The situation: my partner & I have been trying orgasm denial for me on/off. We both find the idea interesting. But her interest is v variable & unpredicatable. When we pick a number of days to deny me, she generally just ignores me for that time. And she shows no interest in anything for herself ether. So I came up with an idea and suggested it to her. We roll dice to pick the number of days I get denied as usual. BUT if she has an orgasm before my due date, we roll again and my orgasm date gets pushed back by that number of days. I thought this might link the idea of her getting pleasure to denying me pleasure. So far, she seems to like this idea. And my date has been pushed back twice. What you reckon? Is this a good idea or a bad one?
what happens if she gets multiple orgasms in the same session? do you get pushed back 2x double? My Mistress can have multiple orgasms including what we call the "big ones" (inside and outside together she tells me...) in the same afternoon.
No it works, if she waits till his due date then he gets let out. She can decide how long he waits by giving him her O in advance of his due date. Yes she COULD make him wait forever, but if I was given the gift of my partners O within 6 days I could go a very long time Using a pair of dice would be harder of course, still 2 or 12 max would still doable for me. I think its a great and fun idea and Id love to bribed to go longer with a gift like that, but I doubt my partner would go for it. I am happy with what we have, I am locked till she wants a O and she lets me out, simple.
I think it's a great idea but I'm afraid my wife would want to change the roll to be weeks, not days.
So, she show's no interest in sex, when you are locked, not even in you pleasuring her, or/pleasuring herself? Even if you have to be outside the room just listening?
I’m laughing at the Pavlov…love it. Even more so because we’re in the process of training our 7mo old puppy right now!!
Keep us posted over time. I'm really curious if this helps produce a change in her because she's starting to enjoy her own pleasure without any pressure to please you!
Always enjoy games like this! Of course, she can alter the rules however she sees fit. That's exactly what was on my mind... Fun ideas are always great to add into the mix... The randomness and unpredictability allows her not to "feel bad" about denying you.
@Yearning1 I reckon you sit down & have a conversation on why you incorporating chastity into your relationship will help it. It sounds like neither of you & your wife are not on the same page... and maybe she doesn't see a reason to any of this. I wrote a thread awhile back, I think it could really help you out. https://www.chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?threads/how-do-i-tell-my-wife.48102/
I hate to break it to you, but a lot of women aren't very interested in initiating sexual stuff. It sounds like your partner equates you not orgasming with not having sex. And if you don't want to have sex, she's perfectly happy to fold socks or do whatever it is she does with her free time. It's one less thing she has to do.
Sounds good to me. My wife and I do exactly the same thing, only she manages to do it without using a dice!
Sounds brilliant in theory. The worst that could happen is you get ignored for 6 days but then you get to orgasm. Keep us posted.
We're a "Type 4" couple. ( https://happy-marriage.neocities.org/relationships ) Even from our early days, when lock ups were just a week or two, she's never granted me orgasms, erections of even just unlocking while I'm locked up. Lockups now are usually between three and six months, with a couple of days or weeks freedom in between. She never initiates me being unlocked, and some years ago I promised to never ask to be unlocked [for sex], so unlocks are triggered by something other than sex, for example a doctor's appointment, flying, or treating the occasional sore spot. Even then, I rarely get more than two or three orgasms during my unlocked period. When she's not working (she works very long days on a shift pattern) it's a rare day that she doesn't have at least one orgasm. And I don't miss orgasms, now half the time I dread having one and prefer to just stay in that happy/content zone.
She's not interested. Trust me been there. In my opinion she doesn't understand and since she isn't interested she's not making an effort to do so. Interest in sex when you aren't caged? My guess is barely.