longing to be aroused, teased and firmly denied by her Mistress.

 

It seems that since both signing a copy of my new job description as Jane's Maid and Personal Servant, Jane has become just that more expectant and demanding of my services.

After spending most of last Thursday carrying out domestic duties, I was keen for Jane to see how hard I had work and to appreciate what she could expect from her new maid. Greeting Jane at the door, she came directly into the kitchen as she was on the phone. As she chatted to one of her friends, I was conscious that she was still wearing her heels on the floor that I had only just clean. Without saying anything, I knelt at her feet and held out my hands gesturing to remove her shoes for her. Jane continued to chat, and without breaking off her call, she lifted one then the other foot, for me to remove her shoes. Slipping her delicate, soft, sexy feet from each shoe, my eyes were drawn to her red painted toe nails, and for just a few seconds, I found myself kneeling at Jane's feminine feet, holding her high heels, as she ignored me engrossed in her chatter with one of her girl friends.

I found myself feeling ever so submissive and subservient, a feeling that I hope will be repeated more often and grow, the more that Jane begins to embrace her position of Mistress of the house.

 

Just when I thought we were on the threshold of something special, when Jane at last seemed to be accepting me as her maid and personal assistant, life has thrown us a curve ball and created a major set back. I'm not going into any detail on here, other than to say that my dream seems further away than ever.