Honor system or device

I haven't been fortunate enough to be caged for that long but when I am I can usually last 7-8 days before I at least need to be milked depending on how much edging I'm allowed.
I hope your pet knows how lucky he is to be locked up for that amount of time.

 

Great question! Lots of independent threads discussing this - I'm sure you will come across more than a few in your travels around CM. Have fun reading!

For me ...
The Honor System is how I have operated for 30+ years. My wife wants all my O's to be in her presence and I find myself able to oblige ... mostly.

2 weeks is about the average I have to wait - but it can be as long as 16 weeks. I never know how long it might be. I may not ask, imply, complain or beg - just wait silently until she says okay.

After a long wait, one single O (or a ruined one!) is never enough (and she knows that). If there is a long wait right after that, the temptation can become too great (and she knows that too).

Yes, there are 'consequences' if I cave in - but sometimes my desire simply comes to outweigh anything else. Occasionally, my discipline simply isn't enough.

I didn't think the amount of times I caved in was that many ... but she did.
I now have a Lori's Device.

 

I personally couldn't succeed on the honor system Even though I would want to be a good sub. For this reason I am locked in to the Looker 2. I like it and she wants it that way

 

I'n now a month, a week and a day into my honour chastity and still in control of it.

There's been temptations, sure, but when there are you just focus on your Goddess/Mistress/Owner and think o her needs and desires and her disappointment if you failed.

Roll on 2,2 and 2...

 

I have tried both.......but for me the device is the only system that truly works!

 

Do you get edged, if so how often, or required to edge or complete denial.

 

Using a device actually involves a different mindset from honor system denial. We've used both, and my wife prefers using the cage because she doesn't want any part of the decision to be up to me. That is, for her, it's the difference between "You won't" and "You can't."

Obviously there are other considerations: it takes time to get used to wearing one, and there are all these little things you need to learn, like cleaning, keeping it comfortable, etc. Guys think that they can slap it on and go for months, but it doesn't work like that.

 

No edging. I'm allowed erections, indeed they're encouraged. But no further action.

 

Funny that, because I'm having the opposite done to me. That is, my erections are now being controlled through my device. A bit of a 1st for me as I'm used to daily edging and erections. The game has been changed for a while.

 

Mistresses, eh? A cunning lot, thank heavens....

 

To edge or not to edge?
That seems to be the question.

Before the Lori's, my wife knew I 'entertained' myself. Her take on it was: if you want to drive yourself crazy, be my guest - but you better not have any ''accidents'.

Still working out the details with the Lori's - so there is still a large part of the honor system in place.

She never used to ask if I caved in ... and knows I will tell her the truth.
She asks me now ... so cage or not, I better be able to answer 'no' to that question.

 

We used the honor system for a while and it worked. I did "backslide" a few times and paid for those. Over time though i started having wet dreams again--at my age! That's when the decision was made that "we" needed to do a bit more to help my control. So a new level.

 

I've only had one unprovoked emission to date, after forty days, and nothing for about three weeks. I thought there might be more after the first one.

 

I have done honor system for a few months at a time successfully though my wife was way too generous with orgasms...she felt obligated to make love to me every 3 - 5 days with a few stints of 7...we are trying to get back into the swing of it and I am trying to convince her that we really should make love 2 or more times per week, but that I should only orgasm once or twice per month for ideal attitude and attention on her. Slowly getting through...she's finally making the connection with my behavior and that not cleaning up is nice too...

 

Oh yea, and it can be challenging requires some attention to your thoughts and habits to keep hands off...but I do love having actual erections all night versus the cage. Cages are an awesome amazing dynamic but there are also advantages to the honor system.