So we just passed the 19 month orgasm free - absolutely NO release - timeline for me! I have not had any release during this time - no ruin, no milking, no anything. I have been locked 24/7 and have only been allowed to change my full steel belt for a plastic cage twice for a week each time, during that time, when we travelled out of town. Both times were literally straight out of one and into the other - no other free time. Did I think I would ever get to manage that - No but with my wife having set her mind on my permanent chastity and denial as a "new norm" it has been possible. Without her absolute tenacity we (I) would have failed. My "travel" plastic device had broken during the last use and so was not going to be an interim device again. So when this week we went to a theme park and my wife decided that she did not want any issues at the entrance with the metal detectors, she said I would be free willy for the day! I could not believe it and was not sure how I was going to manage not doing anything wrong - the whole day! I knew I did not want to break the streak / run of 19 months and so I was on my best behavior, and managed to get through the day. Her being around the whole day helped a lot! When we got back it was back into the full BBCS and I can say mentally I was enormously relieved to be locked again and free from the risk of doing anything wrong down there. I say all of this to say; Am I happy with the choice we have made for me to be permanently locked and denied - YES. Am I happy to have given up my orgasms to please my wife's and to only give her pleasure - YES Will I ever go back to the ways things were - NO. It goes without saying neither will she!!! Did I ever believe I would be able to manage this and that she would stay committed to keeping me locked and denied - NO. Are we happier than we have ever been in our lives - A resounding YES! For anyone of you out there thinking about permanent lockup and denial - all I can say is GO FOR IT - it is worth every second!
And there was me just thinking how well I'm doing to be 30 days without orgasm! Well done, you sound like you've got an amazing relationship.
Amazing! I don’t know how you can stand not even being allowed an erection! That would drive me insane more than no cumming at all
Thats the exact road we are going down, I envy you. My problem is I fly 50-75 times a year to it an honour thing that she trusts me to be locked at all times. Off at check in toilet for the security as scanners pick up plastic shapes in some airports, then straight back on when through. I am at the stage I prefer the feeling of being locked.
Thanks! It was not "just an easy road" for me but with the determination of my wife - I have not had much option and together we managed to get it working. I am very much happier locked than not and the amazing thing is that I never actually believed I would be able to cope! I also realized this week that even if she said to me I can go free willy again - I would absolutely decline the offer! I never believed that I would ever be able to reach that mindset!
You didn’t say how much attention you get. Do you get any edging or sexual teasing or is it just locked and ignored? I’m assuming you sexually serve your wife in whatever way she desires
That's a complex question and maybe I need to expound a bit before simply answering; My wife and I have been at this chastity deal for a LONG time and only 19 months ago did I come to the realization that I was the one messing it up - toping from the bottom, worrying about my release, and what I could get out of it. It was then that it struck me that this was NOT about me and my silly desires, but about my commitment to her. As a result I then said to her I will permanently give up my orgasms for her pleasure, and she was delighted about this revelation and agreed to deny me permanently. We both understood that I had messed this up too many times before, and that the denial (and effective bondage) high was what I REALLY desired without any risk of messing up and experiencing the crazy low for a few seconds of climax. So, as much as I would like proper tease and denial session (edge to distraction) my wife has not yet agreed to do this, and to be quite honest I don't know if she ever will. This means I have got no penile stimulation other than being wonderfully frustrated in the belt for the whole period and as I noted before, I have only been out of the belt's tube/cage for maybe a minute either way while changing devices twice. She will not entertain any prostrate activity either. I have however given her a lot of pleasure and she has teased me verbally and physically in other ways to keep me on a high. Would I like more - YES - will I get more - at this stage NO - am I happy with this arrangement - certainly for now, YES - would I go back to me masturbating out of control and stuffing up our relationship - a definite NO - even if it means I get no penile stimulation again!
I am more than impressed. I am also very happy for you and your wife. Keeping her happy is the most important thing for sure. I cannot say I am quit as committed as you are. I probably only go for 1 to 2 months at a time before my wife allows me out of the cage. But I am only out for a short time and then she demands me back in. I admire you though and your commitment to your wife and to your chastity.
That’s great that it’s working so well for you. Do you meet her sexual needs, or is she not interested in sex even for herself? I find going without orgasms is way easier if I’m able to serve my wife sexually
Whenever she wants action of whatever nature I am more than happy to oblige - its one of the ways of keeping on a high - else there would be nothing to enjoy I guess. Left and locked is not my idea of a mutually beneficial lifestyle. She gets what she wants when she wants it and all the while knows I am not masturbating or "cheating on her" as she calls it, as well as my constant attention, and I get what I wanted the most to be denied and be on an "always high...."
Outstanding!! Congrats with this milestone and thanks for sharing! I'm locked too in a BBCS but miles away from 19 months lock-up.... Jealous!!
19 months is a long time. It's a little over 11 months for me, similar no orgasm or ejaculation. I feel fine aside from being insanely horny. How do you manage your horny feelings?
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