Does anyone else have to ask permission for things?

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    Last Wednesday, I asked my KH whether I could watch the football game Thursday night ( if I ask a day early, I am more likely to be granted the request). She told me that we will do something else until halftime. At that point, I could watch the second half. I am required to engage her and not be distracted by the fact that I was told that I couldn't watch until halftime.
     
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    I am instructed on some things, having to ask permission for them, but not most. I think she is smart to establish that rule as part of your training. She must see it as a good way to reduce your waste of time on things unimportant to her. Good luck and enjoy.
     
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    Generally no, but for some things I do just out of courtesy.
     
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    Each evening she tells me my bedtime. I have to ask to stay up later, and she usually says yes, unless I've upset her.
     
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    This one is kind of funny to me, because my wife will say she doesn't care... but when I ask sometime I get an immediate no... so she really does; therefore I always ask.

    For example, I am suppose to take my chastity device off when I take a shower before we go to bed... So I asked if it's ok if I take a shower at a specific time the other night. Without hesitation she goes "No, you should wait because I need to pump before bed" (she is breast feeding and pumps milk).

    But if she really didn't care, I'd be able to take the chastity device off early for a shower... but she obviously wants me locked... or I am over thinking it, but I still find it funny.

    I will also ask her if it is ok to have some drinks, go out, hit the gym, etc... There have been times where she ok'd me going to the gym, but said "but I you can't unlock". Makes me feel good she cares enough to say something.
     
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    It sounds about like you have a new normal. You wanted this, right?
     
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    I have to ask permission to unlock to have a shower but then it’s straight back on again.

    She hasn’t said no YET.
     
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    I have to ask for alcohol.

    I was up to drinking three double whiskys a night. Now I'm allowed maybe a beer every other night or so.
     
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    Nope! I just pretty much go my own sweet way in our day to day life! When it comes to chastity, there is nothing to ask for. I'm locked all the time and that's that! I do ask for the key every few weeks to swap my cherry keeper over for another one as they do need proper cleaning, but that's it!
     
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    My Wife allways says I dont have to ask. But if I dont aske her stuff I can feel she is not happy with that.
     
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    It turns me on so. Akin to asking permission for things:
    Daily, I go over my schedule with my Alpha for errands and chores around the house. She will prioritize tasks and add errands and jobs to my duties.
     
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    This might be part of me and Mylady's occasional "control" play. I described it in detail here …
    … and the two followup entries.

    Ciao
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    Over the past 3 years of our FLR, we have evolved on me having to ask permission. In the beginning, I had to ask for/about everything. Once we established some routine, we both understood what things She considers required. So, now, I don't HAVE TO ask on most things, but I still do out of respect for our respective positions inthe pecking order of things.
     
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    My Keyholder Wife, @MistressAMA, does have me ask for several things:
    * getting into Her bed at night
    * asking permission to climax
    * to get out of the cage (and report back to Her when i'm back in)
    * to change the channel if She's watching tv.

    This is enough for Her to exert control in areas She wants without becoming too much.

    asa
     
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    i has to ask pemission if it something new but i dont if its something that i have done a lot of times. if i did have to ask that i wud be asking all the time and not have time to do things.
     
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    Thank for the hot responses.

    Another one is:
    I have to ask permission, while in her bedroom, to put on night clothes. I prefer to wear something for sleep, but if she has to provide some aftercare, she will keep me naked and cuddle.
     
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    I have to ask to spend money, get in bed, or watch TV. I don’t ask about chastity because if she wants it off she will let me know. Any asking on my part is pointless.
     
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    Asking permission for things has been a part of our dynamic for quite some time. In the beginning my wife outlined a list of things that are completely off limits so I know not even to go there, for example, me having a Snapchat or even looking at Snapchat is completely forbidden due to the fact that she cannot read and see conversation histories on that form of social media. There is also a list of things that I do have to ask permission for…to list a few…

    - removing my cage (this is ONLY permitted for doctors visits, cleaning once a week, or for something that may involve metal detectors. Otherwise, only she can bring up the cage coming off)
    - alcohol
    - certain forms of social media (barring Snapchat and Fetlife, those are absolute)
    - spending any amount of money for something that isn’t a necessity.
    - video games
    - free time (she has first rights to my time for chores, errands and various other thing)
    - recreation outside of normal family things. (Eg. hanging with friends and such.)

    It is important to note that most of these things she is very reasonable and giving with but the protocol for asking each time is still expected and required.
     
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    What a great relationship you have. Do you have a bedtime set by your KH?
     
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    I actually do not have a bedtime. We discussed that a few months ago as a punishment but just determined that it would be too hard to follow through with. With kids, sports, CRAZY careers, and other various life happenings…the evenings are often hectic and quite unpredictable. We strive to keep things as realistic as possible. We have both found that one of the most important aspects of FLR, for us, is consistency. So, we try to titrate our expectations to things we can keep constant. It is such a great idea though!
     
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    Imo everything you do is a gift from your Mistress that she can take from you at any time. You should ideally want it to be this way to learn respect and obedience, and gratitude for what you are given. If the alternative to a football game is being hogtied on the closet floor all day instead, you will soon learn to appreciate those gifts even more.

    If I were you I would surprise her by asking to trade the football game for time spent as her footstool while watching her favorite movie instead.
     
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    When I put husband in chastity or announce he's under Discipline, he has to ask permission for some things. When he leaves my presence, he has to ask to be excused. He has to ask if I require anything if he gets home after I do. If he gets home first, he h as to drop what he's doing and ask if I require anything. If he goes to bed first (not usual, even if I'm on a funny sleep schedule because of work, I still usually go to bed with him. If he's in chastity, he can still pleasure me)
     
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    Nice. I always have to ask permission to get up from the table.
     
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    Funny enough if one of us finishes our meal first, the other wouldn't leave the table until both of us were done!
     
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    For me asking something like that is just rediculous.. ...
     
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