I've been curious for a while so see who from here make it out to their local munches? Being new can tough, and challenging. There are so many fears and uncertainties that come with making it out to your first event. However there are also so many great things that can follow from making it out to a munch or a party. I know there is always issues with privacy and I get that completely. I'm curious to know who makes it out to their local munches? Personally I usually make it out to everything I can. I guess I kind of have to as a former TNG Organizer, and a current organizer for our local Femdom munch. I guess my follow up is how have your experiences been at your first event?
I wish I knew about these kinds of events in my area. I just don't feel like signing up for X number more sites to find information lol.
it looks there are few (pending where you are) in the state of Kentucy https://fetlife.com/events/905144?sp=5 https://fetlife.com/events/904645?sp=14 https://fetlife.com/events/906307?sp=18 They seem to be all on hold this month due to the world ending. However I would high recommend checking them out.
I remember my TNG days... Now I'm your age and we're too old! Anyways, W/we don't do munches because they're so MaleDom-y. It's amazing that you have a Femdom munch. Were there a Femdom only space, W/we would absolutely do so. I know it's controversial to say, but the Femdom experience is diametrically opposed to the Maledom one. Keep fighting that good fight!
As someone who just recently aged out of 16 years of TNG I am sorry. The shift from the isolation of TNG to what the other munches provide is very different. You're sadly right when you say they're very "MaleDom-y." However I must say (at least here) we are starting to see that ratio shift a bit. I really hope you (and your partner) are able to make it out to other munches. It takes the lot of us to fight against the current ratio, and it takes patience to be a trailblazer to that. If you ever have any questions about the current "munch culture" do not hesitate to ask. <3 wylddreams
I have been to a few munches, and after this health scare subsides, I may attend one again! It’s nice to know there are like minded people out there!
I attended a few local Femdom munches in the dc area, in search of a prodom to help support my wife’s efforts as a lifestyle Dom. Through going we met Ms. L who I now see at least once a month. So I found going to a local munch very fruitful and fun and people were super nice and welcoming and supportive.
we been to some and the folks there are always nice and chat to you but some of the places that they have them are not very nice really.
That's awesome to hear that the ratio is shifting up there. Toronto metro has always been a great and welcoming city. I really do hope that shift starts happening at a broader level.
Madam and I attended the fetish market by us a few times, but we got annoyed at seeing so many good toys at over inflated prices, was good to be amongst like minded people though.
when things return to normal you should look into the local ClubFem chapter. They’re great folks who meet in Herndon.
Yes I attend munches and have even started a few. personally I think they’re a great way to get out, make friends and have a good time. They're scary the first time you go to one. And each one is different but all I’ve been to are welcoming and after you talk to a few folks you realize you’re with old friends you just hadn’t met yet! Now I’m even more kisses with this damn virus. I need my munches!
We have not tried any yet. But we are quite happy with the two of us. So no need for other people, sorry.
That's amazing! Sadly the health scare is currently shutting down 95% of the munches for all the right reasons. I know we have shut down all of ours here in Toronto. How have your experiences been with your local munches?
Have is the DC scene? I have a few friend's have been out there, but haven't heard much about it. I would love to M/sC one time. What are the play spaces like there?
We are bit lucky here were the three major munches (the ones that have 60+ people) have a pretty good crowd and have amazing organizers (say that with a bit of a bias). However sadly that is the case. You never really filter away the people that bring negativity to the scene. The best you can do is try to identify them and let others know. The "grapevine" is pretty strong here when consent violators enter our community Do you make it to many of the munches or mostly attend just the market? I know the UK has some phenomenal events. They can be pretty terrifying. I was lucky to be a TNG organizer for five years. Honestly all the volunteer work I have done for our community that was by far the most rewarding. Its nice because you learn everyone has a great first munch story. There are some similarities (i.e. if someone says "I had to take a few walks around the block before coming in to the pub for the first time") and these help people who are new understand that if that happened to them too than you are not the only one. The best is to focus on you were able to walk in the front door in the end. Never apologize for being happy with what you have. You don't owe an apology to anyone for that <3
No need to say sorry dear. We're not going because we have a different dynamic than what is expected of Dom/Subs in general and it works for us.
I’ve never been to one and not sure my wife would go anyway we do have one here in Buckinghamshire but it’s held in a pub so that’s out for now and who knows what will happen to them after all this passes.
I now been to several munches in 2 different cities in the Southeast USA. It was a little scary the first time and pretty humiliating when my turn to introduce myself and say that "I am Donna and I am a sissy". Being much older than most people there, I could sense a few chuckles, but all was in good spirit. Later, in the "Open Mingling" time, I had several people approach me with interest in my history and experience and what I was looking for. Among them was a femdom who mentioned that She had noticed my ladies jeans and my bra straps showing thru when I first walked in! I always suggest to newbies that going to a munch is a great way to meet other "kinky" folks!
Have people been judgemental towards the dynamic you and your partner share? If so I am really sorry to hear that.