Freaking out--is this normal

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    This was an intense evening. My new device came and she invited a couple across the street for me to model it for them. This was being embarrassing.

    After they left, I told her I joined CM. She reminded me porn was off limits and I told her it wasn't a porn site but a message board for locked guys and their KH.

    She immediately demanded I hand over my phone and made me give her my pin.

    She had me she her what I posted and saw the private conversations I had with a few others.

    She asked why I joined and I said I'm still getting used to this and bed to work through a few issues and to vent.

    Then she told me by to tomorrow morning she wants a list of all my online accounts and passwords.

    Then, phone still in her hand she said "Let's see what you've been doing on Facebook."

    I just stood there. I started to say ask why and she said "Now would be a good time to be quiet boy."

    After a while she said "you were boring as shit until you went to college".

    So she was going back until at least my high school days.

    Then she says let's she asked for my password to my banking app.

    She just said I was doing better for myself than she thought.

    Then she said I'm sleeping on the couch bc she's had enough of me tonight.

    I asked her if she was mad. She said no, but more changes are coming.

    In a minute I'm going through my laptop and phone and make a list of all my logins and passwords.

    I'm really freaking out. Is this normal in a female led relationship.

    She says she's not mad but it seems to me that she's super pissed.

    I'm worried but I don't think I did anything wrong. Living with her during chores for rent makes things comfortable but I'm totally crazy about her.

    I got to get started with the list
     
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    Doesn't sound normal. Sounds like my ex wife
     
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    Jelly This Space for Rent!

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    I was thinking much the same!
     
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    Time to exit. Change all passwords ASAP. This has trouble written all over it.
     
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    Are you not concerned she will see this message and you are only making things worse? Her caging you sounds based out of jealousy and fear of cheating, which is fine if you accept the reasons and the rules. But the reaction would be coming from the same place, so this reaction is “normal” in that regard. You are already living a non “normal” lifestyle so whether you stay or run is up to you depending on how you feel about the rule changes. Give them fair consideration however and make sure she has your and her best interest at heart.
     
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    Did you just meet?
     
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    Q: Is my partner a narcissistic psychopath?
    A: Yes.
     
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    Couldn't agree more. This needs immediate action!
     
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    i think you gonna be in lots and lots of bother cos of moaning on here. please why have you got lots of login thingys and password and not tell Her.
     
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    Not to make waves as soon as I join, but...fake.
     
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    So last night as I started making the list I was getting more and more upset and more and more angry. First this was so unlike anything Queen Mona ever did before. Second we have an understanding of boundaries and this wasn't covered but one if the agreements was she would never give me money or take money from me. She might give her gifts but pet owners give gifts to their pets when the pet has been well behaved. So why did she want to see my banking accounts?

    I was determined to leave. It might be hard. She has my clothes locked up but if beat the door down.

    I didn't know where I was going. I own a trailer but it's being rented out until December. I'd figure something out until January.

    This morning when she woke up, she asked if I had the list ready.

    I said I did. She said "Good. Now throw it away."

    What?

    It was a test. She didn't care what music I listened to or what I buy on Amazon.

    I asked her why she made me give her my bank log on and password.

    She didn't make me. She asked me and I obeyed. I could have said no.

    She says that she wanted to know if I were broke and submitting for a place to stay or if I was submitting because I am a sub.

    She said I never looked so sexy as when I wanted to speak but kept my mouth shut because she told me to.

    She then says that I've stated I'm not a sub a few times, but I absolutely am. Only a sub accepts a cage with only a halfhearted objection. Only a sub would willing be shown off when he hates it.

    Finally I asked why I had to sleep on the couch. Because she was tired and wanted the bed to herself.

    Then she made me crawl to get and eat her out until she came.
     
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    Well, that's a mindfuck
     
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    Just exactly is your relationship like? Are you married? BF/GF? Just met?
     
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    Good luck
     
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    So, it's just one guys opinion (and this assumes this isn't fake) but as you stated she's tested your limits and now knows if she takes her time, she can own you.

    Not saying it's good. Not saying it's bad. But she now knows you will hand everything over, and she's defintely established dominance and since she's 'earned your trust' you will know knowingly and willingly give her everything.

    Be sure that's what you want, because since you gave it up the first time, it's going to be reeeaaallly hard to say NO to anything now.
     
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    Just to say that if Mrs Chaste ever wanted any of my passwords or access to my accounts then she can have them. We have been married for 30 years and still going strong! I see absolutely no need to ever hide things from her. With regards to money we have a joint account and various other "private" accounts. But none of them are secret between us.
     
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    Sometimes there’s not much else to say, is there?
     
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    I'm looking forward to when the mother-in-law wants to test his oral skills, and then peg him in front of her ladies lawn bowls team, before dressing him in a maids outfit and having him pretend to be a pony for her cart every Sunday morning to take her to Church where he is "forced" to orally service the catholic priest.

    Okay, I may have gone too far with pony bit.
     
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    You forgot the part about the glory hole in the truck stop and earning enough money to hitchhike home naked except for a chastity cage.
     
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