Men in chastity

I asked him to write out what he was thinking about the low level high he told me about.

"I think the chemicals get stuck and sort of circulate with no way out. I know that the chemicals can dissipate as they are metabolized, thats why "bumps" are necessary- that is to have the chemicals be replaced by the same method. As long I don't go over the cliff they only slowly go away. I think they are oxytocin, dopamine, testosterone but I am not 100% on everything, what they are or how fast they dissipate. I do know it's kind of like having a tire with a pin prick leak in it where you have to keep airing the tire up every day so you can keep it driving well. If I climax though it is like dropping off a cliff, sex is the last thing on my mond right after. Its a complete 180- It takes a while to come back, the desire and the good feelings. I loose interest and just want to sleep or do something else. My mindset completely 180's afterclimax.

 

For us me wearing my chastity device is an extension of my Mistresses control and my submission to her , and for me serves as a constant reminder of who in our relationship is in charge , it also keeps me focused on the fact that her needs and wants are before mine and any release or orgasm I might receive is at her discretion and not just the result of a want on my part . Chastity was introduced to our relationship by my Mistress some years ago and she has always taken great pleasure in the fact that I am locked by her for her , so to see her happy and comply with her wish is for me a reward in its self

 

I like the feeling being locked - I feel calmer with the snug fit -
Being locked help with stopping pleasure myself - away of controlling the guilty addictive selfish behavior

 

Freedom and the hability of feeling a surplus of energy that derives from the extended period of denying pleasure.

 

The reason I've submitted to my Wife and agreed to be locked up and have her control when and if I get an Orgasm is because for the first 25 years of our life together I was the one who was cumming when ever I wanted. I was also manipulating and using my wife for my Pleasures. I wanted my wife to experience more pleasure in her life and more Orgasms.

When we first started with Chastity 7 years ago we were away for the weekend I was locked up and she didn't bring a key.( I had a key but told her I didn't ) to make a long story short. She had more earth shattering Orgasms that weekend than she had ever had in her life before. This made me feel like a Million dollars. Since than I've worked at serving her and doing everything I can to give her pleasure. In return she's made many of my fantasies into realities.

The reason I'm locked is to serve my Wife/Mistress/KH and I'm Loving it

 

The more thought I give this the longer the back story is but I am into it now for the head fuck
I want to cum now and I want to be denied so that feeling lasts
I want full control of that so I can give it to someone I care about with whom that feeling is mutual.
The goal these days is to be locked and denied by and for someone significant that wants to explore what that can do for us both.

 

Wow inviting Men to post about this, might yield the most commented on thread in the history of CM before you're done. After all were so shy about expressing on this topic . In all seriousness I don't know. I kind of hate it at times and then I love it at times. I guess the question is why do we press on despite the roller coaster ride. It beats the alternative is the best answer I can give you. I look back at my masturbation habit and understand now how destructive it was to my relationship with my wife. I used to agonize over the decision to masturbate. What if I rub one out and then she wants to have sex for a change? Then there was the resentment; "If you would have sex more, I wouldn't have to masturbate". Finally there was the porn that went with the masturbation. How does the wife compare to the porn stars? They'll do anything with anybody and seemingly love doing it as opposed to what sometimes felt like a pity _____. Chastity isn't perfect, but I know my wife and I are happier for it. Still day in and day out at times I get low and struggle with the what the hell was I thinking question. Then she steps up and does something really powerful and dominant and I'm on cloud 9 again.

 

Very much the same as our marriage we are very lucky I believe

 

I like the feeling of being owned , controlled , dominated by a woman.

 

@PouchPantyLover are you me!? Those feelings, about worrying about masturbating in case she wanted sex, and actually being caught out a few times when she did and I was unable to cum. The feeling of resentment when a woman in the porn I watched would let the guy put his dick in her mouth, the feeling that if she did that occasionally I wouldn't need to masturbate. By occasionally I obviously meant a few times a week. At least.

My Wife didn't have a problem with me masturbating and didn't have any issues with the porn I looked at, but she now realizes that with our new arrangement she is my entire sexual stimulation whereas before she wasn't. Now, if I get turned on it is 100% because of her, and the level of arousal I have because of her is through the roof.

I now look back on the porn addicted me with a mixture of pity and contempt. The way things are now is off the charts better.

 

My motivation comes from the thrill and anticipation that is created when chaste. It brings me the feelings I had from back when we first started dating. Nothing brings out my desire for her more then being chaste and beholden to her. I'm no longer able to take her for granted, or sex for that matter.

