Girls who keyhole in otherwise normal relationships, what do you get out of it?

How long has the two of you been together..? Only you are able to dissect her character better. You mentioned that she brought up male chastity, wants you to adhere to it.. still longing for piv sex with you since you are attractive and have a big piece of meat downthere waiting to pound her clit to heavens.. but merely smirk when sex is suggested… maybe she wants to keep you frustrated longer building up libido for her.. if you are interested in the chastity lifestyle.. do as she is hinting..once the cage is on, there is no further question.. if she says lets do it, then do it.. ask her permission to cum.. If not keep it in within the balls..you found the right keeper literally..
many of us cant even erect dont mention cumming…

 

https://www.chastitymansion.com/for...and-relax-here-goes.46030/page-23#post-536963

Read this whole thread from page 1 and most of your questions will be answered

 

Welcome to the thrilling adventure of being caged. It is so frustrating and at the same time as my West Virginia State wife says - Wild and Wonderful.

 

One thing that is kinda concerning in you original post is you said one reason she wants you locked is so you don’t cheat on her. Has this been discussed further?

 

That thread has to be mandatory reading for all chastity newbies, chastised and key holders alike.

 

I've chatted with a guy on here who has been locked since before marriage. He doesn't post much but he chats. Really great guy. Anyway, his wife keeps him locked 24/7 and part of her reason for liking it is similar to that. Some women are just naturally jealous. Nothing necessarily wrong with that. You could be the most loyal guy in the world and your woman could still be jealous. If it makes her happy, go with it.

 

The fact that you are even entertaining this tells me that you, at least to some degree, enjoy being submissive to your woman. I've got a few decades on you and am here trying to figure out how to convince my wife to be like your girlfriend. However, I married my wife around 25 and if she wanted to cage me back then, I may have ran away (although probably not), but at the least I would have wondered if I was being foolish to allow it. I can tell you from someone who has been married for 20 years and "happily married" for less than that, that I think I could have been "happily married" for 20 years had I been in a situation like yours. I say embrace it, and enjoy the ride.

You have something that others on here don't have. By that, I mean your girl asked you to do this. Most guys had to convince their wives. In some ways, she is going to feel more obliged to keep it fun because it's her idea. I think you are lucky. It's just how you view the whole thing.

 

That's awesome to hear. I will recommend you listen to the Kink Friendly podcast. It was recommended to me by @knightly. The hostess is a pro-domme and she talks about how guys are slaves to their dicks and what guys really need. Find a few episode titles that sound good to you and listen to them. What you hear may resonate with you and help you understand how this is a good thing for you. PIV isn't everything - what matters is all that other stuff you talk about and that you are being fulfilled in other ways. I will also say that without the PIV, you are likely having a much more interesting and soul fulfilling sex life than most of your peers.

 

I'm no expert, but if you are having sex every night, just without your penis, then it sounds to me like she knows what she is doing and she has you right where she wants you. Again, I say "enjoy the ride" and don't ignore that thread I told you to read. It's long but it's enjoyable.

 

Are you sure she is really into the male chastity with you oralling her being the only sufficient way of sex for her..? Since she is craving for multiple orgasms .. i think your tongue will grow numb and stiff from the endless licking.. maybe she needs a better cock…maybe she wants some rough sex.. maybe she wants to push you to the brink of insanity.. maybe she needs her pussy fully filled up.. by another man.

 

@Andy88 - I like reading your messages often, but maybe you are a little too obsessed with cuckolding. AnonJohn97's girlfriend is just having a good time taming a lion. There's no indication she is looking to cuck him. Don't give the poor guy any unnecessary concerns.

 

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Cc mr john

 

First of all, you seem like a great boyfriend! The way you choose to do this because you love your girlfriend, even though you are madly frustrated, is commendable. It seems like you have a great relationship, and you are showing your love and respect for her for allowing her to lock you up. You have my deepest respect!

My impression is that the reasons for wanting to keep the man in chastity varies greatly.

I was the one to bring up chastity in our marriage, as I felt that my masturbation habbit really killed intimacy. Today, 2 years + later, it is clear that I was right. We are significantly closer now, and intimacy (both physically and emotionally) has improved greatly. My wife really likes practicing chastity, probably more than me. Of course she is better able to explain why, but I will try to sum up some of the reasons she has told me:
1) I don't think she gets off by denying me, but she think it is beautiful and romantic that I give my sexuality to her, despite my sacrifice.
2) She likes to see me frustrated. Sometimes it makes her excited, but most times she just thinks it is cute.
3) She says chastity makes her feel much more free. Often she will just decide that I will spend the evening watching her favorite show with her. Another example was just the other night: I tried to do a Sudoku (for more or less the first time in my life). When I was half done, she joined in. But we were to tired to finish it, so we went to sleep. The same night, my wife woke up and finished it. She later explained: "First I thought you had the right to finish the Sudoku you started, but then I thought: it doesn't matter because I want to finish it and we are practicing chastity, so I can do whatever I want!"

I think there might be more to the list, but these are some I know because she told me. And as you said, when I am frustrated it really helps to know that chastity makes her life better. She is the most amazing person I have ever met, so she really deserves that I keep chaste for her.

What I would think about if I were you, is where your limits are. My most important limit is that we are exclusive. I am happy that my wife 100 % agree.

 

Your girlfriend is not some fucktoy for your dick.

You will only be truly happy when she is, not when your dick is.

She knows this, wow, you are so lucky.

 

Ok, try this technique to give yourself pleasure while going down on her without PIV.

It's something I never used to do, I started doing it just to make her feel good while I was being denied while we were having sex under the covers, but it became part of what we do and now sometimes I even dry orgasm from it with her when she orgasms from receiving oral.

What is it?
Just making noises as if I was reaching a climax and cumming myself., even though to start with I wasn't.

When giving oral, when you feel her excitement rising, start moaning (but don't stop giving oral) in increasing intensity until she cums. All you're trying to do is to fake it, trying to convince her that you're reaching orgasm together. It makes it more enjoyable for her, after a while, you will both associate the noises with cumming to a climax, and cum together. You effectively reprogram yourself to orgasm not from any physical stimulation, but from the scenario of giving oral and making the sounds of cumming yourself. When doing this I often dry orgasm with her, and have occasionally ejaculated, but when that happens it's always more like a ruined orgasm.

What's interesting in our case was that before we seriously got into male chastity, my wife was previously quite reserved in bed and made little noise, but since I started producing noises on cue for her orgasm when giving her oral, she's become more vocal too!

PS.

Leave your penis out of this. Make her happy and make her believe you're happy, and you will be.
Yes, hard to get your head around before you've experienced the pleasure, but stick with it, it's worth it. (and there's no such thing as "never". You can always go back to the old lifestyle if you really want to)

 

@bondinchas that's a good trick. Unfortunately, I think this guy has proven to be a fake. He was called out on another thread and he has disappeared. I would save your advice for someone more worthy of it. But hopefully others will still read it and get something from it.