As Bad As I Want Out, I'm Getting Exactly What I Need

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    #1 John&Ann, Apr 14, 2023
    Last night was a first for Ann. She needed to come and for the first time ever, she never said a word about letting me out. We made her come and she went to sleep with me touching her.

    Best way to explain this to wives, as bad as we want out, we are getting what we need.
     
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    #2 JaySaysYes, Apr 14, 2023
    Yup!

    It's that beautiful and maddening duality.
     
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    #3 Doug Scibor, Apr 14, 2023
    And depending on where you are in your journey, she may have had feelings of guilt for receiving pleasure but not giving it.

    This is time sensitive! You must praise her for seeing to her own needs and deciding that yours could wait. Once you give her permission to orgasm and drift off to sleep, it becomes very powerful in her catalog of things she enjoys doing.

    Thank her. Tell her it was hot watching her while being denied and now you just want her even more.
     
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    #4 Shellysboytoy, Apr 14, 2023
    This is 100% on point. The first time my wife came with any discussion of my desire she told me she felt selfish and guilty.

    After the assurance, she now loves our roles.
     
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    #5 John&Ann, Apr 14, 2023
    She says we are doing it again tonight. This is getting interesting. What a rush when it becomes obvious she needs you locked in your cage.....
     
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    #6 littleguy3, Apr 15, 2023
    Rather than thank her because that will seem odd to a vanilla keyholder, try just telling her how amazing your intimacy was last night! Knowing how much you appreciate it will cement the good feelings for her too. My wife does not like to be thanked in these situations.
     
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    #7 547378263, Apr 16, 2023
    When I do something for my wife and she assumes I want something in return I remind her that when one is in love with another... really truly in love... you are willing to give with no expectations of anything in return except their pleasure. I tell her, "Her pleasure is more than enough reward... I love you"
     
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    #8 filltee, Apr 16, 2023
    Your body and mind needed to be conditioned into full time wearing of the cage over time

    Becoming a confident and assertive full time KH will take your Lady time too.
    Especially when you consider all she has to take in and adjust to
    Recognising her own limits real and imagined.
    And then yours.. as you both perceive them now and where she might want to take them

    Little steps... if its to be a successful life journey into a lifestyle there is no rush
     
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    #9 Lovelylife1, Apr 16, 2023
    How long had you been in chastity before this happened? Has she ever one to initiate before?
     
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    #10 John&Ann, Apr 16, 2023
    So far 2 weeks is the longest while we are apart. She seldom leaves me more than 5 days when we have access to each other. I would like to see her want longer.

    Time will tell.
     
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    #11 547378263, Apr 16, 2023
    What is the reasoning for seldom going more than 5 days?.. maybe find reasons for her to want to stretch that out some.
     
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    #12 Bronze Shroud, Apr 17, 2023
    Marriage. Marriage is a good reason. Marriage with kids is even better. Its not that people don't want to get together. It's just that you can't. Situations do not allow!
     
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    #13 547378263, Apr 18, 2023
    I may very well be wrong here but from my experience, and from what I was taught growing up...Unless you have a significant other who has no desire to participate in your chastity, I think marriage would be the exact opposite. It should , if its a healthy marriage make it easier. It did for me. Yes I agree kids can and do make life hectic and very demanding. But a cuddle in bed at night, grabbing a bunch of flowers on the way home from work, holding hands when you take those kids for a walk, cooking supper for a change, a hug and caress as you walk by are all doable. It takes work and thought and prioritizing, sometimes, yes shit happens and results in not today sweetheart sorry...that is life.. but you don't let those times take over.

    As for being caged, except for things like doc appointments etc. or work doesn't allow for it.. security issues, physically demanding tasks there isn't much that should interfer with having your cock locked up. If anything it will redirect your attention from a quick rubbin' one out to paying more attention to your KH. Which is what should be happening whether you are caged or not.

    But if I have interpreted John's and Ann's comments correctly..John/Ann please correct if I didn't.. that isn't the issue... the issue is that Ann can't leave him locked up for extended periods.

    Again if I'm wrong here please correct me and it's just my 2 cents...
     
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    #14 FrustratedHubby, Apr 18, 2023
    My wife still wants sex, so I get let out when it's convenient for her. My max is only 11 days (twice) but she usually let's me out for sex once a week. My penis is hers and she can use it as she pleases. I can't add won't say no. I would love to see what it feels like to go long-term, but I enjoy obeying and pleasing her more than anything.
     
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    #15 John&Ann, Apr 27, 2023
    That is correct, it is her decision 100%.
     
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    #16 littleguy3, Apr 27, 2023
    Does she do it so you can have PIV together? What is her primary motivation?
     
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    #17 John&Ann, Apr 30, 2023
    The way It motivates me to hold her as we sleep and to slow me down to when she wants it.
     
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    #18 Lovelylife1, May 3, 2023
    I more so meant how long have you been in this life style. My wife and i have been doing it on and off for a year or so but we've yet to be intimate without it ending in her getting me off.
     
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    #19 John&Ann, May 7, 2023
    about a year for us too. I don't always release but usually do because she seems to think she owes it to me even though I tell her I am just fine holding her.
     
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    #20 madams-sissysub, May 8, 2023
    Glad it’s all working for you!
     
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    #21 BavarianWoman, May 8, 2023
    Good luck for the future.
     
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    #22 littleguy3, May 8, 2023
    Could it also be that she finds it very arousing to give you a release and O and be reluctant to admit it? I'm finding my wife gets aroused after teasing or pleasuring me because she's very moist afterwards.
     
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