1 for '2'... A few strokes too many!

They do take a bit of practice. I found that initially providing feedback and communication with my wife allowed her to work out the timing. My wife is very pretty good as providing ruined orgasms with very little orgasmic pleasure for me.

 

This is exactly how I feel. Fantastic post.

 

I often found a tight band around the cock and balls provided a longer and closer edging experience. The extra pressure provided a focus point for him to resist spillage much longer than without. And eventually at the point of ruin, very little emission. The beauty I found was in his depth of submission after the fact.

 

you are both on a wonderful learning journey

 

I haven't any real experience in edging but from your description it sounds amazing. Your partner is indeed very lucky and you appear to have a really good relationship....give and take....Yin and Yan....perfection! Congratulations to you both

 

When my wife tells me to spoil it for her, it is up to me. My tease sessions involve a lick and a rub. I lick her pussy and ass to get really horny, and stand up, and rub little willy on her pussy and ass (see avatar), which takes me to the edge. I go back and forth, and then wait 4 or 5 seconds to see if anything happens. I repeat and repeat until it happens. She likes ruined orgasms because I stay horny, and I think she also likes for me to do my clean up duty.

Blog https://wordpress.com/view/imhersubmissivehusband.wordpress.com

 

When my Bride wants to edge me, it is an exquisite and exciting time for us both. She enjoys my longing for her touch and having total control of me. There are times when she has edged me for 15 minutes or more bringing me to the edge over and over. When she decides she is done, I am left reeling, physically exhausted, wet, and a bit drained, but no orgasm. The overall experience for me is like having one orgasm after another as she brings me to the edge and back each time. I recently got a number of different size bands as mentioned earlier by Mandy, and I believe it will make the experience all the more intense. I look forward to trying them.

 

Wow. Amazing how loving, sexy, and passionate you can make a ruined orgasm @Breathe . You were so descriptive I felt like a fly on the wall. Ahem, well excuse me while I go walk something off

 

One of the few times I have been in subbie space, crazy passionate do anything space, was after she gave me my first bleeding/ruined O. A few before that were just orgasms that I didn’t get to finish...this was different.

It just spilled out, a lot. I would have done anything. When she fed it to me by hand I was so lost in her that I did it eagerly and wantonly.

She was amazed at how desperate I was.

 

I've had this done to me a few times when gf/kh wants to, as she enjoys watching it strain hard for a few seconds and then start dribbling out. She ruined me 10 times once. She wanted to know if she could completely drain my balls until nothing more came out. As it's her cock and she wanted to find out, she did it. After about the 6th, it was really straing to drible the cum out. But it was still coming and running down my shaft. It was about the 8th it started to dry up and on the 9th it was a completely dry orgasm. So she did one more to make sure and make it 10. Then I was just left feeling really weird but very horny still.

 

It's very hit and miss and one has to rely on subbies reactions. I much prefer prostrate milking and with estim it's less work.

 

Can't go wrong with that plan

 

Hmm been toying (no pun) with the idea of estim. How long did it take to be fully ok with it?

 

When you say 'estim' do you mean something like a 'Tens Unit' around the penis?

 

yes I don't know what estim is either

 

Not long. It's just finding the best intensity levels and where to apply them.

@EdgednDenied Estim is the manufacturer. Tens units are mainly used for pain relief and have less intensity and control. When using Estim for milking, the penis should be caged in a plastic device.

 

You are the boss, so you are allowed to get greedy

This seems like it has been a very interesting learning experience for you both @Breathe @_and_smile. Great that some immediate communication allowed you guys to work through some unexpected feelings and made sure you were both still on track.

You guys are having a great ride, and I suspect it will only get better

Thanks for sharing

 

Wow, that was incredible. This is exactly why chastity gets me so hot. I can't wait to get my hands on a caged cock. And I love that you called it 'our shaft'.

 

@Mistress B do mean something like this? You have got my GF/KH interested.

 

@Breathe. The sweet spot for me is just left of any emission. The facial pain is such a buzz and a remarkable power rush. Hard to achieve of course but great fun trying.

 

I've been curious to explore edging and ruined orgasms with someone but I rarely get the chance to explore this. I did hear of an interesting technique I want to experiance which puts both the Domme and sub in control of the build up.

Not sure what it was called but I refer to it as a lazy handjob.

The sub is tied down spread eagle on a bed or flat surface. They should have enough freedom to thrust there hips up and down. This way they can provide the motion.

The Domme teases the sub just enough to get him hard but with minimal contact. Feel free to apply a cock ring and a generous amount of lube as preparation for the next step.

When he is hard and ready, form a loose ring with your thumb and finger just behind the head providing minimal contact. Now you can have fun while encouraging him to thrust up and down trying to build up the edge.

If he goes to fast squeeze harder or let go. If he goes slow he might be feeling close to orgasm.

He should then be at your mercy. Feel free to mess with him in any way you like. Maybe pinch a nipple to encourage him to go faster. If he still remains slow or stops then then he really is scared of going over.

This should give you the perfect foundations to experiment and find out what pushes him closer. Maybe a simple whisper in his ear is enough to push him over the edge.

I'll leave you to decide what creative ideas work best for you.

 

I dabbled in tease&denial porn on tumblr for a while, but was never able to make it work on an actual relationship, and posts like this remind me why. As I read it’s super hot if I imagine myself with some random woman or a professional dom, but an utter turn-off if it were someone I care about and expected to care about me.

I could be fine with it if I were the one pushing the practice, but would definitely have a problem if my partner were the one wanting to deny me pleasure and orgasms. I make it a priority to give her as much pleasure as she wants because I love when she feels good, but she gets off on purposefully denying me the same pleasure? Definitely not OK.
In that case she would be failing basic reciprocity, the basis of all healthy relationships.

Same goes for “punishment”, but in this case it would be even more serious. I mean, the thought of hurting her literally makes my stomach turn, but she is not only OK with it, but also gets sexual pleasure from hitting me? What in the hell? I would cut her off from my life the same second.

Anyway, hot post if that’s what you two are into.

 

I have experienced a few very effective ones - almost all have been with my hand 'on the controls'. Since its hard for me to judge exactly which stroke to let go, I can only imagine how difficult it is for someone else to make that calculation.

One exception, and my most memorable RO was my first one ... today I can look back on it and see she probably counted herself very lucky to have pulled it off that well.

It was during my college days while being introduced to TND by Ms. Robin. She 'allowed' me one O. per week - mostly it would be at her hand, sometimes mine. She insisted I consume all my ejaculate - one of the first 'rules' I had to agree to.
As she brought me closer & closer I thought I was going to explode - then she just stopped ... and after a few seconds a single droplet emerged.

As I remember ...
She swiped that drop off with her finger and put it in my mouth.
mR: "Okay, thats it for this week."
me: "What?!"
mR: "You are done. You came."
[a foolish] me: "I did not. That was ... I don't know what that was - but I didn't cum."
mR: "Are you arguing with me?"
me: "No ma'am."
mR: "Did you taste your cum?"
[ a resigned] me: "Yes ma'am."
mR: "You came."

I dont know how I survived the next week ... but I did.
And really, that experience is one of the cornerstones of me wanting this lifestyle.

 

That tension is so Yin & Yang ...
- the unstoppable force meeting the immovable object.
- what I want versus what I want more

I can attest ...
It is one of the most difficult choices I have to make - to say "stop now unless you want me to cum."

Suffice to say ...
Not saying that and having an 'accident' is a bad decision on my part.