 

It would be a long and windy bridge but it would be made out of Steel, with the ocational Locked gate along the way

 

Also the reason I want to be locked up besides to serve my lovely wife is because being locked stimulates me. When I'm caged it takes very little stimulation to make me wet and aroused. Compared to being unlocked. Also since I can't stoke myself or give my self an Orgasm the arousal persists longer keeping me in the higher state of sexual excitement. I would rather be held at or near this higher state of arousal than be on the roller coaster of up and down emotions caused by having more frequent Orgasms. The emotional drop after an Orgasm isn't something I enjoy so being locked and denied gives me more overall pleasure. Just one of the strange things you learn as you get older.

 

Yes, couldn't agree more

 

Because I am a total addict. I am not ashamed to say so either. If it weren't for us stumbling into the use of a chastity cage, I might have masturbated myself to death. The motivation for me is survival. Not just my own, but that of our relationship too. Ironically, without clear boundaries, rules, and routine I think we were getting very bored. With a very clear understanding of each others needs we have found ways to please each other like never before. The power exchange is intoxicating too, which is great as I enjoy a good buzz. Also on a more depressed and serious note, I have a bad self image when it comes to my bits. Chastity is a great way to make my little penis look pretty.

 

I ask myself this very question often. Why do I want this so much when my wife is not up for this now.

Ineverknew has part of my feelings. Pouchpantylover hits the nail on the head also. I would abstain from masterbating when I hoped the wife would be up for sex, and when she wasn't, I'd beat my meat senseless. (Still do sometimes). My ability to refrain is quite low.

I will never understand all of my own emotions when it comes to sex. At the moment, part of me wants chastity so that my bride will be paying attention to me sexually. Part of me is the same as Mash, I was the one coming all the time before, now I want my wife to have as many o's as I can give her. I feel fantastic making her orgasm.

The other piece of the puzzle I have not seen mentioned. In public, im very Alpha, high stress life. It's a relaxing comfort to play the part of sub for a while

 

I agree 100% with this sentiment. It's also damn confusing weaving in and out of each role. Especially as my wife and I work together. One minute I'm fetching her lunch and the next I'm telling her to cut checks for me. I have noticed that at work things I used to tell her to do I now ask her to do. And I ask pretty meekly.

 

For us it was out of necessity. It was the perfect way to deal with long waits for my orgasm, no intercourse for almost 20 years, less sex since there were only two of us after 30 years with another woman and my wife's dying libido. It also fed my sexual masochistic needs which was handled previously by our ex girlfriend. I was also masturbating a lot. Without access to two women, I turned to masturbation. It solved both of our issues with our sex life.

Right now it is our sex life. We are both comfortable with chastity. I no longer have anxiety attacks worrying about if I can get erect or not. Similarly, no more feeling bad that my penis has shrunk over time and by gaining weight. My wife does not have to deal with a penis, does not have to share me with another woman as she did for much of our marriage, and controls how and when we have sex, another thing she never did before.

Unlike others, I did not have a desire to be locked up and dominated by my wife. I had stopped looking for chastity devices a very long time ago because the ones they sold back then were mostly leather and much too big for me. We started on the honor system. The chastity device came after we were sure that this was something we wanted to pursue further. The device was the cherry on top of the cake. The only thing we had to sort out was dealing with a power exchange type fetish that unlike others, did not end at the bedroom door since I remained locked up. We worked it out eventually by trial and error with a lot of communication.

 

If there is a knot in the balloon then somehow a method of increasing the pressure has also been added. My libido increases as I am denied, and now my brain has been trained so effectively that my Wife continues to arouse me far more than before even after I have been gifted an orgasm.

 

As a sissy wife it was a way to further deny any semblance of masculinity that I may have left. Monthly visits to the nail salon for a fresh manicure and pedicure, regular visits to the beautician for a trim of fresh perm of my mid back length brunette hair and hormone therapy have removed most traces of masculinity so all that is left is my little insignificant thing. Chastity has allowed me to more fully focus my attention on my husbands desires instead of my own. My orgasms are not controlled or limited in any way, I just remain locked at all times and receive my pleasure in giving pleasure or through the encouraged use of sex toys to masturbate as a woman. I have found I am happier and more fulfilled now that I have no need for that part of me any longer.
My husband says the house is cleaner and I am more attentive to his needs and desires. Everything is as it should be now and I am very pleased with our life and have no desire to ever be without chastity.