Coping Mechanisms?

Surrender and admit defeat

 

I do find myself thinking about fantasies tied to my chastity and submission, but often when i'm engaged with other tasks, like working out, or cleaning house chores, or yard work. Tasks where my mental concentration isn't strictly required. So I can pass time, imaging how it would go if i were allowed to serve a Domme or Dom, as a maid or be required to submit to maintenance spankings, or provide sexual pleasure while I remain caged. I think this is useful way to get through the task and mentally reinforce my submissive nature.

 

How is it a defeat? Being perpetually horny is great and keeps you focused on your KH. As long as horniness doesn't interfere with your work it's not a problem at all.

 

Actually, the perpetually intensifying horniness might even motivate you to be more productive, finish your work as fast as possible so you could get back home and focus all your energy into pleasing your KH.

 

There's no question you get more horny and think about it more when you're in chastity. That's part of the thrill of the ride...

 

i like singing i do and when Mistress is not home i am allow to put radio on when im doing housework and i sing wehn a song come on that i know and that help me to do all my work.

 

Yes, serving your Mistress should be fun and joyful, even if your sexual desires are running high because you've been locked up and denied. No matter how you make that service more likeable as long as it achieves the goals set by your KH.

 

Once you have become used to being in a familiar chastity device, the novelty wears off and your everyday life becomes less focused on chastity 24/7.

Sarah Jameson's husband John summed this up pretty well.

before Chastity ... chop wood and carry water
after Chastity ... chop wood and carry water

Of course your attention will as it has for years continue to center on your genitals and sex related matters from time to time throughout the day it just becomes less obtrusive. naturally the hornier you are feeling at any one time will affect the frequency and depth of feelings .. learn to live it .. but you can't really fight it. unless you can focus on other things to take your mind off it especially if you think you might be getting close to having an 'accident'.

Try juggling with chainsaws whilst they are running for example. or doing your tax returns.

 

It was pretty tough at first since I was used to playing around with myself almost two or three times a day... but it's been about 6 months & it only happens from time to time. I make sure I tell my wife when it happens and she will generally call me a "bad boy" and grab a thing or two. I think she enjoys knowing when I am feeling like this, she really milks the situation it when I tell her... I guess as you get older it is good to know your partner still craves your in a physical manner.

 

couldn’t agree more!