How high is your sex drive?

High hence my desire for control!

 

It is complicated.
It has been used as a punishment right after I installed rhe outer hasp when I talked down to my wife.
Beyond that, “upstairs time” is used when she feels like it. She always has a bit of a twinkle in her eye when she takes me by the elbow or ear and marches me upstairs. Sometimes she will pronounce the time I will spend, saying “ you better get a jug (empty apple juice jug) to pee in because you will be in solitary for x hours! Usually it is anywhere fom 1/2 hour to 10 hours, depending on what is going on in our sphere.
My wife is always so sweet when she unlocks the hatch. She sometimes delivers a glass of water or even wine.
It is not uncommon for her to come upstairs and demand that I fuck her on the bed “right now”!
She keeps me guessing.
One thing she reiterates is how she loves the way I act for over a day after I am released.
We have other confinement methods in her salon.

 

Sounds like a very exciting dynamic. I love that there seems to be immense pleasure after release. Like the old saying that the best things in life are worth waiting for

 

Extremely high. At least one O per day, since I discovered there was such a thing. My wife is just the opposite. That is why I am persistently trying to slowly and gently move us in the direction of chastity and an FLR, at least in the bedroom.

 

Oh, it is interesting all right!
We met in high school and married when I was 19, she 18. We’re 66 & 65 now. Many projects and a lot going on with us, grown kids, grandkids, businesses etc.
Soooo vanilla to the outside observer!
Always interesting!
Whenever she knows I will be welding she makes it a point to paint my toenails red. She justifies this by saying that she doesn’t want me to feel as macho as I look. No matter what I do or who I talk to or anything, I cannot get the thought of my red toenails beneath my rugged boots out of my mind. By day’s end I have a tiny vein of stress from that exhilliration still within me. She generally says I can remove the polish AFTER I satisfy her as she has had me and my predicament on her mind all day.
I had no idea that people our age could act this way!

 

High af.

But, what is probable is the vast majority are terrible lovers, who masturbate to porn so much they eventually guilt themselves into looking for a way to control an uncontrollable urge to jerk. This will develop into many different variations of kinks etc. chastity being one of them. Underneath the motivation to cum is still the strongest of all, outpacing the urge to serve by such a long shot, that in reality chastity is only a means to a very ironic end.

Personally, I have no sex drive left. The best form of chastity, and reinforcement of abstinence is children.

 

One thing I will share is if you are a HL person, exercising and getting back into killer shape "does not help". The only time it helps, which I was able to do this past weekend was if you exhaust yourself completely. To do that and to not have sex (the dreams of many I know), required working horses, cleaning 10 horse stalls a day (75-150lb of manure per stall for those that don't know), and then doing a fast walk 7.9 miles each day. Then and only then .... did the urge disappear ... for a little while.

Like a few other strong human beings that are male here .... I can't wait until I get my 6-pack back, and I can already tell from my partner has she is starting to smack, pinch and (since she is getting up earlier then me ... rubs her hand down my chest to nice places and saying oh my this is nice.

So if you or your mate's libido tanks are low ... take up walking and do exercise together ... it will help in ways you don't realize!

 

My wife would say high and I would agree. She likes to control it with chastity

 

Well me and my mistress have only got into this this week so all very new to us but i would say that one of the things that got me into chastity is i had a high sex drive and played alot on my own and it could also make me selfish in bed with my girlfriend so i thought this would be perfect to put her in control and let her have her put herself first then maybe if im good i get to play. I must say this site seems really good and we really enjoy being here and i look forward to what this new step can do for us. Opps i mean her lol

 

L-u-c-y it is high

 

When I got into TND, it was in college - and I suppose my sex drive was as high as the average male of that age.

I never thought of my waiting for permission had anything to do with chastity - the denial was simply a delay.

Over time, I willingly adopted an FLR lifestyle. Decades later now, and lockup occasional ... I have come to believe that because of TND, my sex drive has increased. But its not about me wanting more - my energies are channeled to a higher purpose in life.

 

Yeah me too. Was losing to many hours a day to porb, webcam sites, Skype cam groups etc. 4 hrs a day stroking wasn't n
unusual

 

Higher...very much higher!!

 

Hmm... How high is too high?
Insatiable

 

I would say on the high side. I would think of sex a lot...Now I still think of it a lot, but can't do anything about it unless my Wife lets me or is in the mood to tease me. I'm still not sure what made me bring this life style up to my Wife...But she loved it from the first time she clicked the lock shut. She has told me that this is the way it's going to be for now on. Caged 24/7.

 

Very high! Hence chastity drives me crazy

 

Saying for myself at 62 I have always had a high sex drive and still do. Before I was put in the wedding cage i was starting to piss off my Goddess with the asking for sex constantly. I love my wife,GODDESS, KH.and didn't want to take the chance of messing up a great thing we have. This is just one of the reasons I am in the wedding cage 24/7.
JUST A NOTE. Great site

 

Lower than Her's for me. i would say it's different for each submissive, with various rationale.

 

Very High Sex Drive, Mine has not slowed since I was 14.

 

Asking for sex constantly diffidently applies to me, and my dominant wife loves it. She just says no.

 

I would say high, but I've reached that age where I don't get fully aroused unless there is stimulation to the genitals directly. In the past, I could get fully hard and ready to go by looking at stuff, or thinking about stuff. In chastity (And Ive been at it long enough that it itself doesnt get me aroused) I can only get about 30% aroused by looking at stuff. I get more aroused when wearing a strap-on and having sex with the wife, but again, not as fully as with direct stimulation. With my keyholder, it's generally bdsm. If she's in the mood for cbt, I get unlocked and I do get hard and aroused, but she quickly starts beating on the hard parts and balls, so that doesn't last.

Having said all that, I would say that kept chaste as I am, I have a medium sex drive. Pre chastity, when I was stimulating myself and edging, I had a high to very high sex drive.

 

Strangely enough I've never had any sex drive. Not sure why. I do get aroused by my over the top foot fetish an masochism. Thank god i found a partner who is working with this on me by teaching me to pleasure her in other ways. Denial DOES raise my arousal level by a substantial amount though

 

VERY high. Even at 50 I could masturbate 4-5 times a day.

Now that I'm locked, I don't desire it at all - and I love it that way!

 

I think mine is higher than average. Chastity hasn't changed the level of my sex drive but it has changed how it's expressed. Relieving Princess from a feeling that she's obligated has made her a more active participant. Previously we had PIV when I wanted it. If she wasn't ready we would go through the motions without any real passion. Now she simply denies me which hightens the level of desire for (hopefully) the next time. Sex is different but more frequent and better than ever.

 

Im an excessive masturbator. Id jack off 7 to 10 timea a day. Now i dont cum for weeks