We started chastity to make our sex life work. (It was a disaster.) It made Hubby more submissive in the bedroom because it required him to let me control when and how we had sex and we continue using it because my being in control helps ensure the sex is special and wonderful for both of us when it happens. Typically about once a week. More importantly, it made him more aware of my feelings and emotions and taught him that the emotional connection and closeness is as important, in fact more important than the orgasm. He has learned to enjoy making love without the sex most nights. For us it didn't change anything about our lives outside the bedroom but that is just us.
My KH / wife has definitely noticed that I am more submissive when caged. She said just tonight that she has me right where she likes me so I'm not getting unlocked for a while. I have also noticed that I am more attentive and feel more submissive while locked and longing.
That was our experience. I didn't think I was submisive until after the first week of being caged. 5 years later, it's how our relationship works and neither of us would go back. It took her longer to enjoy being dominant as at first, I think she felt guilty. Once she understood I prefered it, she really began enjoying it and now it's second nature.
I always had submissive fantasies and desires, but introducing chastity has taken my submission further than I thought possible.
Not me! I'm not particularly "macho" though! The fact that I'm locked 24/7 and as close to 365 as we can get is submission on my part but I'm not a "yes mistress" type!
Porn would have you think that locking a cage on a guy will make him instantly submissive. I doubt it. If the guy has submissive tendencies, whether he knows it or not, I think those submissive tendencies will be enhanced, maybe a lot. He needs to be locked for more than an evening for those tendencies to become evident. Most important, is the attitude of the person locking him up. In reality, with the right attitude, a cage is not required to draw out submission. Chastity only helps to draw out what already exists.
Chastity makes me more submissive, but also hornier. My thoughts are constantly in My Owner. After my Owner locked me in, my affection and love for her deepened significantly. The fact that I am dedicated and locked will inevitably guide me to serve and worship My Owner.
I switch with my key holder, and find the physical sensation of being in chastity is a great way to stay in a submissive mindset.
When the penis is engorged in bed, i would be thinking of where to put it and what she has to perform on me.. it was leading the way no wonder males think with their smaller heads it seems.. when its disabled and confined and out of action..I better perform more with my hands/tongue on her.. and if shes not satisfied.. i better perform more.. without the dick.. so i would look more submissive, agreeable, docile.. on bed or out of bed..
I was already naturally submissive. I crave to be dominated but wife didn’t play the role often. Chastity is helping me show my submission in a real way instead of just in bed. Wife/KH seems to be more dominant the more submissive I become
Submissive? Not at all. Cooperative? Definitely! It clearly is an easy way to establish she’s in control. It’s also a much milder form of coercion than her other tools; recognizing that I tend to fall in line fairly quickly.