Hello everyone I've been reading this forum for a few days now and everyone seems quite friendly and supportive so thought I'd introduce myself as I think I'm going through what a lot of people are on here. I'm married and been in a relationship for about 9 years (we're in our 30s). Sex was very regular at the start, however in the last couple of years it's become once every 2 weeks or so. She doesn't seem to initiate much sexual contact these days and we never talk about sex, but I think she can tell I love giving oral. In the last week I've made a real effort to stop masturbating and try to put her first. I haven't told her that I've done this yet, but I've tried to go out of my way to surprise her with things around the house that I wouldn't have done before (cleaning the kitchen/bathroom and folding her clothes etc), while she reads or watches TV. It gives me a good feeling to know that she's happy. I'm a bit nervous to tell her that my added energy and willing to do all this for her is because I'd like to be locked up and put her in charge of my release. I've also downloaded and started using Chastikey (without a cage on) as a bit of motivation to stay on track and see if this is something I really want before/if I do tell her. Sorry this is a bit long, and thanks for reading. I've never talked to anyone about this before so I'm hoping that joining this forum helps me discover myself a bit.
Welcome to our community. I hope your endeavor to find how chastity might work for you and your wife is successful. There are a lot of situations here, similar to yours, but each relationship is different. Finding how to involve your wife will be a challenge, but you seem to be taking helpful preliminary steps. Good luck and enjoy.
Just take it slow and don’t dump everything on her at one time. Start as game where you put it on Saturday morning and she keeps the key while you try to earn the release for the night. Let things evolve from there. You have to ensure that she knows you desire her and will be eagerly willing anytime she wants to unlock you. I wouldn’t even try to add anything beyond that for quite a while. Let her get comfortable with it and slowly work to the goal of her keeping you locked except for when she wants access.
Greetings Traveler! Welcome to The Mansion!!! Honesty is the best policy. After you see how you are effected by your changes... tell her about it and say I think this would also help. I would imagine she will notice a difference, but if she doesn't then it might not be for the two of you. Have fun with it though!
Thank you for your responses, that means a lot. I've been trying to approach this from two sides almost: 1. Try to make her see how good life can be the more submissive I am to her and slowly see if she can come around to being more dominant in general. At the very worst I'll be a better husband for it. 2. Start to expand our sex lives into something a bit more sensual and adventurous. I bought some massage oils so that we can set some time aside for this once every so often. Hopefully we can go from there into blindfolds, maybe tying up. Possibly even a lock and key and definitely something that vibrates (for her pleasure) in the future. The key to things (pun intended) seems to be doing it slowly and bit by bit for both of us. Do I sound like I'm on the right track?
Welcome to the forum! Yes doing the housework/cooking/cleaning and worshipping our girlfriends is quite a horny experience. I personally love it.