Be involved in the lifestyle for a very long time to various degrees. I was referred to this site by someone that I was chatting with about a role in the life of my wife and myselfs marriage as the Sadist and Disciplinarian. We struggle with certain aspects of a female led relationship and have been looking for assistance and possible mentor for my wife. Fingers crossed everything works out. As part of the early negotiations I have agreed to be locked 24/7 unless my wife, or Ms desires me unlocked or work/medical need arises. Nice to meet everyone looks like some great conversations and resources here.