In this day and age, what is a FLR anyway?

In today's world there is not much difference in a FLR and a regular relationship.

Recently we got the Taking back your marriage book by the late miss Green.
As my wife has taken interest in it.
Anyhoo there is a questionnaire build in and we filled them out together for fun. And her result came out as Dictatorship. Lol and I'm definitely one to follow her lead.

In our daily lives my wife would lead the house 90% of the time and really she had too due to our kids and me commuting to work and long out of normal hours
I married an amazing woman that's for sure.

 

Well, since she calls you her panty-wearing pussy it appears that you're well on your way. Has your wife pegged you yet?

 

Not yet. Right now she has zero interest in ever trying it.

 

Would you enjoy it?

 

I don't know, but probably. I do love the fantasy

 

its funny that you make this statement because i had actually forgot to put it in my previous post. Spankings are a HUGE must when you are in an FLR. Any FLR book you read will tell you this. And my wife and i have realized this in our own relationship.

As you mentioned, women will often times use a passive aggressive stance in order to "punish" their man for doing wrong. But i personally find this to be very unhealthy to a marriage. It tends to build resentment. But with spankings, when i do something wrong, rather than harbor resentment, my wife just takes a paddle to my ass, and we both feel better emotionally afterwards.

And there are a lot of guys who have a fetish to be spanked, but i am not one of them. I absolutely hate getting paddled. But i understand that it is an essential part of our FLR. Overall, while i do not get turned on by being paddled or the thought of it, i do get turned on by the power and control that She has over me.

 

The reality is even better, I can vouch for it.

 

Maybe so, but if she isn't enjoying herself I wouldn't either. I learned my lesson about pushing her too hard, we'll either get there together or not. She's surprised me before

 

I agree. It has to be her idea. If it is, it can be wonderful.

 

All very true! I'm not into anal but if Mrs Chaste decided she wanted to do it to me I'd gladly let her! Since we started chastity nearly 5 years ago the sex has got better and better! I get more pleasure from making her cum than getting to cum myself. In the past it was all fairly straight forward but now she has at least 2 orgasms and often 3 or 4. She says they are so much better as well because she doesn't have to worry about me. Not bad as we are getting on for 60 years old. We both enjoy it immensely and Mrs Chaste has taken complete control of the sex. She has decided that its much better to severely reduce even ruined orgasms and has threatened a whole year without me getting to cum. 6 1/2 months later and I'm still orgasm free! Loving every second of it.

 

It is much better when the woman is in control of the penis. She makes sure that she gets what she wants and you get what you deserve. Well played.

 

Of course, *nothing* is a "huge must" in an FLR, except what works for Her and you. Spankings work in my FLR for some of the reasons you mention (and there are others), and apparently in yours too Brad, but we must resist the urge to advocate for "one true way."

 

One of the wonderful things about being in a relationship that's considered outside of traditional is there are no rules, there is no "right" or "wrong." It's about what works for you. In the earlier stages of our evolution to what would be considered an FLM much of what we did could be looked at as old fashioned or simply being a gentleman--the little things like opening and closing a car door. There were no real rules or structure at that time. In the more private or intimate moments my nature and history being what they were (always very into pleasing) had her taking much more of the lead.

There are still some parts of a relationship that we are very much a team, financial management and planning being one of them. If there are decisions that are along the lines of going either of two directions would be okay she tends to hold the trump. In the private/social side of thing now she's definitely the lead.

Not always easy, often challenging but oh, so rewarding.

It's what makes the relationship works. Others may have opinions, different interpretations. But if anyone ever says "that's not the right way" get away from them as fast as you can!