Honor system or device

For myself the device is part of the fun. It's a constant reminder that I'm not in control .
I think the honor system is fine it just depends on what you are doing chastity for.

 

You should defiantly lock him up because he will become horney and desprate to orgasm depending on how long you want him locked

 

Personally for me the honour system doesn't work. I would always have a cheeky wank. A chastity device gives me a sense of being owned and controlled which I love. My wife fully controls if when and how I cum. I don't think that would happen without being locked. The device is a constant reminder of my wife's ownership of her cock, it no longer belongs to me. Just my 5 cents worth. U get use to the bulge and the device becomes a part of you. I also think i never get this horny when unlocked. Being locked takes u to the next level. Can I ask who wants the honour system Is it you or him?

 

I'm in day 34 of an honour system agreement and it's working for me

 

Honor system works for short term for me, but I will be the first to admit that there’s no way I could go long term without touching it.

I will also add it adds a different dimension when even erections are no longer your own decision.

Good luck

 

The answer will depend on your lifestyle, practicalities, length of lock up, and level of self-control. I use the honour method as cages are not compatible with my work, sport, and having young kids around the house. It took a year to get the required level of self-control and "lock ups" are never longer than 7-12 days (I reach peak horny-ness around day 5), though they may be ruined orgasms. No cage is much more practical than using a cage, and also makes it far easier to tease.

 

I'm sometimes on the honour system. As already mentioned, sometimes it's the practically of it. You need a lot of self control, especially in those moments when it feels too much. The edging is increased when using the honour system as I'm allowed to and told to edge as often as possible, when not being done to me. So the frustration and arousal is increased. The teasing is much easier aswell, she likes nothing more than cockteasing and getting me hard. I won't let myself cum without her permission. She would know anyway by my change of mood and the eagerness of my (her) cock for attention.

 

Only one way to go ....Device

 

Whats the longest he's gone without orgasm for and how new to this are you?

 

I've gone for months on the honor system, but nothing beats a cage. It just isn't the same at all for me. Without a cage if my wife doesn't want me to cum I don't, but I can still get hard. But when I'm locked up, I am totally aware of my chastity, I can't even get hard, let alone cum. My advice, lock him up and be done until you decide in August.

 

Device as for me I cannot be trusted!!! My wife much prefers me locked too

 

hiyas, both work for as I can't lock full time but both are a challenge.

 

I would suggest locking him then u absolutely know he hasn't cum.

 

It all depends on the individual and their libido. The first week after I'm allowed an orgasm is the absolute toughest for me. Once I make it past that point I'm golden, I was just recently locked for one week and then left unlocked for two and I was good the whole time. Now it's week 1 again and I am struggling big time and can't wait for my full belt to arrive.

Even with a ball trap device it's still possible for most men to pull out of it. In my opinion it does 2 things. (1) it serves as a reminder as to not "do the deed" and (2) when you get hard in it you can't pull out of it. So you really have to be determined to cheat the system and think hard about what you're doing before you make a mistake.

There are many devices out there to try for for fit and comfort. My first device which was a Holy Trainer showed a bulge because of the design of the lock. I've have two other ball trap devices that are made of steel and neither were obvious when worn with work or casual clothing.

I do believe the honor system can work for some but honestly a cage make it more fun. There's something about being locked and having a key flaunted in front of you that makes chastity so much better. Just my opinion...

 

I would suggest cage when you are not around. I am currently going through a situation where I am trying to convince my KH that I would like to be caged when she is not using it but she doesn't understand, it's easy to honour the honour system when we are together but it's awful hard when I have time to myself, I struggle with it.
My KH also enjoys seeing it and touching it when she chooses, she enjoys feeling it when we cuddle at night, and I'm all for that, it's hers to use as she sees fit but I would like her to lock it up when she is not around so I can't touch it and I am reminded of her dominance.
Just my opiniom

 

Exactly!

 

We did the honor system for almost 2 years, until it became apparent that I was being "dishonorable"! That's when She installed the cage, which was closely enforced for several months. We discussed it at great depth over many months and have come to an arrangement in which I am caged each morning when I step from the shower and remain so until She gets home for work - just to prevent my wanking. I am then released for the evening and on weekends, when we are together. While it takes a little more effort on both our parts, it provides an element of physical control while ensures that we trust and respect each other. She really felt that my wanking while on the honor system was more about distrust and dishonor than I would have ever thought. Now, I know!

 

For me about day 2 onwards. I love her property in the cage. I now truly dislike being unlocked. Unless it's by my keyholder for her use

 

The cage is by no means foolproof. I have given myself an orgasm while locked with a magic wand. The most effective chastity device is between his ears. The cage is very good at doing a number of things. First off once you are horny it's a strong reminder that nothing is going to happen. It's also a physical reminder of your commitment, like a wedding ring. Finally the act of unlocking is a powerful thing. It's like taking a dog off a leash.

I could never do the length of denial you're looking for without a cage. Maybe your husband can? If you're talking 2 - 3 weeks I could see it, especially if there is a fixed date you can get to. For me I'm locked with no idea when or if I'll be allowed an orgasm. If I was unlocked and really horny I would fail. Obviously as I failed when locked before. I would fail a lot more though.

If nothing else I would strongly urge you not to worry about the bulge. I remember when I first wore a chastity device I walked around sure everyone must be able to tell. At some point I realized that most people simply don't even look at other people's crotches. Even if they happen to look that way it's almost unheard of that they're going to analyze it. I wear my cage everywhere. I swim laps and go to the beach with it on, I wear it under work clothes while walking around construction sites, I wear it to fancy dinners and casual parties. No one notices.

 

My wife has no desire to put me in a cage yet. The honor system seems to work for us, but it's her decision.

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I find on day 1 I'm horny straight after the 1st edging session and want to cum (but don't), day 2 I'm horny but frustration is kicking in and day 3 after intense daily edging, I get really frustrated and horny. That's when it all really starts to happen. Sometimes you feel you've got it under control and can handle it, but then it comes back at you where you would do anything to have an orgasm. It might be a good idea for a device when you're not around. I need one sometimes.